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chubby/fat and/or have atleast 1 kid? I feel bad rejecting them but these are my preferences.
Why feel bad? There are men who actually love what you don't. I know men who are really hardcore with chubby girls. There's someone for everyone in this world. I'm sure these girls won't miss you at all!
Why feel bad? There are men who actually love what you don't. I know men who are really hardcore with chubby girls. There's someone for everyone in this world. I'm sure these girls won't miss you at all!
A while ago, I had broke out of my "preferences" briefly and was much more lenient on a mans weight. I felt badly that I was being so shallow-minded and not being open. I will not ever again date a man that is fat. Know why? Their sedentary lifestyle drove me nuts. They lacked energy to do things, even something simple like going to the beach - why? Because they didn't feel confident in their body to be seen in public and they couldn't handle the heat/sun. Their very unhealthy ways and the amounts in which they ate drove me bizerk (junk, junk, junk) and their thought processes performed like junk, but their attitudes and personalities were great ....when they did not feel depressed! Offering suggestions to help them after they've said they *want* to lose fat and get into shape and wanted help and a starting point - this was a total joke and they were nothing but defensive when they heard very simple things that are involved in achieving this. It was like telling someone they had to strip naked, set themselves on fire and walk 100 miles through Death Valley without water. Excuses, excuses galore. It's like trying to talk to an alcoholic who hasn't hit bottom to stop drinking. Then, onto health problems - one of them had such health problems and was a walking time bomb. No thanks, not ever, ever again. Having experienced what I did, I am more reluctant and closed minded than I was before for the simple fact that I want to be with a man who loves and respects his body. I want someone around to do things with and to be healthy together.. I want it to matter to him how I take care of mine because he cares about the same things. There are so many factors outside of "vanity," than I ever expected and was not prepared for with dating big men.
I do not intend to offend anyone at all, these are only my feelings and observations based on my own experiences dating heavy/obese men, for as short lived as that time was.
OP, you are totally justified in your preferences whatever they may be, as we all are.
A while ago, I had broke out of my "preferences" briefly and was much more lenient on a mans weight. I felt badly that I was being so shallow-minded and not being open. I will not ever again date a man that is fat. Know why? Their sedentary lifestyle drove me nuts. They lacked energy to do things, even something simple like going to the beach - why? Because they didn't feel confident in their body to be seen in public and they couldn't handle the heat/sun. Their very unhealthy ways and the amounts in which they ate drove me bizerk (junk, junk, junk) and their thought processes performed like junk, but their attitudes and personalities were great ....when they did not feel depressed! Offering suggestions to help them after they've said they *want* to lose fat and get into shape and wanted help and a starting point - this was a total joke and they were nothing but defensive when they heard very simple things that are involved in achieving this. It was like telling someone they had to strip naked, set themselves on fire and walk 100 miles through Death Valley without water. Excuses, excuses galore. It's like trying to talk to an alcoholic who hasn't hit bottom to stop drinking. Then, onto health problems - one of them had such health problems and was a walking time bomb. No thanks, not ever, ever again. Having experienced what I did, I am more reluctant and closed minded than I was before for the simple fact that I want to be with a man who loves and respects his body. I want someone around to do things with and to be healthy together.. I want it to matter to him how I take care of mine because he cares about the same things. There are so many factors outside of "vanity," than I ever expected and was not prepared for with dating big men.
I do not intend to offend anyone at all, these are only my feelings and observations based on my own experiences dating heavy/obese men, for as short lived as that time was.
OP, you are totally justified in your preferences whatever they may be, as we all are.
People who eat junk food, excessively eat, and don't exercise are generally lazy and lack energy so I agree with you.
So I am assuming you also care about your body to look good.
chubby/fat and/or have atleast 1 kid? I feel bad rejecting them but these are my preferences.
Own your preferences, but those seem more like prerequisites to me. Especially is you dont go after those women regardless of how cool they may actually be. Jus sayin
Holy hell this is an old thread, but do you. No different than women requiring whatever it is they require in a dude.
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