Knowing your partner's libido is important, what are the reasons to wait until marriage to have sex? (church, priests)
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Why do you feel that it's important to know this information?
Also; if it is important to one or more partners in the prospective marriage, one would presume that they would have talked about it before marriage.
"Sexual compatibility" is a joke. If one party has a male sex organ and the other party has a female sex organ, then they are compatible.
Just practically speaking, marriage is about dying to self for the sake of the spouse. The partner with the high sex drive should be always willing to refrain from sex for the sake of the other, and the partner with the low sex drive should be always willing to engage in sex for the sake of the other.
Having similar sex drives is important because you don't want one partner being pressured to have sex, nor do you want the other person to not get as much sex as they want. You can talk about it before marriage, but how would you know if say, you're both virgins?
They could wait until marriage to have sex, but they might have to compromise. If they're on opposite ends of their sex drive, they could meet in the middle. This can solved if you have sex before marriage. Before you buy a car or clothes, you first try them out. You have to make sure it's a good fit. Are you sexually compatible or not.
Why do you feel that it's important to know this information?
Also; if it is important to one or more partners in the prospective marriage, one would presume that they would have talked about it before marriage.
"Sexual compatibility" is a joke. If one party has a male sex organ and the other party has a female sex organ, then they are compatible.
Just practically speaking, marriage is about dying to self for the sake of the spouse. The partner with the high sex drive should be always willing to refrain from sex for the sake of the other, and the partner with the low sex drive should be always willing to engage in sex for the sake of the other.
Considering the number of catholics I have known who have had multiple affairs while being married...maybe not.
There's a big difference between what the churches say about sex vs. what the Bible indicates (hint: the churches are the controlling and restrictive ones).
If it's that urgent, maybe the marriage could take place sooner and more quickly? LOL
The couple should leave the matter between them and God, and ignore all the noise of others. Really, all matters should be solved internally like that. I personally have no issue with it before marriage. I've long given up on depending on other's opinions and directions. At some point, you have to be mature and stand exclusively on your own understandings.
Last edited by Thoreau424; 02-16-2023 at 09:36 AM..
Having similar sex drives is important because you don't want one partner being pressured to have sex, nor do you want the other person to not get as much sex as they want.
You could just not pressure your partner into sex... And as for one partner not getting as much sex as they want - well that's going to happen at some point or another eventually. It's life, and marriage is sacrifice - death to self.
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Originally Posted by Frozenfire88
You can talk about it before marriage, but how would you know if say, you're both virgins?
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Originally Posted by Frozenfire88
What if they're both virgins
What about it? I don't see what being a virgin has to do with anything. Virgins are just as aware of their libido as non-virgins.
Because God commands it. That's a good enough reason.
And again, this whole "we gotta have sex to see if we're compatible" is nonsense. If one is male and the other female, you're compatible. I have never seen a marriage where both people in it were in agreement on the amount of sex they had. Almost every sitcom I've ever watched with a married couple has running jokes about it.
That said, that's where pre-marital counseling comes in. It's perfectly acceptable to discuss this stuff ahead of time.
There's a lot of couples that say they wish they had sex before being marriage. One partner wanted to have sex more often than the other.
There's a lot of couples that say they wish they had sex before being marriage. One partner wanted to have sex more often than the other.
Imagine that! Two humans with disparate wants?
I wonder what they think marriage even is? If you're not willing to give up your own wants for the good of your spouse, then you have no business pursuing marriage.
You could just not pressure your partner into sex... And as for one partner not getting as much sex as they want - well that's going to happen at some point or another eventually. It's life, and marriage is sacrifice - death to self.
What about it? I don't see what being a virgin has to do with anything. Virgins are just as aware of their libido as non-virgins.
It'll probably happen at some point in their life. But, wouldn't it be better if you could delay this issue as long as possible.
Virgins don't know what sex feels like. How could they know how often they will want to have sex.
It'll probably happen at some point in their life. But, wouldn't it be better if you could delay this issue as long as possible.
That's a very simplistic way of looking at things.
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Originally Posted by Frozenfire88
Virgins don't know what sex feels like. How could they know how often they will want to have sex.
How old are you?
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