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I have lived in apartments, and there was one where the upstairs neighbors were the worst I have ever encountered. Often times at 2 to 3am they would have people clomping around up there after coming from the bar, stomping around was a big issue too no matter what time. There were times where it sounded like the microwave fell off the counter on to the floor, when I confronted them they were incredibly snotty like I was the bad guy like I imagined hearing it. I forgot to mention when they had a kid up there running around after 10pm and then after midnite until like 4am, they were the worst upstairs neighbors I have ever had.
I hate to tell you OP, but this will not change, you will need to find a way to get out of there and find yoursef an upper apt, or an actual house to rent or buy.
I almost hate to say this but there is no guarantee of peace and quiet when moving to a house either
I was living in an apartment complex up until Feb. 2015 when I bought a detached SFH in a supposedly "nice" subdivision. HOA fees and all, I was willing to accept that because I thought that people having to adhere to the HOA bylaws meant they would "act right". Boy, was I wrong.
The family across the street from me insisted upon holding their weekend fiestas from their garage. Large speakers mounted on the garage wall (their garage faced my garage) made for some nice and loud mariachi boomboom invading my home on a weekly basis. The speakers even had glowing red/green/pink lights that flashed to the beat of the music. They would also make sure to park their vehicles in front of my house (and the homes of others) to keep their driveway clear so they could party. The guy would even have that crap going in the middle of the day while doing his garage projects, washing his dogs, etc. I called the police 2x and complained to the HOA. Nothing was done.
Families on either side of me had barking dogs. The one on the right of me wasn't so bad, he would only bang his head and scratch and claw his way into 2-3 huge holes in our adjoining fence. The dog on my left though was another story. He was one of those ones that barked when someone dropped a fork in their kitchen two blocks away. That made for some kickazz sleep during the night!!
Needless to say, I sold that home exactly a year later. Thanks to the hot market, the home was put on the market 2/11, had a full cash offer in hand 2/13, and I was out of that home 2/26. I've moved to a nice clean, quiet apartment complex in Tanglewood and couldn't be happier. Oh, and it's upstairs!!!!
I almost hate to say this but there is no guarantee of peace and quiet when moving to a house either
I was living in an apartment complex up until Feb. 2015 when I bought a detached SFH in a supposedly "nice" subdivision. HOA fees and all, I was willing to accept that because I thought that people having to adhere to the HOA bylaws meant they would "act right". Boy, was I wrong.
The family across the street from me insisted upon holding their weekend fiestas from their garage. Large speakers mounted on the garage wall (their garage faced my garage) made for some nice and loud mariachi boomboom invading my home on a weekly basis. The speakers even had glowing red/green/pink lights that flashed to the beat of the music. They would also make sure to park their vehicles in front of my house (and the homes of others) to keep their driveway clear so they could party. The guy would even have that crap going in the middle of the day while doing his garage projects, washing his dogs, etc. I called the police 2x and complained to the HOA. Nothing was done.
Families on either side of me had barking dogs. The one on the right of me wasn't so bad, he would only bang his head and scratch and claw his way into 2-3 huge holes in our adjoining fence. The dog on my left though was another story. He was one of those ones that barked when someone dropped a fork in their kitchen two blocks away. That made for some kickazz sleep during the night!!
Needless to say, I sold that home exactly a year later. Thanks to the hot market, the home was put on the market 2/11, had a full cash offer in hand 2/13, and I was out of that home 2/26. I've moved to a nice clean, quiet apartment complex in Tanglewood and couldn't be happier. Oh, and it's upstairs!!!!
This is exactly why I'm so scared of buying a house. I looked a few years ago, but I was so picky that it was really difficult. I didn't worry so much about the interior as I can fix most of that. I looked at the neighborhood, the type of people milling around, listened closely for barking dogs.
One house... wow. There was so much wrong with this place. Even the realtor was shocked. First off, the ad mentioned that it had a pool (one of those that sits on top of the ground) and a nice deck. Okay. In the kitchen, there was a letter that stated that the pool did NOT come with the house, but they were graciously leaving the deck. Various items in the house had notes on them saying that this fixture wasn't staying or that door handle was broken, etc. It was pretty crazy. Worst part though... went out back to look at the deck and the yard next door had two dogs that barked from the time they noticed we were there until the time we actually left the property. The woman who lived over there came out and they shut up for a few seconds, but when she went back in they started up.
So yeah... I agree that sometimes the old "get a house" solution isn't that great either unless you can find something out in the middle of nowhere. Glad you were able to sell and get out of there!
I don't know how much more I can take. These stupid people ... I recently told the manager about them using some exercise equipment in the evening, right over my living room, so there is whoosh-whoosh-whoosh, besides a CLICK CLICK CLICK, also making the floor and wall creak. The first time, she said they "could not have that". Good. When hearing again - she said she would "talk to the girl", so I thought it would be resolved. I had asked "Why don't they use in the bedroom at this hour?" But apparently, she "had not seen the girl", so never asked her. Time passed and heard again tonight and I asked her to call them. I swear, this is so ridiculous.
The manager never seems to address the husband, like he is "just along for the ride". When She will be gone a few days, I'll notice he can be quieter, then when she returns, there is all the slam...bang...screech.. sounds again. She probably has ADHD, but likely thinks she is "normal". Everything they do could be unheard if they just did NOT live upstairs.
Another thing. They never appear to know how to use their garbage disposal. I will hear them attempt to and stop, then sounds like the guy is trying to fix it himself. Once last year, I had done dishes and cleaned up, aware HE was also tinkering in their kitchen. I left briefly to dump trash and get mail and when I returned, found I had gray, standing water in both sides of the sink! The manager came in to scoop out the water, telling her I felt it was due them upstairs. A plumber came the next day. Anyway, I have lived here for years and never had this occur and am careful with mine, yet the current jerks upstairs seem to always have a problem with theirs. I asked the manager if she instructed them "how to do so". (She claims there is no connection between the two lines). It is so frustrating. (The other day, he was using an "air compressor" for about 45 minutes, where the wall air conditioner would be.
I am just so tired... (and I would leave if I could).
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Perhaps YOU Missed this in her 1st post: " I've tried to give them a taste of their own medicine by playing my music obnoxiously loud when they're having one of their stomping fits, I've even hit the ceiling a few times with a broom"
I had an upstairs neighbor like that many years ago stomp stomp stomp. so I got mad and I took my surround sound speakers and put one in every room. and then I put a porn in and cranked it up!! by gully she stopped stomping. broom sticks and loud music don't work in my experience!!
You're not crazy. I had a similar issue in the past...
I lived in a place where the upstairs neighbor never/rarely left their apartment, while at the same time my next-door neighbor was in and out of their apartment all hours of the day and night. I know this, because they slammed their door whenever they came and went, which resonated very clearly inside my apartment. Despite being young, neither of them worked. How do I know? Because I asked them. One can only speculate as to how they afforded to live there?
Anyway, the apartment was old, and the walls and ceilings weren’t very well insulated, which didn’t help matters. I theorized that because neither of them worked for a living, they had no concept of time. So, any hour was the right hour for them to have a good time, irrespective of the noise level or the rights of their neighbors.
My next-door neighbor would sing or play their stereo loud as they could. This would happen at any hour, day or night. My upstairs neighbor was a very heavy-footed individual who would cause the ceiling to creak and also drop items on the floor a couple of times each day and night. This would typically startle me or wake me up. Also, because of the age of the building, the radius of the water pipes was seemingly very small. If any adjacent neighbor was taking a shower while I was, the hot water pressure decreased to a mere dribble. This is no exaggeration, and it was only the hot water pressure that was affected. 50% of my showers were cold ones.
I did politely confront them about these things, and my complaints were sarcastically ignored. My upstairs neighbor, for all intents and purposes, shut his door in my face. I also made the landlord aware of these problems, but they had every excuse in the book as to why things were occurring (e.g. the building is old and creaks, the pipes are old and the hot water gets blocked, the neighbor slams the door when they come and go because it gets stuck). Regardless of the myriad of reasons, the underlying reason was that these two were present 24x7, and they had no respect for anyone else, making for a perpetually noisy and almost unbearable environment.
Anyone is welcome to refute my claim and dismiss the situation as me being paranoid, or even offer silly advice like "you should have moved" or "see a psychiatrist". But, unless you've lived in these conditions, it's almost impossible to empathize with the combination of ridiculously annoying scenarios that transpire. As far as moving goes, you can't just move. You’re bound by a contractual agreement, so there's an entire legal process that must be followed. Anyone who offers up such silly advice has obviously never tried to do this. Why? Because it ends up in useless mediation or a slow moving court system. By the time your case rolls around for review, your contract is already up. It’s pointless.
Ultimately, you just endure the chaos until you can eagerly relocate, and then you pray for the people that move in after you move out.
It doesn't really help to talk to someone like that. If they were courteous, decent, considerate people then they would already know not to stomp and to respect the fact that others have a right to comfortably live in their home too. Seems like the kind of selfish people who just don't care about anyone else and people like that will never change.
Noise violations, complaints, police that result in threats of eviction are the only way to deal with such people.
I feel so lucky. I was a bit worried when I moved into my new apartment, just a few days ago, because it sounded like the person above me wore heels and I could hear them. But, thankfully it didn't last long. I assume they took them off.
What this has made me aware of is the need to watch/pay attention to what I do. It's been a long time since I've lived over anyone and I realize how important it is to be respectful of others.
I know it doesn't help you, but thank you for making me aware.
I feel so lucky. I was a bit worried when I moved into my new apartment, just a few days ago, because it sounded like the person above me wore heels and I could hear them. But, thankfully it didn't last long. I assume they took them off.
What this has made me aware of is the need to watch/pay attention to what I do. It's been a long time since I've lived over anyone and I realize how important it is to be respectful of others.
I know it doesn't help you, but thank you for making me aware.
Good for you, obviously being a more thoughtful person. Some unfortunately just don't seem to care, having to hear THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP...as I attempt to relax in my own space. Then, there is regularly the low-rumbling sound of whatever he is viewing. It would be good if one could actually communicate with and have resolve from this type of human, but seems rare.
It doesn't really help to talk to someone like that. If they were courteous, decent, considerate people then they would already know not to stomp and to respect the fact that others have a right to comfortably live in their home too. Seems like the kind of selfish people who just don't care about anyone else and people like that will never change.
Noise violations, complaints, police that result in threats of eviction are the only way to deal with such people.
Just to reiterate this. It is a particular personality, being irreponsible and thoughtless which doesn't change if spoken to, as they will continue being self-centered and annoying wherever they are, being established when young by how they are raised.
Just as wanting to avoid one driving recklessly (which is momentary), one wants to avoid those living recklessly, which would be otherwise ongoing and unavoidable. We don't like aggressive acts, which is why it is so disturbing. They are not those who will listen to reason, likely becoming hostile and retaliatory. Others can be subject to suffer from those with psychological disorders or a criminal mentality, just due to the offender having an ability to pay rent.
I've thought, if only this type would all have to live amongst one another... allowing for considerate, respectful adults to be left to enjoy peaceful environments.
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This is exactly why I'm so scared of buying a house. I looked a few years ago, but I was so picky that it was really difficult. I didn't worry so much about the interior as I can fix most of that. I looked at the neighborhood, the type of people milling around, listened closely for barking dogs.
One house... wow. There was so much wrong with this place. Even the realtor was shocked. First off, the ad mentioned that it had a pool (one of those that sits on top of the ground) and a nice deck. Okay. In the kitchen, there was a letter that stated that the pool did NOT come with the house, but they were graciously leaving the deck. Various items in the house had notes on them saying that this fixture wasn't staying or that door handle was broken, etc. It was pretty crazy. Worst part though... went out back to look at the deck and the yard next door had two dogs that barked from the time they noticed we were there until the time we actually left the property. The woman who lived over there came out and they shut up for a few seconds, but when she went back in they started up.
So yeah... I agree that sometimes the old "get a house" solution isn't that great either unless you can find something out in the middle of nowhere. Glad you were able to sell and get out of there!
When we were looking at houses in January, we went to a really nice house that had a really nice backyard. However, the neighbor had an enormous dog that continually barked the entire time we were out back. We told the agent: Good luck with that dog.
We did numerous drive bys on the house we bought. At ALL hours of the day. We are very happy here
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The dog on my left though was another story. He was one of those ones that barked when someone dropped a fork in their kitchen two blocks away. That made for some kickazz sleep during the night!!
and I took my surround sound speakers and put one in every room. and then I put a porn in and cranked it up
!! by gully she stopped stomping
Been There, Done That!
