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Old 10-01-2008, 07:00 AM
 
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My brother in law is one of the most religious people I know. He is very active in the church and talks about God and religion all the time. He is active in church activities, committees, outreach and volunteer programs. He is a real man of the Church.

But my brother in law is also one of the biggest jerks in the world. He is uncommunicative, unfriendly, cold, distant, and aloof. He seems to have no respect of anyone and if you do try to talk to him, he will just stare unless he is in the mood to talk. His aloof and cold manner is not just to me but to everyone he meets outside of church.

If he is following the teachings of God, he would be friendly, open and communicative to everyone even if the chemistry was not right. Don't you think?
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Old 10-01-2008, 08:03 AM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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The BTK killer was also very active in church and was caught by police because he was linked to a church computer. Nevertheless people have a wide variety of personalities whether they're religious or not and it wouldn't be realistic to expect all of the friendly people to also happen to be religious. There are friendly atheists (like myself) and there are rude and arrogant atheists. The same is true for religious people. Some will be wonderful people and some will be total jerks.
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Old 10-01-2008, 08:55 AM
 
Location: Sarasota, Florida
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You will have to look at the percentage of Atheists vs. Religious. Then look down the history lane and see who is naughty and who is nice.

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Old 10-01-2008, 09:10 AM
 
Location: God's Country
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Matthew 7:23 "Not all people who sound religious are really godly. They may refer to Me as Lord, but they still won't enter the Kingdom of Heaven. The decisive issue is whether they obey my Father in Heaven".
Some people think all you have to do is go to church, say a few religious things and that's it, but if you talk it, you better live it. It's not about religion, but a relationship with Jesus.

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Old 10-01-2008, 01:16 PM
 
Location: in my house
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Sometimes but not always. I've come across a few "religious" types who let's just say wore their halos too tight.
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Old 10-01-2008, 05:21 PM
 
Location: Bay Area, CA
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I second what MontanaGuy said... jerks exist in every walk of life, so being religious doesn't mean you are a nice person. We have plenty of a-holes in my religion (Judaism) too, including a certain Rabbi I know personally. But like ILNC said, if you believe in a higher spirit, you'd better walk the walk and not just talk the talk!
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Old 10-01-2008, 08:00 PM
 
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Unfortunately human nature isn't so simple as to have a strong correlation with the trait of unfriendliness to a certain religious belief. (e.g. there are many friendly atheists, friendly agnostics, and friendly religious people)

That said, your brother in law may not have very high self-esteem and uses Church to affiliate with society because he lacks confidence in other areas of his life. Though that is presumptuous because I havn't know the guy, just basing it on what you said.

Religion # friendliness
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Old 10-01-2008, 10:03 PM
 
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being human makes you want to be friendly and nice. The people that aren't have a block in their consiousness, such as hate, fear, pain, and ect. They have become addicted to these emotions. We all feel them but our consiousness attemts to overcome them. The problem is that emotions actually have a chemical make up, and it's addicting. So when you feel these emotions repeatedly or just at a high dose your brain starts to produce a lot more of the chemicals needed for them, and sometimes actually produces it continually.
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Old 10-03-2008, 10:11 AM
 
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My brother in law is one of the most religious people I know. He is very active in the church and talks about God and religion all the time. He is active in church activities, committees, outreach and volunteer programs. He is a real man of the Church.

But my brother in law is also one of the biggest jerks in the world. He is uncommunicative, unfriendly, cold, distant, and aloof. He seems to have no respect of anyone and if you do try to talk to him, he will just stare unless he is in the mood to talk. His aloof and cold manner is not just to me but to everyone he meets outside of church.

If he is following the teachings of God, he would be friendly, open and communicative to everyone even if the chemistry was not right. Don't you think?
i agree if someone is really living the beauty and love of god, then that goodwill extends to everyone, not just certain people at certain times

if someone "talks" about religion, but does not "practice what they preach" then the words are empty and that in my book is hypocrisy

lots of people talk the talk
it is something else altogether to live it, to actually walk the talk

actions speak louder than words, when a person's words and actions don't match, actions are what is telling the truth about the person
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Old 10-03-2008, 10:14 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Some of the nicest, friendliest, and most generous people I know are not religious.

I don't think they have to go hand-in-hand.
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