Anyone else feel that dating is a hurdle for Blacks? (girlfriends, man)
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I am finding it a mission to live a normal, happy life in this city. The dating circle here seems so dead and limited to me. I have never had this much trouble finding someone to do something as simple as go to a movie. But lately, I have been forced to go to the movies alone or with the same friend since I moved here. Its been over 5 months and I've yet to get a movie date out of anyone. Weekend after weekend I have no date.
It seems like many of the men here are more interested in going to a bar, if that. The number of flaky people I've encountered here is mind-boggling. The men seem all 'ooo wow' about me, but cant ever get around to setting up something meanigful. And when they do, it usually turns out they are just using me. Either as arm candy, or for a free ride...its never genuine.
I usually date Hispanic men and occasionally, Black and White. The Hispanic men here are totally indifferent. They seem to view me as some kind of 'alien'. Like...'oooo, I never been with a Black person before'. The Black guys...well they are no different. In fact, I haven't gone on a date with a single Black guy here because they act so flaky! It never leads up to anything. I've also encountered numerous Black men who had reservations against other Black people. The White guys....they seem too shy to approach me. And if I do, they just say a few words and then just walk away.
I just cant live this kind of life. Im not desparate for a man, but if its going to be so hard just to get a friggin Friday or Saturday night date, I don't want to be like that. As much as I want to see a particular movie, it hurts to have to go alone again and again. The men I have met in San Antonio, they seem to have no interest or desire to do something outside of a bar.
So my question is: if you're non-White/Hispanic, are you destined to have a dead dating life? Because after 5 months, it damn sure feels like it
Everything seems perfectly normal to me!! Wow, SA has it's own dating thread....
I don't really see how the color of your skin can keep you from finding a date. I also don't see how a city can keep you from getting a date either. I think maybe it's you? Hmmmm.
Wow, I'm sure someone is enjoying all this attention they're getting!
Honestly, what one person's undateability has to do with San Antonio is beyond me!
But it's nice that so much advice to the lovelorn is being offered.
Next we'll be hearing from Sleepless in San Antonio...
The OP clearly needs to look within to find the problem. It's so bothersome to read an 11 page thread where blame can be placed so readily onto everything except something within.
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