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I wasn't sure whether to put this on the dating thread of the relgion thread...so I decides to put it here. For all you Christians...would you date someone who didn't believe in God and/or wasn't religious? Same with the atheists...would you date a Christian? How about if you had a kid...would you allow them to date someone who didn't have similar religion beliefs?
Reason I'm asking is because there's this girl who I use to work with. She's really religious and her dad is a pastor. We get along really well, however we don't have similar religious beliefs at all. She knows that I'm not at all religious, but she has asked me to go to church with her at least once and I told her I would just to make her happy. I have told her previously that I have no intent or interest in becoming religious. What is the reason she has asked me to go? Could be be trying to get me to become religious...possibly because her family wouldn't be accepting of her being friends with someone who didn't believe in God? I just don't understand why she'd want me to go to church even after I told her that I have no interest in it. The only thing I could think of is that she is hoping to change my mind.
Would you date someone who didn't have the same religious beliefs?
Yes I would. Love is truth in my book.
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What is the reason she has asked me to go?
Church is THE major social gathering for those who are extremely religious. It's no different than her wanting to take you to the mall.
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Could be be trying to get me to become religious...possibly because her family wouldn't be accepting of her being friends with someone who didn't believe in God?
Possibly. Is being a theist THAT scary to you? Sounds like your atheism isn't on very solid ground if it is.
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I just don't understand why she'd want me to go to church even after I told her that I have no interest in it. The only thing I could think of is that she is hoping to change my mind.
That could be the case, or it could just be a case where she really likes you alot.
Sounds to me like you and your girl should have a really deep talk about this religion stuff. Let her know what your views are and allow her to share her's. Most atheists were raised as theists; so there's most likely a reason why you found out that you are a non-believer. Why don't you share that experience with her? She may not agree with it, but at least she would understand.
I wasn't sure whether to put this on the dating thread of the relgion thread...so I decides to put it here. For all you Christians...would you date someone who didn't believe in God and/or wasn't religious? Same with the atheists...would you date a Christian? How about if you had a kid...would you allow them to date someone who didn't have similar religion beliefs?
Of course I would.... on both counts. No sarcasm intended, but someone saying they are Christian means virtualy nothing in todays society. There are many people who are Christian for no other reason than they were raised with that label attached to them. No big deal. They live perfectly secular lives. I could even deal with someone who is mildly religious. It's the fundies that you should turn tail and run away from if you aren't the same way.
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Reason I'm asking is because there's this girl who I use to work with. She's really religious and her dad is a pastor. We get along really well, however we don't have similar religious beliefs at all. She knows that I'm not at all religious, but she has asked me to go to church with her at least once and I told her I would just to make her happy
That was a mistake imo. You are who you are and shouldn't compromise that for anyone or for any reason.
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. I have told her previously that I have no intent or interest in becoming religious. What is the reason she has asked me to go? Could be be trying to get me to become religious...possibly because her family wouldn't be accepting of her being friends with someone who didn't believe in God? I just don't understand why she'd want me to go to church even after I told her that I have no interest in it. The only thing I could think of is that she is hoping to change my mind.
The bolded text above could be possible, but isn't very likely. You did say that this girl is very religious herself right? If it was just her family and not her, then I would say yes, but the thing is, religious people have this obsessive need to "save" everyone around them, they can't be content with just their own salvation. There are cases where the theist/atheist relationships do work, I think there is even a pretty staunch atheist on this board who is married to a Christian, but I would recommend that you sit down with this girl, tell her about you atheism { not just that you aren't religous, but that you are atheist } and see where you stand at that point. Be polite and firm all at the same time, telling her that you have zero plans on changing you mind. If she's still interested after that, go for it. If not, your better for it.
Just being a Christian and attending church can mean many things, depending on how deep her beliefs go, how fundamentalist and evangelistic the church is, etc.
For instance, a fundamentalist Christian will likely not want to date a non-Christian because the bible tells people not to be unequally yoked to an unbeliever.
However, there are plenty of happy couples with differing faiths as well that get along great.
The devil would be in the details. Have you asked her whether she would date someone with a different set of faiths and beliefs?
I personally haven't asked her if she'd date people with different beliefs, but I know one of my co-workers told her that we should date and she said it wouldn't work out because we have different beliefs.
That's mainly why I made this thread...was to see if it's a normal thing for Christians to not wanna date people with different beliefs.
While on the subject, I had a small talk through texting. I wanted to talk about it in person but she didn't seem to want to. I did manage to find out that she accepts me for being Atheist and that she didn't wanna change me, but when I asked the same thing about her family...I didn't get a reply. Eh, oh well.
I personally haven't asked her if she'd date people with different beliefs, but I know one of my co-workers told her that we should date and she said it wouldn't work out because we have different beliefs.
That's mainly why I made this thread...was to see if it's a normal thing for Christians to not wanna date people with different beliefs.
While on the subject, I had a small talk through texting. I wanted to talk about it in person but she didn't seem to want to. I did manage to find out that she accepts me for being Atheist and that she didn't wanna change me, but when I asked the same thing about her family...I didn't get a reply. Eh, oh well.
I've thought about this before & I guess it depends just HOW different. My mom wants to to find a good
Christian women. Sorry mom. I guess she hopes I'll see the light & put away my Pagan ways. I don't think I could date someone whose goal was to convert me.
I've thought about this before & I guess it depends just HOW different. My mom wants to to find a good
Christian women. Sorry mom. I guess she hopes I'll see the light & put away my Pagan ways. I don't think I could date someone whose goal was to convert me.
I definitely agree. If I feel that their main goal is to convert me, then there is no chance that I'd date them. With that said, I think it's safe to say that it's probably best to date someone who has the same religious views as you do.
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