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If I'm in a committed relationship with someone, my mind doesn't wander to other men during "alone time". To be honest, if I'm with someone, I don't really feel the need for "alone time". Time alone? yes.. but alone time, in the reference that this particular forum sugguests, no. I'm getting enough sex if I'm in a relationship. And if I'm not, I'll talk to him about it, rather than stoop to looking at trash online or whatnot and disrespecting our intimacy.
I don't think the argument that women are offended if men are fantasizing about other women is the subject at hand. I do believe I, along with others think along the lines of it being an emotional betrayal, even if it is just a physical release for the men, if it's their men. Is there anything wrong with a man, any random single man, masturbating? ...no. Is there something wrong with him doing it and hiding it, when he's in a sexually active and (allegedly) trusting relationship with you? In my mind? ...yes.
That's the difference between eating out, and coming home for dinner. If a man's alone, he's got to eat somehow. It's sad, but it's understandable. If he knows he has a wife waiting for him at home that made dinner - he should be making a bee-line home after work, and not browsing the dollar menu at McDonalds.
But none of that can be put to use right now. I'm back to being single.. so I'm kinda lost for a direction to take with my "alone time". None of the guys at my new job will "fit the bill", here. So pardon me, I'm gonna go take a bath. And think about Lionking.
If you can say, say it. If you use alone time, define what is going on in your mind. Do you fantasize about a particular man?, do you fantasize about someone other than your boyfriend or hubby if you have one? Or do you not fantasize about a guy when using *alone time*?
I want to know because reading the threads about "my guy looks at, hides porn", women who are against it say they want their guy to think and fantasize about them only always and forever.
So let me ask, do you think and fantasize about your one guy always and forever? Seriously, when you are alone with Mr. vib or Mr dild*, or whatever your method, is your man who you are commited to in your mind always?
Well, in my "alone" time I have lots of things to think about besides sex, lol.
But to answer the question I think you are asking I'll repeat what I've said here on this forum before...my man IS my fantasy. No one else intrigues me, inspires me, excites me like he does, always and forever
Interesting so far that the women who say they absolutely never fantasize about another man , are the same ones who are outspoken critics about their guy potentially looking at a vid or pic sometimes.
Although it was mentioned that it may make her feel "emotionally betrayed", the funny thing is a guy looking at a vid or pic isn't feeling any type of emotional fantasy to who he is looking at. All his emotion is still to his special other. At least for most men I assume.
Interesting so far that the women who say they absolutely never fantasize about another man , are the same ones who are outspoken critics about their guy potentially looking at a vid or pic sometimes.
Although it was mentioned that it may make her feel "emotionally betrayed", the funny thing is a guy looking at a vid or pic isn't feeling any type of emotional fantasy to who he is looking at. All his emotion is still to his special other. At least for most men I assume.
hmmmm...don't lump me into that camp - the shoe does not fit. So who ARE you talking about???
I'm with you Ceece...don't necessarily need to think about anyone, just enjoy the fun.
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I had the impression some women are like that, these replies makes me believe more. I think most guys can't do that though, just enjoy the fun. Guys need a visual stimulation which then imagination starts.
One girlfriend once told me about how a vacum cleaner really does it for her, I was like what? Don't know how a fantasy goes with that. So I watched her with it one time, and helped, but I think the feeling was it, from it, not some man fantasy or even me there lol.
Yes I can just use my imagination and or past good memory to get it going, but a visual helper is just so much better.
Alone time is very naughty time and definitely not PG13
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And if I'm not, I'll talk to him about it, rather than stoop to looking at trash online or whatnot and disrespecting our intimacy. 
None of the guys at my new job will "fit the bill", here. So pardon me, I'm gonna go take a bath. And think about Lionking. 
What's in my head is between me, myself & I. 
