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Married men be warned: Don't enjoy yourself too much.
Research shows that if you're happier than your wife, you could soon be heading for the divorce courts.
Economists have identified a phenomenon called the 'Happiness Gap', which states that the bigger the difference between spouses' satisfaction levels, the greater the risk of a break-up.
This isn't the least bit surprising. If the man is happier than his wife than maybe his wife is unhappy, no duh unhappy women are going to file for divorce more often.
There was news and an article about this in another god-forsaken divorce thread where the determining factors for happiness has everything to do with each person's expectation levels about the marriage. Women, more than men, have higher 'romantic' expetations and those expectations in longevity. Men have different expectations or less 'romantic' expectations and there is where you get the distiction between men and women and who's exectations were burned to the ground first that determines if a person is happier in a marriage. All too often, as well, women are conditioned to see 'the wedding' and not 'the marriage' and that also causes some bad expectations.
I think this whole thing is kind of ridiculous. If a guy is going to get married, why would he marry someone that he wouldn't want to keep happy? I mean, go out of his way to keep her happy. I suspect too many people get married before they realize just who the other person really is, they don't see the little red flags waving in their face, 'cuz they're in love (really they are in lust). How many people today will date each other for, say, five years before getting married. Moving in and living together doesn't count. I look back and see a lot of mistake I made when I was younger, and mistakes my friends make, and some of them are still making the same mistakes. Most people don't learn, or are not willing to learn, from someone else's mistakes. Experience is the greatest of all teachers. One thing I can say with certainty, it is worth the effort you put into keeping your wife happy. Don't marry a woman that no one can keep happy. Or, to put it another way, ladies, don't marry him if he has habits you don't like and mannerisms you can't stand. If he isn't romantic, and isn't willing to listen to your concerns now, he never will be. Ok, I'll get off my soap box and shut up.
Where in any of the vows I exchanged or witnessed did it mention anything about happiness? To be unhappy as a reason for walking out on a marriage is stupid foolish. Now if there is a legitimate reason to divorce (cheating, or abuse) then yes divorce.
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