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When Janet Belland and Mitch Zukowski decided to get married, they scoped out venues ranging from the Surly Brewing Co. to hotel ballrooms to the Minnesota Boat Club. One place they never bothered to check: a church.
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The couple’s decision reflects a seismic shift in modern marriages. For centuries, nearly all marriages took place in houses of worship, in ceremonies honoring both the bride and groom and their creator. That tradition has eroded dramatically in just a few decades.
Religious institutions hosted only 22% of weddings in 2017, according to a survey by the Knot, a leading wedding news website. That’s a swift decline from the 41% in 2009.
Twenty-four years ago, my wife and I were married at a cabin, and there was nothing at all religious about our ceremony. But neither of us were raised in anything resembling a religious tradition, so it wasn't reflective of any particular change on our part. My wife's grandmother even attended - almost thirty years earlier, she had been adamant that the wedding of her daughter would be a Catholic ceremony or she would not be attending. My future in-laws went through the motions for sake of family peace even though they had no use for religion even then.
I must say, perhaps the most enjoyable wedding I've ever attended was one in which the officiant was a local famous-for-being-famous celebrity of minor note named Fancy Ray.
Twenty-four years ago, my wife and I were married at a cabin, and there was nothing at all religious about our ceremony. But neither of us were raised in anything resembling a religious tradition, so it wasn't reflective of any particular change on our part. My wife's grandmother even attended - almost thirty years earlier, she had been adamant that the wedding of her daughter would be a Catholic ceremony or she would not be attending. My future in-laws went through the motions for sake of family peace even though they had no use for religion even then.
I must say, perhaps the most enjoyable wedding I've ever attended was one in which the officiant was a local famous-for-being-famous celebrity of minor note named Fancy Ray.
the only thing that counts is how the parents take care of the offspring. Time and safety hide a comedy of errors.
parents that turn unfit people lose on us are far more of a concern to me than how they got married.
To an extent, this is a manifestation of the erosion of conformity enforced through social disapprobation. Today, people feel far more free to eschew religious rites for which they have no (or less) use. In the past, when the social consequences were more severe, this wasn't as easy.
In a nutshell, it's no longer politically incorrect to get married without all the trappings of piety.
To an extent, this is a manifestation of the erosion of conformity enforced through social disapprobation. Today, people feel far more free to eschew religious rites for which they have no (or less) use. In the past, when the social consequences were more severe, this wasn't as easy.
In a nutshell, it's no longer politically incorrect to get married without all the trappings of piety.
You don't need churches for marriage.
People married for thousands of years without churches, and those big Medieval cathedrals you see?
Commoners weren't allowed to get married in those.
The less role churches play in people's lives the better off people are.
"renting" a traditional church for a wedding is really, really expensive.
AND reserving a Saturday in June takes a 2-year advance notice.
that might be one reason.
yes, our church does all the wedding variants, and we make money
on non-members using our sanctuary. since we do not allow alcohol
or "fake" replicants our requests have dwindled to a reasonable number.
still, get in line. first opening is March, 2021.
Technologically, we've expanded beyond anything we've ever had a right to hope for. Christianity's mortal enemy is technological advancement. When the Internet arrived it was the death-knell for Christianity in particular and religions in general. If, God forbid, we get into a World War with Russia, China, and Iran we'll all blow ourselves back to the Stone Age and the few survivors will be starting from scratch. Then Christianity might have a chance at a comeback as fear and superstition replace knowledge and technology. But if things stay on course Christianity in particular and religions in general will be a near-extinct species.
Twenty-four years ago, my wife and I were married at a cabin, and there was nothing at all religious about our ceremony. But neither of us were raised in anything resembling a religious tradition, so it wasn't reflective of any particular change on our part. My wife's grandmother even attended - almost thirty years earlier, she had been adamant that the wedding of her daughter would be a Catholic ceremony or she would not be attending. My future in-laws went through the motions for sake of family peace even though they had no use for religion even then.
I must say, perhaps the most enjoyable wedding I've ever attended was one in which the officiant was a local famous-for-being-famous celebrity of minor note named Fancy Ray.
I think the culture is changing. Just as many people believe as a couple of generations ago, but less people are posing and trying to look good to keep up appearances. That includes church weddings just for appearances.
Technologically, we've expanded beyond anything we've ever had a right to hope for. Christianity's mortal enemy is technological advancement. When the Internet arrived it was the death-knell for Christianity in particular and religions in general. If, God forbid, we get into a World War with Russia, China, and Iran we'll all blow ourselves back to the Stone Age and the few survivors will be starting from scratch. Then Christianity might have a chance at a comeback as fear and superstition replace knowledge and technology. But if things stay on course Christianity in particular and religions in general will be a near-extinct species.
I would modify it a bit to literal interpretations of Christianity is a real threat. I would extend that statement to any literal interpretation of any set of rules are a problem.
When guidelines turn into the letter of law we have real problems.
I get back to "where does this start?"
who takes guidlines and makes them the letter of law?
who takes one event and turns it into "precedent?"
People married for thousands of years without churches, and those big Medieval cathedrals you see?
Commoners weren't allowed to get married in those.
The less role churches play in people's lives the better off people are.
I totally agree with you and that is good news. Never knew that until I saw your reply. Thank God (if I may) for that. Why spend what is supposed to be one of your happiest days of your life, in some creepy unfamiliar building, that has been for ages? Not a good idea.
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