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One Hundred Years sent me looking/listening. Nice song. Two of the age related message songs I like are Franks Sinatra's It Was a Very Good Year and Willie Nelson's These Are the Good Times.
Much of it because my life has been a good and relative easy one especially after age 25.
Soon after my Dad passed 'Aniticipation" by Carly Simon was playing.
These are the good old days. No mistake. This is your ship and it has come in. Harm none, do what ye will with it.
I guess its just this time of year, I always seem to get a little sad , a little looking back maybe too much , but I do anyway !..I remember the choices I made 40 years ago , what I have thought more and more with every passing year for the last 20 may have been the wrong ones. No i was not twenty , but I was 30 with a really big decision to make, which girl should I choose, for better or worse....There were two, both were putting on the pressure, I loved them both, I hated what I had to do., but I did it in spite of my gut feeling to choose the other woman.
They say looking back is not always a good thing, it can bring up so many of those feeling you thought were gone. The advice from others was the reverse from what this thread asks , or maybe had I not had any advice at all I would have picked the one I wish I had today . Second thoughts ? I had those a long time ago, but not always, not every day ,just every time I got out that old faded picture of two "kids" with wide smiles walking the sand on the Gulf of Mexico....Yes, I start looking back with a ache in my heart and a sorrow in my eye..... just once more , every year about this time.
Don't be afraid to stand up to your parents/family. They are not always right, no matter how much they claim to be. They don not always have your best interests at heart, even though that is what the culture tells you
21 is not too late to start over! 30 is not too late to start over! Jeez I felt soooo old by the time I was 21....
Also, if you could have a vision of what a perfect (but reasonable) world looks like, what would it be? (just curious as to what kind of attitude/desires/beliefs you wish your fellow travelers among humanity would mostly adopt, regardless of whether it will happen or not).
Weird. I'm definitely not a touchy-feely-type person. But when I saw this, the first thing that popped into my head was John Lennon and his lyrics to Imagine.
Why not ask your older relatives about these things now, before they are gone?! Someday these things might be important to you - as I learned the hard way.
Listen carefully to your elders. Ask questions. Be an amateur historian and try to reconstruct their lives. You will learn things about yourself through this exercise. It will bring you closer to your parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents. You will learn where you came from.
I totally agree with this. I began doing genealogy last year and so much regret not having talked to relatives about their lives and family histories before they were gone. My mother is 92 and I ask her questions and have learned a lot, but she and I both regret the missed opportunities to talk to other relatives.
(1) It's what you know but also who you know. Savor those introductions that your parents or other make for you.
You will be fine and lead a happy life!
The only thing I would add to Bette's number one above is that it is who you know and what they think of you. Maintain your personal and professional reputation so that those who do know you will want to put your name forward, introduce you, etc
Get better grades and stop playing those damn video games. You're sabotaging your future. These grades and the whole institution of learning are more important that the amount of time I'm giving them. To anybody still in high school or younger reading this, that means YOU.
The only thing I would add to Bette's number one above is that it is who you know and what they think of you. Maintain your personal and professional reputation so that those who do know you will want to put your name forward, introduce you, etc
Personal story about this:
When I was in high school, my dad lost everything due to a business deal. I had to go to work to help support the family and work 2 jobs and be pulled out of private school.
People didn't talk about what was going on financially then and there was a lot of pressure on me. Boy, I wish back then this forum had existed.
Anyway, fast forward a couple of decades later. One of my friends from those private school days had been in touch - a lot. I had always kept up with her and vice versa. She had graduated from the U of P and gotten married. I had gone to her wedding. We both had 2 children by then. (She actually became my sponsor for Junior League - back then, you needed that).
One time she asked why I left the (private) school. I told her. (I did tell my dad later I had told her but this was in the 1990's and people were more open). The next time we had lunch, she told me her dad would have paid for me to continue going to the private school. A huge regret on my part that I could not pursue that but at least, it was nice to know. My life would have definitely been different in a good way; I have always felt it was derailed.
EDIT: Even those I've had to work a lot harder and much longer hours than if the above had happened, I am grateful for what I do have. I was doing a "what if?" but it sure would have been nice if there had been a scholarship. I just loved that school.
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second thoughts
Years ago.....
