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Originally Posted by OttoR
Your screenname seems appropriate! Your daughter is an adult. The end.
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LoL...My daughter is a theater education major so I have spent many long hours waiting for her to finish rehearsing. She is also very sensitive and gets hysterical sometimes so I get the first call with the crying and whining. Then I remind her that she already knows what she needs to do, then she calls her dad and tells him what she's going to do. We don't usually have to do anything for her. I do hope she will become more assertive when the chips are down. She really needs it.
So daughter and one roommate met with the landlord and told him their side. He then met with the drunk the next day and told him he had to leave by friday. Exactly as I had predicted. He has been a college landlord for 20 years, so I think he knows that caution is the better path to take. She just has little faith that things will work out because being dramatic is so much more rewarding!
I'm not a helicopter parent by any stretch. The landlord has no opinion of me because I never met him nor had anything to do with the rental. She did it all on her own. I gather information and worry, but ultimately she does take care of things on her own, she's pretty type A.
She didn't know the drunk was violent or destructive. They were friends. She had never seen him act like this before. The things he said to her were not just griping and complaining. They were terrifying. Definitely the kind of situation that could escalate.
Submariner, I like your thinking about befriending the drunk, but at some point you become the enabler and that is not a good role for a college roommate to be in. And when he started smashing things I think that being friendly was not going to work anymore. Her dad is looking at security systems for her, etc.
Thank you for all the feedback. I really just needed to vent.