Is Lust Getting A Bad Rap?

[old_cold]

Originally Posted by GCSTroop

I think this is yet another example of how literalism and strict black and white thinking is ridiculous. Of course people lust whether they choose to admit it or not. If my wife and I are somewhere and I see a hot woman I'll tell her flatly "Man, she's hot!" My wife will either agree or disagree with me. She'll do the same thing with guys she sees. Is it lusting? I'm sure for both of us to some extent it is but, you know, at least we're honest about it and it keeps us both realistic in terms of our likes and dislikes. I have absolutely no fear that my wife will jump to the fireman she sees in the store and I'm rather certain she feels the same way about the hot blonde I pointed out to her in the grocery store the other day.

At least we have the common decency to one another to be honest about it and I think that actually makes our relationship more resilient. This whole idea of 'lusting' being sinful is absurd and to think there's a God up there who allegedly created sexual urges but wants you to refrain from lusting is a rather arrogantly twisted monster.

Lusting is part of our human nature. The denial of that and the attempt to make one feel guilty about it is to deny who and what we are as human beings. So, yes, I think lusting is getting a bad rap.

Recognizing and even commenting on attractiveness is not quite the same thing as lust.
See how your wife responds the next time if instead of saying "She's hot" you say, "I want to **** that"

[kdbrich]

Originally Posted by MontanaGuy

kdbrich wrote:

I disagree that being sexually attracted to someone can be described as having "bad thoughts". The only thing that could make it bad would be if those thoughts included doing that person harm like a rapist would fantasize about. I would agree that if a person was married and practically drooling over some stranger they found attractive that it wouldn't be appropriate and would seem to indicate that they'd do more than just look if they had the chance. But for people who are single like myself drooling is perfectly acceptable as long as you don't make a mess.

You're certainly entitled to your opinion. Jesus said that was equivalent to committing adultery with that person in your heart. To me, what God thinks is more important than my thoughts on a subject. But then, I'm a Christian, you're not.