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Boy oh boy...when it comes to relationship issues, some do try and kiss up on here. Is the wifey/hubby/friend over their shoulder and/or are they showing such to them as in I love you, I am not a snake, you can trust me, I do not think about others (especially ones younger), etc?????
Boy oh boy...when it comes to relationship issues, some do try and kiss up on here. Is the wifey/hubby/friend over their shoulder and/or are they showing such to them as in I love you, I am not a snake, you can trust me, I do not think about others (especially ones younger), etc?????
I don't agree. I think some of us finally got lucky, perhaps the second or third time around, and we revel in it, and deserve to. We're lucky enough to have loving, supportive relationships and marriages - some long-term, some not so long. But I don't see "kissing up." I see honest answers to an honest question.
What I get most out of this is that there's hope for everyone, even those who have been badly hurt in the past and have given up. Perhaps they can take hope from some of us who have found late-in-life relationships that work.
I don't agree. I think some of us finally got lucky, perhaps the second or third time around, and we revel in it, and deserve to. We're lucky enough to have loving, supportive relationships and marriages - some long-term, some not so long. But I don't see "kissing up." I see honest answers to an honest question.
What I get most out of this is that there's hope for everyone, even those who have been badly hurt in the past and have given up. Perhaps they can take hope from some of us who have found late-in-life relationships that work.
It really does my heart good to read about long and happy marriages. It's what I always wanted for myself but those pesky curve balls got thrown at me and it just wasn't in the cards. When I go to high school reunions there are more widow(ers) than divorcees and most all of them married right out of high school. I was pleasantly surprised to see how many of my old friends had long and happy (far as I know) marriages.
I think some people think, because of my "past", that I must be one of those bitter and hateful 'old women' who hate men now. LOL Nothing could be further from the truth. Honestly, I've never had the time or inclination to be bitter and hateful. I guess I simply don't care to share my life with anyone at this point. I didn't "give up". I just quit caring. Big difference.
In my 40's following my divorce.
Am in a relationship now but I know when this one ends there will
be NO more. Tired of having to give up my life to cater to him.
And it's never good enough!
At age 57, when my "BF" of seven years and I broke up. I have been happily single and unencumbered ever since.
I was married once, at age 19 when we were all young hippies, and divorced by 23. Hadn't had a long-term relationship until the BF in 2000. It was nice to be a couple. We were in the same social circle, and it was nice to have someone to slow-dance with, or kiss at the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve. But after seven years of on-off dating, he was on my last nerve. And to be perfectly honest, I have some physical issues that make me very uninterested in sex. I like flirting and dancing and having fun with guys, but I avoid dating because I know it's eventually going to go down that road. Besides which, the guys in my age bracket (60's) look like old men to me! I'm sorry....I guess I just see myself still in my 30's.
So if you ask what I miss about being a couple, there's not much. I love being on my own and accountable to no one except myself. Except I do wonder what it would have been like to be in a relationship of 30, 40, 50 years and still be in love.
I don't agree. I think some of us finally got lucky, perhaps the second or third time around, and we revel in it, and deserve to. We're lucky enough to have loving, supportive relationships and marriages - some long-term, some not so long. But I don't see "kissing up." I see honest answers to an honest question.
What I get most out of this is that there's hope for everyone, even those who have been badly hurt in the past and have given up. Perhaps they can take hope from some of us who have found late-in-life relationships that work.
Here we go again! Seems to me that it's a person's CHOICE to "give up my life to cater to the him (or her)".
Wife and I cater to each other........that's the way it's suppose to be!
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Originally Posted by leftmyheartintennessee
In my 40's following my divorce.
Am in a relationship now but I know when this one ends there will
be NO more. Tired of having to give up my life to cater to him.
And it's never good enough!
I stopped dating 2 years ago. I'm in my 50's now. Before that, many dates in the few years after the divorce.
Seldom got past the 3rd date with any. A few of the women, I was really interested in, but I put on the brakes when the red flags popped up.
The overall impression I get these days is that middle aged women don't really care much about having a relationship. Guys seem to be a low priority compared to their freedom, their pet, etc.
I'm considering looking overseas to find an SO. Perhaps someone from a different culture would suit me.
I stopped a few years ago and have noticed that, in my area, there seem to be alot of single retirees who seem content with their situation.
I didn't pursue one after 37. One was enough to cure me. I don't want a roommate, either.
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! Seems to me that it's a person's CHOICE to "give up my life to cater to the him (or her)". 
