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Well I looked at the profile pic of the OP and she's definitely attractive. I don't see anything wrong in going for it. Many couples who are married met each other at work. Our director in my office a few years ago dated and married a woman who had an entry level job at the company but they've had a very happy marriage. The only thing that you need to be careful about is the way in which you express your feelings and it probably wouldn't be a good idea to reveal too much of your fantasy too soon.
Thanks for all the input! Some of it was helpful, some of it made me laugh, some was kind of dumb...but it's all good....
First of all let me say that women of course feel attraction to men? That was one of the dumbest things I heard on here Fox-that we can't.....maybe the women you know are cold as ice but that definately isn't my problem!
We don't really work in the office...we have different locations but I can't really say what it is we do.....I'm not worried about being labeled an "office tramp" lol b/c theres no one else I would sleep with and I'm only doing this temporarily.
Also, I brought up the politics thing just because me and him are very different and we argue somewhat about things (in a friendly way) but I kinda of like that about him....men that actually challenge me is a turn on. I guess he's good looking....he's not really the type I would usually go for but like I said, there is something there...called chemistry...I guess....
So yes..I think in a few weeks when this job is over I might try a little something something....lol....and I'll just be checkin him out til then. He just makes me very nervous when I'm around him though and I hate I have to work so hard to control myself.......and not let the attraction show to others.
Moderator cut: cut I read the whole thread, and never was sure if he was married or not. Is he? If so, I would stay far away. If not, then when he is no longer your boss you should pursue it if you are still interested. Get to know him better before you sleep with him, though.
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Thanks for all the input! Some of it was helpful, some of it made me laugh, some was kind of dumb...but it's all good....
First of all let me say that women of course feel attraction to men? That was one of the dumbest things I heard on here Fox-that we can't.....maybe the women you know are cold as ice but that definately isn't my problem!
We don't really work in the office...we have different locations but I can't really say what it is we do.....I'm not worried about being labeled an "office tramp" lol b/c theres no one else I would sleep with and I'm only doing this temporarily.
Also, I brought up the politics thing just because me and him are very different and we argue somewhat about things (in a friendly way) but I kinda of like that about him....men that actually challenge me is a turn on. I guess he's good looking....he's not really the type I would usually go for but like I said, there is something there...called chemistry...I guess....
So yes..I think in a few weeks when this job is over I might try a little something something....lol....and I'll just be checkin him out til then. He just makes me very nervous when I'm around him though and I hate I have to work so hard to control myself.......and not let the attraction show to others.
If you want to pursue him, my advice is to use this time before the job is over to build a decent friendship. After all, it'll be in your benefit to have him like you platonically to begin with. Then, when you two are no longer coworkers and he's about to walk off into the world never to be seen again, do whatever you plan on doing to attempt to seduce him. If he bites, then woohoo! If not, well at least you won't see him again.
If you will see him again though (ie: same social circle, frequent the same places, will work together in the future), then I'd wait for him to make a move. These waters are tricky. Show that you'd be open to his advances, but don't wave it around on a banner.
Mixing business with personal lives is not really a wise thing to do. Obviously that will happen with everyone at some point, but trying to hook up with the boss can go south in a lot of ways.
I'd say when the job is over or you or him move on elsewhere, then I'd bring it up.
If you get rejected or if an affair gets going and then goes bust, then it's going to make an uncomfortable work situation.
In general, I think that is one element of society that is missing these days and that's boundaries. Work is for work. Wanna have sex at work, be a porno star, it's not hard to do.
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...and not let the attraction show to others.
If not, well at least you won't see him again.