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HUD!!! Take her to the Nearest HUD office. They will go by her income. Take her to the Nearest Woman Shelter... they too can help her.
Feeling sorry for someone is NOT a good reason to rent to them.
I don't want to get personally involved, because this story is just too fishy. It might all be true, but she can't pay what I've asked to move in, and I've directed her to several resources. She told me that she needed to work from home so couldn't use those. I wish I knew how to tell if she was telling the truth and if she was going to be reliable or not. I guess having a teenager isn't a tale-tell sign of honesty.
If you really feel you need to help people in the world, say NO to this woman and then go and make a donation to your local homeless shelter! You'd be helping without the possibility of getting ripped off or evicted yourself. It's a win-win!
I really need information on this. I'm not at all comfortable with this arrangement, but I don't want her to suffer...She said she contacted the shelters; they had a waiting list. She said she contacted extended-stay hotels; they didn't have a wired-in internet connection (she claims to work from home and says she needs a wired internet connection to do so, as wireless isn't secure. I'm not really buying that, but anyway.)
Your last sentence sounds like you believe she is lying.
and, even after drawing that conclusion you say.........." but anyway "...........?
Go ahead and invite her in. What do you have to lose? It's a "win/win"....SARC
If you really feel you need to help people in the world, say NO to this woman and then go and make a donation to your local homeless shelter! You'd be helping without the possibility of getting ripped off or evicted yourself. It's a win-win!
I think I'll do way more investigating and continue to offer suggestions via email (I'm not answering my phone anymore when she calls right now. I'm tired of hearing this sob story.) Really, though, I gave her options. She said she didn't trust my old landlady (I put her in contact with her.). She said that she didn't want to live away from a certain area. She also mentioned that the women's shelters are night shelters, and she works from home, so that wouldn't work for her...
Family and friends are always willing to help 99% of the time unless those bridges have been burned.
I've rented to young individuals starting out with parental co-signer... then I get a call from the parent asking to be removed/released... yeah, right?
Family and friends are always willing to help 99% of the time unless those bridges have been burned.
I've rented to young individuals starting out with parental co-signer... then I get a call from the parent asking to be removed/released... yeah, right?
Well, the story she gave me is that she's older and her mom is going into a home (maybe there are problems like dementia?). If her parents are too old and she has no siblings, I could see relying on family not being a possibility.
There are scammers with kids out there. This person that you are considering will always have an excuse for not having rent money ready, for not cleaning up after her and her kid, for needing you to watch her child.... The list Will be endless.
She already has an excuse for why she can't go to a shelter or any of the ideas that you've already given her.
The pattern is there, just read what you've written
She knows you feel bad for her, now she is just trying to reel you in.
Well, the story she gave me is that she's older and her mom is going into a home (maybe there are problems like dementia?). If her parents are too old and she has no siblings, I could see relying on family not being a possibility.
If you need a different city/county I will be thrilled to find a similar site for that area.
Do not bring this woman in your home. You need to concentrate on taking care of yourself right now. Maybe you should be the one looking on Craigslist for people who are looking for a roommate, instead of advertising for one.
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I think I'll do way more investigating and continue to offer suggestions via email (I'm not answering my phone anymore when she calls right now. I'm tired of hearing this sob story.) Really, though, I gave her options. She said she didn't trust my old landlady (I put her in contact with her.). She said that she didn't want to live away from a certain area. She also mentioned that the women's shelters are night shelters, and she works from home, so that wouldn't work for her...
Libraries are great places for her to go all day long---and they have wired internet she can use OR she can hang out at McDonalds and use their wireless network.
Sorry, I wasn't sure which ones to ask. I don't know; emotional appeals are very strong to me, but I don't want to be conned. If I move to that two bedroom apartment and take her in, and she turns out to be a con, I would have done what I felt was right. I just don't want to give her or anyone the impression that I'm the kind of person who would find helpless mom and child and put them out on the streets.
It's not about being con. She's probably telling you a lot of the truth - if she is trying to con you she'd have told you the Nigerian prince story - "I have lots of money but is temporary tied up right now. My credit is low due to bad luck. Why don't you let me move in first and I will pay you later?"
The key question is NOT whether she is lying to you, it's whether she can pay rent. And from what you've told me, you don't have the slightest idea of the answer to that question. And judging her circumstance, the answer to this question is very likely a "no".
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Originally Posted by kmb501
Well, the story she gave me is that she's older and her mom is going into a home (maybe there are problems like dementia?). If her parents are too old and she has no siblings, I could see relying on family not being a possibility.
... Or maybe her siblings have restraining orders on her?!
Look, this is not something for you to just guess. You need to know the answers to these questions already and the fact that you didn't ask her is alarming.
Notice I am not saying: Don't help her. I am saying: Find out more before you decide to help her.
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OR she can hang out at McDonalds and use their wireless network.
