I did pole-dancing classes for almost 2 years and LOVED it!
It's really tough and really trains your muscle. The first half a year was especially tough because my back muscles were weak. I had to ask my trainer to adjust my workout regime and focus more on my back & arms cuz I was having such a tough time in my pole-dancing classes--I actually needed to work out more OUTSIDE of my pole-dancing class to strengthen my back muscles so I could handle the level of physical intensity in my pole-dancing class!! hahaha
But once you get it it's amazing fun and you'll feel really accomplished.
It's like ballet (in terms of the physical demand). You need to have a lot of powerful force and extreme muscle-control to make the moves look elegant and graceful.
If your boyfriend doesn't think that deserves respect... then he's... weird, to say the least.
My boyfriend loves it.
He thinks it's sexy, it's beautiful, and he understands that it's very physically challenging and appreciates it.
More importantly, he loves it cuz I love it.
He loves it cuz it makes me happy and it's something I want to do, and he respects and encourages me to do what I want to do because he wants the woman he loves to be happy.
He loves it because it makes me happy, and he wants me to be happy.
Your guy sounds insecure and manipulative. True...he never "SAID" you couldn't do it, but he did it in a manipulative, passive-aggressive way. A way he knew would work.
He is STILL BEING passive-aggressive and manipulative NOW.
And you gave him permission to do it.
You gave him permission to treat you with his passive-aggressive attitude.
You train other people how they can treat you.
And also....Nobody can make you feel how you feel unless you ALLOW THEM TO.
So you allow him to manipulate you into not doing something you wanted to do and making you feel shame through his passive-aggression.
Both of you guys should communicate. It's not just about the pole-dancing class, but about how you communicate your wants and needs.
And girl, you shouldn't be with a guy who makes you feel how you are feeling.
If he truly loves you, he would think FOR YOU, and think about what YOU WANT and what makes you HAPPY and put that before his insecurities and bullshxt.
If he is wonderful in all other ways, very clearly tell him that you don't deserve his manipulative passive-aggressive attitude and tell him that you would appreciate him if he can understand this and understand that you deserve to do what you want to do because it makes you happy.
If he thinks lowly of pole-dancing, that is HIS issues that HE needs to work on. Not yours.
You will, however, forgive his issues and help him work through those issues--After your come back from your pole-dancing classes.
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Just wanted to add 2 videos of pole-dance performances.
Show your boyfriend this and let him know how OUTDATED his view of pole-dancing is.
1. Tango Pole-dance:
This is a couple who has combined Tango with Pole-dance....like combining 2 of the sexiest dances in the world.
It's beautifully done, and both dancers are amazing (esp. the guy!)
http://www.youtube.com/watch#!v=UWxc...os=uvEW5gLE2LY
2. Felix:
One of my fav pole-dancers in the world. This girl is INTENSE.
She was Miss Poledance Australia (and 2009 Miss World Pole Dance)
This is my fav:
http://www.youtube.com/watch#!v=ia0u...eature=related
It's a celebration of physical beauty and physical power.
If this isn't artistic, beautiful, sensual while exhibiting an extremely high level of athleticism, I don't know what is.
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