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Hi there,
I live in a 3 bedroom apartment in a large building in Jersey City, NJ with two roommates. All our of names are on the lease.
One of our roommates is planning on having her parents stay at our apartment in her room for one month as they visit from another country. She travels for work and flies to a different city for the week and comes home on weekends. She is planning to take her parents with her to the other city with her for one week, work remotely from home another week with them staying in the apartment, and for the remaining weeks have them stay in the apartment without her.
Both myself and the other roommate are uncomfortable with this as we do not know her parents and she does not plan on having them contribute monetarily. We are all working women in our 20s so the addition of two parents really throws off the vibe of the apartment.
I have spoke with my property manager and they define a guest as someone staying for less than 14 days.
I want to know my legal rights. Especially considering they will be in the apartment for an extended amount of time without her being physically there. Is this considered trespassing?
Thank you in advance for any helpful information.
Charlotte
Sounds mean! Is she not going to keep paying her part? I am not sure why her parents would need to pay anything. Long as the room mate paying as normal. Don't sound like they going to be there all the time either.
Before talking about legal issues, I'd simply have a conversation with her and your other roommate - and let her know that you're not comfortable with that arrangement. Did she ask you both if that was ok, or TELL you these were her plans? I'd feel like you and would not want them to 'visit' that long either...
Sounds mean! Is she not going to keep paying her part? I am not sure why her parents would need to pay anything. Long as the room mate paying as normal. Don't sound like they going to be there all the time either.
She is going to keep paying her share of rent. But this obviously adds stress to the utility bills and just general personal space.
These people are strangers to me and my other roommate. We came into this living situation without knowing each other previously, if we were family friends it would be different.
I am mostly concerned with the issue of them being in the space while their daughter is not in the same state. They are not on the lease, and have no responsibility to the property.
Before talking about legal issues, I'd simply have a conversation with her and your other roommate - and let her know that you're not comfortable with that arrangement. Did she ask you both if that was ok, or TELL you these were her plans? I'd feel like you and would not want them to 'visit' that long either...
Good luck.
She did not talk about this with either roommate beforehand and has given me a little over a week's notice. I expressed to her that I was uncomfortable with this and that it will affect my quality of life.
She reacted very emotionally, expressing shock that I would be uncomfortable with this situation. Also stating that it is too late at this point to change plans and that her parents would be staying.
In the past we have all been very respectful with regards to guests. With prior notice being given. However all of our guests were short term (nothing more than one night)
Legally speaking in my leases it is considered breach if someone not named on the lease stays for longer than 2 weeks, as it seems is your case. If I found out I would send a written request to fix the situation as with all breaches of the lease terms. For you this could mean potential lease termination as all guests are the lease holders guests.
Personally I would talk to your roommate and explain that you aren't comfortable with the extended stay because it is a breach of the lease and you don't want to risk eviction.
I have spoke with my property manager and they define a guest as someone staying for less than 14 days.
Seems to me that that answers the question. You need to sit down with this roommate for a serious chat as this is a huge imposition on a group living situation where you're all named on the lease. The parents need to be found their own accommodation close by but in my opinion this roommate's plan is totally unacceptable.
You should talk to your roommate. It is uncomfortable, however her inviting her parents to stay for a month is absolutely unreasonable without getting your permission.
Sit her down and tell her exactly what you told us. Instead of going around behind her back creating a larger problem (getting kicked out of your apartment, losing a roommate, creating a hostile living situation) you should have gone to your roommate immediately.
You said they would be going with their DD your roommate 1 week ... & she would be their with them on weekends. You not comfortable with her parents. Who I figure be out seeing the sites. But you can handle 1 nite stands!!!! WOW
Seems to me that that answers the question. You need to sit down with this roommate for a serious chat as this is a huge imposition on a group living situation where you're all named on the lease. The parents need to be found their own accommodation close by but in my opinion this roommate's plan is totally unacceptable.
I agree. Not acceptable and not legal.
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