Checking your partner's browsing history? (celebrities, internet, conversations, feelings)
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I do the same thing I have controlled it a lot and I snooped for the first time in along time. We had an agreement that he would tell me or ask if it was ok to look at porn. I would say yes as long as ur honest it dont bother me. This time he came home from a work trip and I had a feeling so I snooped. And indeed found porn and I gave him every chance to tell me but he didn't, I haven't confronted him about it yet because of the fear of an argument. Simply he lied to me and broke my trust. How do I confront him with out him getting defensive and just denying? I know its normal for men to watch porn, its just disrespectful to lie about when you came to an agreement. Its not that hard to tell your woman the truth about this stuff, lieing leads to snooping and snooping leads to a fight. Both partners are wrong but we need to be honest with one another or there's no point.
You SAY it's about him lying about it but that doesn't wash with your behavior....you'd REALLY be okay about it if he told you that he "partook"? Because you know what guys do when they "partake"....right?
I do the same thing I have controlled it a lot and I snooped for the first time in along time. We had an agreement that he would tell me or ask if it was ok to look at porn. I would say yes as long as ur honest it dont bother me. This time he came home from a work trip and I had a feeling so I snooped. And indeed found porn and I gave him every chance to tell me but he didn't, I haven't confronted him about it yet because of the fear of an argument. Simply he lied to me and broke my trust. How do I confront him with out him getting defensive and just denying? I know its normal for men to watch porn, its just disrespectful to lie about when you came to an agreement. Its not that hard to tell your woman the truth about this stuff, lieing leads to snooping and snooping leads to a fight. Both partners are wrong but we need to be honest with one another or there's no point.
What else does he need your permission to do? I am not saying looking at porn is right or wrong, that's an individual decision. He is an adult male and should be able to make his own decisions about looking at porn. Did it seem extra daring for him to look at porn on his trip because he didn't have to ask your permission? Why do you need to know if/when he looks at porn? Were you affected by it as a child/young person in some way that you feel you need to control his viewing habits?
If this bothers you that much, you are going to have to admit that you snooped and found porn and what does this mean. It may mean that he is not happy with having to ask your permission to view porn. You might have too renegotiate this rule. I have to say that I think that your snooping also violated some trust in him (even if you found porn on his computer). Why couldn't you just ask him if he had watched porn on his trip or whether your agreement needs to be modified?
He's supposed to tell you every time he looks at porn and jacks, or asks permission to?
That's just nuts.
This.
Looking at my browsing history today would show you I visited match.com. Why? Because I missed the "X" on the forced advertisement on WWFs.
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He's a grown man able decide whether or not to watch pornography BUT
She should be able to make an informed decision on whether or not she wants a partner who looks at porn. So if he's sneaking it he's denying her that choice and that's not ok.
OP, if you don't like it, leave him. And let me tell you things like that escalate. He's not going to stop.
We don't get to choose our partners sexual fantasies. It's porn, he's not having an affair. Honestly, I don't know how some men put up with their prudish, repressed, controlling harpies.
I do the same thing I have controlled it a lot and I snooped for the first time in along time. We had an agreement that he would tell me or ask if it was ok to look at porn. I would say yes as long as ur honest it dont bother me. This time he came home from a work trip and I had a feeling so I snooped. And indeed found porn and I gave him every chance to tell me but he didn't, I haven't confronted him about it yet because of the fear of an argument. Simply he lied to me and broke my trust. How do I confront him with out him getting defensive and just denying? I know its normal for men to watch porn, its just disrespectful to lie about when you came to an agreement. Its not that hard to tell your woman the truth about this stuff, lieing leads to snooping and snooping leads to a fight. Both partners are wrong but we need to be honest with one another or there's no point.
He has to ask your permission first? How humiliating. And now you want to confront him like a naughty child ready to be punished.
I do the same thing I have controlled it a lot and I snooped for the first time in along time. We had an agreement that he would tell me or ask if it was ok to look at porn. I would say yes as long as ur honest it dont bother me. This time he came home from a work trip and I had a feeling so I snooped. And indeed found porn and I gave him every chance to tell me but he didn't, I haven't confronted him about it yet because of the fear of an argument. Simply he lied to me and broke my trust. How do I confront him with out him getting defensive and just denying? I know its normal for men to watch porn, its just disrespectful to lie about when you came to an agreement. Its not that hard to tell your woman the truth about this stuff, lieing leads to snooping and snooping leads to a fight. Both partners are wrong but we need to be honest with one another or there's no point.
He needs your blessing and now has to come clean?
I'd have a two word response for you. The only one who agreed to this is you.
If I trusted my partner so little that I felt compelled to snoop like that, the relationship is probably already coming to an end, anyway.
Same for if someone did that to me--not that it would yield anything. For one thing, password protection is my friend, both on my laptop and my phone. No one gets access unless I provide it, not even a boyfriend. If I die, my sister will find the information on how to access various and sundry in a fireproof box in my closet.
For another, even if I provide access, like if someone is visiting and needs to borrow the computer to print something out (boarding pass, etc.), I clean my browsing history, search history, and cache right before I close my browser, every single time, so there's nothing to find. I also clear my search history on Facebook after every search (keeps the system from sending me "targeted" garbage at the expense of things I might actually be interested in), and I tend not to hang on to emails, messages, text messages, and other forms of communication. (I currently have only one social media string going, and if I die, some of you ladies are in trouble. ) Once I figure out how to operate it, I will actually be subscribing to a VPN, so no one will be able to track me from the outside, either.
Anyway, if a partner wants to snoop on me, he'll have to do some forensics, and if I find out about it, I will kick his arse to the curb so fast it won't have time to bruise. If he doesn't trust me, he has no business being in a relationship with me.
My paper journal, however... oh, some people will find out what I really think when I die, boy howdy. You know, in case being left out of the will isn't enough of a hint.
I was hurt recently. I had suspicions of him hiding his phone for about 7 months of so. So I decided to look into what he was up to. Something
I didn't want to do because I felt bad for snooping. As I pulled up his history the more sick to my stomach I got. Lots of different feelings overcame me. He was looking at threesomes, models, female celebs even the weather channel woman. I did confront him what I did I was angry mad sad hurt felt like I had been cheated on. I told him not to hide things from me anymore. All he could say is sorry. And nothing else was said as I laid crying there in bed all night he knew I was hurt by this. For weeks I was crying my anxiety was so high my thyroid was so swollen and out of wack. So 4 months has past since the events I had another suspicion last night I seen him google how to delete internet history God I'm hoping this isn't happening all over again.. I can not go Thur this pain again I'm starting to recover from this nightmare. What am I to do????? I shouldn't have to bring this subject up again.
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) Once I figure out how to operate it, I will actually be subscribing to a VPN, so no one will be able to track me from the outside, either.
