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I think going back into a poster's history and derailing a thread with that info, is kind of like stalking. It's creepy and mean, and not relevant to the current thread.
I guess I wasn't clear. What I was saying is that you tell the creep you'll lie to the police, if necessary, if he doesn't fork over your money.
This creep knows exactly what he's doing. I disagree that the OP should just tuck tail and run and let the creep keep her deposit. I think she should get in his face and tell him to fork over her money or she's going to cry wolf in a big way. He knows he's crossed a line. And by the reactions of the men here, it goes to show that her threat to publicly ruin his reputation if he doesn't give her her money back right now - will probably work.
This guy needs a consequence. Even if it's just a threat and a forceful demand for him to fork over her money. And I think she should tell him he can just clean the room himself after she moves, too.
Thanks for the compliments regarding my normally rational advice, LOL. But, I don't suffer bullies.
Would I actually lie that he made advances? No. But, I'd sure let him think I would, in order to get my money back.
So advising the OP to commit a crime....blackmail her roommate is OK with you?
I guess I wasn't clear. What I was saying is that you tell the creep you'll lie to the police, if necessary, if he doesn't fork over your money.
This creep knows exactly what he's doing. I disagree that the OP should just tuck tail and run and let the creep keep her deposit. I think she should get in his face and tell him to fork over her money or she's going to cry wolf in a big way. He knows he's crossed a line. And by the reactions of the men here, it goes to show that her threat to publicly ruin his reputation if he doesn't give her her money back right now - will probably work.
This guy needs a consequence. Even if it's just a threat and a forceful demand for him to fork over her money. And I think she should tell him he can just clean the room himself after she moves, too.
Thanks for the compliments regarding my normally rational advice, LOL. But, I don't suffer bullies.
Would I actually lie that he made advances? No. But, I'd sure let him think I would, in order to get my money back.
FWIW, I'm a woman.
Maybe I have missed it, but I'm not sure why there is a concern about OP losing her deposit. She's on a month-to-month lease so she can give a 30 day notice and be out immediately if she feels threatened.
OP, have you gotten a job yet? I recall that is what was hampering you in the previous thread about this LL.
Leaving his undies on the floor & walking around in his undies & O yea watching Porn. Tho in one of her early threads she didn't even want him watching a Movie. So maybe the porn is his way of saying "My home I watch what I what when I want" She did in another thread complain about his clothes in washer & dryer so I figure the panties were pay back too.
It's possible the owner is reacting this way because of a lesser complaint. "Oh, you don't like it when I watch TV in the living room? Now I'm going to do even more annoying stuff. Don't like it? Leave."
Male behavior?..Peach Salsa, do you condone sexually threats and intimidation against women?
How has he threatened you?
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How has he threatened you?
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Leaving his undies on the floor & walking around in his undies & O yea watching Porn. Tho in one of her early threads she didn't even want him watching a Movie. So maybe the porn is his way of saying "My home I watch what I what when I want" She did in another thread complain about his clothes in washer & dryer so I figure the panties were pay back too.
Leaving undies on the floor is hardly threatening or intimidating. Gross, yes. Unsanitary, sure. Threatening? Not even close.
Walking around in undies - not threatening (unless you also feel that going to a pool or beach where men wear a variety of swimwear is threatening or intimidating.)
Porn? Did he invite you to watch it with him? If so, could be intimidating. However, if you were in your bedroom and he was watching by himself, not threatening. In poor taste, sure. Illegal? Nope. You could have put on headphones so you were not hearing it, or could have turned up your own show or music, or whatever to cover the sound.
Just move out already. You should probably get a single unit, since living with someone does not seem to suit you.
It's possible the owner is reacting this way because of a lesser complaint. "Oh, you don't like it when I watch TV in the living room? Now I'm going to do even more annoying stuff. Don't like it? Leave."
This is probably spot on. He is very likely tired of her complaints and wants her to move.
I think going back into a poster's history and derailing a thread with that info, is kind of like stalking. It's creepy and mean, and not relevant to the current thread.
The thread wasn't derailed.
Don't put your garbage "out there" if you don't want to be called out on it. CD lets you see posters previous comments on other threads.
The allowed search (as per CD) showed the history of the OPs histrionics in other forums.
This is a discussion board and the OPs questions about her situations have been answered over and over and over again. It's also always the same issue, but with a different twist.
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I guess I wasn't clear. What I was saying is that you tell the creep you'll lie to the police, if necessary, if he doesn't fork over your money.
This creep knows exactly what he's doing. I disagree that the OP should just tuck tail and run and let the creep keep her deposit. I think she should get in his face and tell him to fork over her money or she's going to cry wolf in a big way. He knows he's crossed a line. And by the reactions of the men here, it goes to show that her threat to publicly ruin his reputation if he doesn't give her her money back right now - will probably work.
She stays over her BF's mom's house quite often.
We don't know that the LL knew the tenant (OP) was home when she "caught him".
If he knew? Why would he run out of the living room when she "caught him" in his underwear? Doesn't sound like he's looking for any sexual favors from her.
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This guy needs a consequence. Even if it's just a threat and a forceful demand for him to fork over her money. And I think she should tell him he can just clean the room himself after she moves, too.
For what?
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Thanks for the compliments regarding my normally rational advice, LOL. But, I don't suffer bullies.
There are two sides to every story.
Do I think anyone should be sitting around in the common space of a house, when they live with roommates, watching porn and/or in their tiny underwear? No.
Doesn't mean the tenant can't use her big girl words and tell him that she is uncomfortable or finds it inappropriate. Doesn't mean she can claim "sexual harassment" either.
Where does the complaining of hers to everyone BUT her LL get her?
Nowhere.
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Would I actually lie that he made advances? No. But, I'd sure let him think I would, in order to get my money back.
That's crossing a line & is closer to extortion than it isn't.
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Frankly I can't believe this guy is acting like a regular man living in his own house. The nerve!
OP, you are fully within your rights to move out of a situation which makes you uncomfortable.
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