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okay so i moved in with my father over a year ago. my boyfriend and i were paying the bills and my dad the rent. that was our agreement. well since then, about a month ago my sister her boyfriend and their 2 children have moved in. now since they have moved in they have sort of started tryin to take over control of the house. they kcked my boyfriend out who was here the whole year before they got here. they moved in all of their stuff and have crowded up the house. and now they are trying to give me rules about what is and is not going to happen in this house. i still pay its a 1/3 or everything. i feel like if i move out they are winning and theyre just doing this to finish their conquest of taking over and have more room to spread their **** out. any advice or suggestions would be great. thanks.
okay so i moved in with my father over a year ago. my boyfriend and i were paying the bills and my dad the rent. that was our agreement. well since then, about a month ago my sister her boyfriend and their 2 children have moved in. now since they have moved in they have sort of started tryin to take over control of the house. they kcked my boyfriend out who was here the whole year before they got here. they moved in all of their stuff and have crowded up the house. and now they are trying to give me rules about what is and is not going to happen in this house. i still pay its a 1/3 or everything. i feel like if i move out they are winning and theyre just doing this to finish their conquest of taking over and have more room to spread their **** out. any advice or suggestions would be great. thanks.
For starters, if your Father gives his approval, I'd move your boyfriend right back in since he as lived there for a year and has been contributing financially. Then, as the original occupants, I would set the ground rules regarding the 'New occupants' responsibilities including financial and upkeep of the home, chores etc and definate rules for the two children, chores, quiet times etc! They can like it, or they can leave. Be polite, if you can, and present it in writing and get signatures so they know 'you' are on top of the game. Don't let her push you around because they are definately trying to push you out! If their stuff is in the way...move it to the garage, basement or attic or adv them to pay for a storage unit. It's your home, not theirs.
You lost the battle when you let your boyfriend be 'kicked out.' Since when the hell does your sister get to choose whats going on in the house? You didn't mention that she was contributing financially, or in any other way quite frankly. Everyone keeps saying 'talk to your father,' when actually, you don't have to. He may pay the rent but if you're paying the lights, water, cable, food, ect....you're in just as much standing as he is. He cant live there without lights on right? Lol. Anyways, you need to talk to your sister and her boyfriend. BOTH of them..not just one because obviously he's going along with it. What concerns me is why your sister, her boyfriend, and 2 kids moved in with another couple and her father. Times are hard I understand, but this should only been done in EMERGENCY. And usually in emergency people don't come in and try to reek havoc on a house, they accept living there under any terms necessary.
I wonder what the LL has to say about all of those people living there?
That's the same thing I thought. As landlords, we would never allow that many people to move into a property meant for one. And if it is a bigger house that has room for more, we still would have renegotiated some things. The deposit would definitely have been increased for that many more people. The place went from 1 person, to 3 people, to 7 people (and now back to 6 from the sounds of it). Better be at least a 4 bedroom, since there are 3 adult family units and 2 children.
Besides that, if the landlord is aware and ok with it, it does come back to what the father says. Your sister has exactly the same rights to the place as you do, which is: whatever rights your father gives you. Neither of you has the right to set rules for the other sibling.
That said, I don't think this is going to end without a fight. So either get dad and sis in a room and figure it out, or move. Those are the choices you have as an adult. If you don't want to be an adult, you can purposely do the opposite of every rule she sets, and put any stuff she leaves out in the house on her bed once a day. (Note: That last sentence was not serious advice, please don't follow it)
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