no sex outside of relationship...thoughts? (dating, long-term, women, love)
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So I'm 29, and my dating policy has always been no sex outside of a committed relationship. I'm going to stick to it, because I think it's a good policy that keeps me from being used and avoids unnecessary heartache. But I was wondering what others thought about that or what your policy about sex is? And I'm interested in hearing from mature adults not college kids. Thanks
So I'm 29, and my dating policy has always been no sex outside of a committed relationship. I'm going to stick to it, because I think it's a good policy that keeps me from being used and avoids unnecessary heartache. But I was wondering what others thought about that or what your policy about sex is? And I'm interested in hearing from mature adults not college kids. Thanks
If this had been successful for you, I'd say: Stick with it!!!
Casual sex is really not for everyone. Especially when it comes to women as they are very emotional creatures.
I don't have a strong opinion either way. Whatever floats the boat. I've had some casual sex during my dating days, but I much preferred having it with someone whom I've a relationship with.
If it works for you, that's great. I have no problem with not waiting. Some people may not want to be in a committed relationship. Should they go without? Nah.
So I'm 29, and my dating policy has always been no sex outside of a committed relationship. I'm going to stick to it, because I think it's a good policy that keeps me from being used and avoids unnecessary heartache. But I was wondering what others thought about that or what your policy about sex is? And I'm interested in hearing from mature adults not college kids. Thanks
This policy will serve you well - you are very smart! Sex with someone you are in love with is in a whole other league than just sex for physical pleasure
Casual sex outside of committed relationships has only caused heartaches. Aside from a few random hookups that had no meaning, One 6 month "fwb" with a well-hidden crazy turned woman aout 5 years ago really hurt the most!. She lead me on and I was reeling over another broken relationship the year before, messed up.
All I can say is; moving to a new place; changing jobs; new start, new life, was what turned my life around. That included quit drinking and looking for girls.
Anyway hope some of this rambling helps! Only in bad times when esteem was hurting or depressed, did I indulge in those types of things!
But I was wondering what others thought about that or what your policy about sex is? And I'm interested in hearing from mature adults not college kids. Thanks
I probably wouldn't be considered a "mature adult" at 24, but then again I didn't act much like the typical college kid in college, so take it or leave it I guess.
I'd say my sexual behavior is close to that, but slightly less stringent. It's fair to say that I often sleep with someone before I'm in an explicit and well-formed long-term relationship with them, but it's almost always when that's where the relationship is headed (and has ended up 3 out of the 4 times).
That 4th time was the only "one-night stand" dead-end sexual experience I've had (there was no deceit, we both knew that's what it was from the start), which is not an experience I want to repeat because the emotional hangover from it was not at all edifying. Keep in mind 4 is the total number of sexual partners I've had, so we're not talking about a large pool of experiences here...I didn't need that many to discover that sex within a serious relationship is the way to go for me. Short-lived flings are overrated.
Last edited by Backliteyes; 05-25-2010 at 09:46 PM..
So I'm 29, and my dating policy has always been no sex outside of a committed relationship...But I was wondering what others thought about that or what your policy about sex is?
I think your policy is fine since it works for you. Freedom means freedom for everyone -- people should make their own decisions about their sex lives as they see fit. You have found something that is pleasing for you and that's good.
I'm now in my 40's. When I was single my policy was always no sex unless I know her/their first name(s)...or at least her/their stage name(s). My policy served me well.
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