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Old 07-18-2007, 04:07 PM
 
Location: Just a few miles outside of St. Louis
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This is a touchy subject for me, (more so, when I still went to church). When I was a kid, one church we attended insisted that females should wear nothing but dresses, all the time, even outside of church. Working in the outdoors a great deal of the time, with horses and cows, this didn't make much sense, and my folks got into fights about it, because my dad started to get into this nonsense. Needless to say, my mother told my father to take a flying leap!

Fast forward a few years later. I was attending a little church, with my daughter, who was a young toddler at the time. On Sundays, I wore a skirt and blouse, but on Wednesday nights, I wore nice slacks, (not jeans, mind you, slacks. I felt this made more sense, because my husband worked 2nd shift, and I had to drive by myself. Figured if I had a flat tire, it would be a heck of alot easier to change, dressed in pants, instead of a dress), and I was actually pulled to one side one Wed. evening, after services, by the pastor, who asked me not to wear my slacks, because the older ladies in the church were offended! Because I was young, (about 21 or 22 at the time), and somewhat unsure of myself, and had been taught all of my growing-up years, to be respectful to my elders, I didn't tell the old cats what I thought of such judging on their part. I simply stopped going to that church. I sure wish I had had the nerve to really tell them what I thought. I would now!

But, after that incident, I did learn to wear what I wanted. Another church I went to, some years later, I wore skirts on Sunday mornings, but they were Western-style denim, complete with conchos, and a pair of cowboy boots. And, on Sunday nights, and Wednesday nights I wore jeans and boots, or tennis shoes. I know some folks weren't pleased with my clothing choices, but by then I didn't give a flip, and I would have told them off, had they been so bold as to tell me what they thought. Fortunately for them, either they were too polite, or I was giving off enough of an attitude, that they didn't go there.

I believe one should be reasonably respectful in a place of worship, and not wear sexually revealing clothing, or clothing with nasty words, etc., on them, but casual clothing, in and of itself, does not bother me, and I seriously doubt that it bothers God, either. I have no patience with the attitude that some folks put out there, that you're not quite good enough for God, the church, and especially them, if you don't dress to the nines. I believe that our Creator is interested in our heart, not our garments!
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Old 07-18-2007, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Metro Detroit, MI
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This is a touchy subject for me, (more so, when I still went to church). When I was a kid, one church we attended insisted that females should wear nothing but dresses, all the time, even outside of church. Working in the outdoors a great deal of the time, with horses and cows, this didn't make much sense, and my folks got into fights about it, because my dad started to get into this nonsense. Needless to say, my mother told my father to take a flying leap!

Fast forward a few years later. I was attending a little church, with my daughter, who was a young toddler at the time. On Sundays, I wore a skirt and blouse, but on Wednesday nights, I wore nice slacks, (not jeans, mind you, slacks. I felt this made more sense, because my husband worked 2nd shift, and I had to drive by myself. Figured if I had a flat tire, it would be a heck of alot easier to change, dressed in pants, instead of a dress), and I was actually pulled to one side one Wed. evening, after services, by the pastor, who asked me not to wear my slacks, because the older ladies in the church were offended! Because I was young, (about 21 or 22 at the time), and somewhat unsure of myself, and had been taught all of my growing-up years, to be respectful to my elders, I didn't tell the old cats what I thought of such judging on their part. I simply stopped going to that church. I sure wish I had had the nerve to really tell them what I thought. I would now!

But, after that incident, I did learn to wear what I wanted. Another church I went to, some years later, I wore skirts on Sunday mornings, but they were Western-style denim, complete with conchos, and a pair of cowboy boots. And, on Sunday nights, and Wednesday nights I wore jeans and boots, or tennis shoes. I know some folks weren't pleased with my clothing choices, but by then I didn't give a flip, and I would have told them off, had they been so bold as to tell me what they thought. Fortunately for them, either they were too polite, or I was giving off enough of an attitude, that they didn't go there.

I believe one should be reasonably respectful in a place of worship, and not wear sexually revealing clothing, or clothing with nasty words, etc., on them, but casual clothing, in and of itself, does not bother me, and I seriously doubt that it bothers God, either. I have no patience with the attitude that some folks put out there, that you're not quite good enough for God, the church, and especially them, if you don't dress to the nines. I believe that our Creator is interested in our heart, not our garments!
Totally understand and agree 100%!! My Grandma had the same thing happen years ago (for wearing a dress with sleeves that went above her elbows during the Mojave desert summer ) in a Pentacostal denom and she never returned to church. She still served God and stayed the same sweet woman, but she had enough of the gossip and backbiting.

God doesn't care if we are wearing jeans to church. Period. Anyone who thinks otherwise is hung up on religious tradition, akin to the Pharisees...and we know what Jesus told them!
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Old 07-18-2007, 07:58 PM
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Location: Durham, NC
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for me i since i moved to my current church i've only dresseed up twice. once for my 1st time and this past easter. i'd say it was about 50/50 on who dresses up and who dont.

as long as your trying to connect with god, he could care less whether you are in a stacey adams suit or a white tee with rocawear jeans.
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Old 12-27-2010, 11:24 AM
 
Location: Newark, DE
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Dressing up on the Lord's Day????? Ok, let me start off by saying every single day that we open our eyes is the Lord's day! Church has become a fashion show, a social gathering, a gossip building and the list goes on and on. I grew up in church and my mother always wore fancy suits with matching hats. I never saw the point in being so fancy for a few hours. Now that I am grown, I don't go to church because I feel as though the church is not what it should be. Yes, come as you are can be taken in so many different directions. What you wear does not stop your blessings so if you decide to wear jeans and sneakers, do it. Just remember, sister sheila and bishop jackson will be talking about you tonight on the gossip hotline
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Old 12-27-2010, 12:40 PM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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People at my church wear everything from dresses and suits to jeans. Nobody cares. Nobody should.
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Old 12-27-2010, 07:00 PM
 
Location: North Central Ohio, to be exact :)
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It recommends that people wear nice clothes. As usual, no one listens to the priest.
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Old 12-27-2010, 08:23 PM
 
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Cool me too...

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My vote is for the casual attire, come as you are approach....formal "dressing up" was always a huge turn-off to me, and a big reason I never went to some churches. I want to see the real person, not the white-washed version...

Bud
I loved Church and Bible study when I was young, but all I can basically remember about sitting in Church with my family was feeling 'stuffed' into my suit and strangled by my tie and getting thumped in the head by my father if I wasn't sitting up straight...omg, who could think straight w/that horrible black tie choking me. I couldn't concentrate on anything but freaking out. Oh...sorry 'bout that...lol
Koale

Last edited by Koale; 12-27-2010 at 08:27 PM.. Reason: spell check
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Old 12-27-2010, 08:38 PM
 
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Do you believe your god only looks at his flock on Sunday? Ya'all go about this all seeing, all knowing god, which means he sees you in the shower, making love, sitting on the can, making love solo version, and everything else.

Certainly going to church is not an exercise in vanity and the dress is for the rest of the congregation, though I bet it can provide plenty of material for the busy body gossip crowd.

OMG!!!!! did you see what she wore last Sunday?
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Old 12-27-2010, 09:43 PM
 
Location: North Central Ohio, to be exact :)
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Do you believe your god only looks at his flock on Sunday? Ya'all go about this all seeing, all knowing god, which means he sees you in the shower, making love, sitting on the can, making love solo version, and everything else.

Certainly going to church is not an exercise in vanity and the dress is for the rest of the congregation, though I bet it can provide plenty of material for the busy body gossip crowd.

OMG!!!!! did you see what she wore last Sunday?
I doubt anyone believes that, but most churches I've seen teach that the building is the "house of God" like the Jews believed the Temple was, so if you were going to be a guest there, you should look nice.
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Old 12-28-2010, 07:01 AM
 
Location: A great city, by a Great Lake!
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Why should God care how we dress? The point is to worship, not a fashion show. I dress for comfort when I do go. Jeans, and a nice shirt. I hate wearing ties, and our dress code at work is pretty relaxed, so why should I dress up for church if I don't dress up for work?
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