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Old 12-18-2012, 07:05 PM
 
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I know we've talked about this before. Robynn had a thread about design considerations on aging in place. Since participating in that thread, I've toured three CCRCs and several nursing homes and have become even more determined to age in place. I know about the best laid plans and all. I also know there's lots of you who are not interested.

For those who plan this...ideas, resources, personal experience?
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Old 12-19-2012, 12:38 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I know we've talked about this before. Robynn had a thread about design considerations on aging in place. Since participating in that thread, I've toured three CCRCs and several nursing homes and have become even more determined to age in place. I know about the best laid plans and all. I also know there's lots of you who are not interested.

For those who plan this...ideas, resources, personal experience?
I plan this. My resources? Personal stubborness. Well, actually, a bit more than stubborness. My resources are the group weight classes at my gym. Weight training, which can be called resistance training to broaden the concept to including working with elastic bands, etc., helps counteract the natural loss of muscle mass that goes along with aging. The classes I attend include balance moves; the better we retain our balance the less likely we are to experience falls.

Yoga and tai chi are excellent for balance. Yoga I can confirm in that respect from personal experience. Tai chi I have heard about enough to believe in its helpfulness, but I do not have direct personal experience of it.

By retaining much of our muscle mass, strength, and tone, we enable ourselves to continue to perform the activities of daily living such as going up and down stairs, lifting the canned soup up onto that top shelf, dealing with laundry, bringing the groceries in out of the car, and countless other things.

And please erase all mental images of people with bulging muscles engaging in something competitive. The classes I am speaking of use relatively light weights, and each participant chooses the weights for him/her self. I have seen a few older people using one-pound weights in each hand.

Like everything else, it's important not to overdo, especially when starting out. Put aside all notions of comparing yourself to others and use weights you can handle easily. To hell with the person next to you who looks older than you but is using heavier weights; that person might have been attending those classes for years. And even if they haven't been it doesn't matter, because you don't want to injure or tear a tendon and it takes time for the tendons to strenghten (longer than for muscles to strenghten).

I started doing the weight thing seven years ago at age 61. Now, at 68, I am noticeably stronger, have noticeably better balance, and have visibily larger, though still not impressive-looking, muscles. They will never look impressive - that is not my goal. Function in daily life is my goal. I can still carry extention ladders around, climb high up on them, and do exterior painting.
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Old 12-19-2012, 03:24 AM
 
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marilyn and i have been gym rates for 15 years or so. while im still pretty muscular much of what we do at this age is measured in what we are not loosing.

the days of seeing things measured in gains seem to be long over. i no longer push and push either as injury seems to follow now so much easier.

for years i at least felt rewarded from putting in so much gym time by the growth . now its hard to get motivated to keep going.

there is something to be said for just coming home from work and plopping down on the couch with some chips. lol.

but we know we have to keep going and so the drudgery continues. i dont even think we enjoy going anymore and do it more out of guilt if we dont go.

i guess the consolation is at 60 my arms are still bigger then my sons ha ha ha ha.

here we are in our old age . im in the orange.




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Old 12-19-2012, 05:42 AM
 
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If the services are available and the housing chosen is adaptable, aging in place is doable.

A friend built their house for aging in place due to some potential physical problems she could develop. All the halls are wide as are the doors. The shower is a roll in, etc. There are no steps.

My mominlaw lives in an apartment complex that is for seniors. If she would need it, there are services she can contract with to provide specific assistance on an hourly basis. They will install a higher toilet, she is on the first floor with no steps, an accessible shower. It would not be good if completely wheelchair bound but otherwise is good. There are a lot with walkers and power wheelchairs, etc.

A big plus is they have a wonderful exercise program with a trained manager. Everything from strength, walking, aerobics, etc.
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Old 12-19-2012, 06:34 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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I don't really have anything new to say on aging in place, since I already shared my thoughts on that topic in Robyn's thread. Re: the question if this will be an option for us. I don't know--I kind of doubt it, since we've been looking at real estate in Williamsburg, but at the same time we haven't found our perfect place yet. Until we find our next house you just never know.

I did want to comment on ER's post about yoga and tai chi. I've been doing tai chi for a while now and find it very helpful for balance and the various health benefits that come from improving your circulation. He's absolutely right that by doing these stretches every day we maintain the ability to do things like get cans from higher shelves, etc.

Many tai chi classes talk about feeling the "chi". Don't get frustrated if that never happens for you--a lot of our students never achieve that. I think it may be cultural East/West thing. IMO, it doesn't matter anyway--whether you feel the chi or not, you benefit from the stretching and balance training.

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Old 12-19-2012, 07:30 AM
 
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i don't know much about pilates which is supposed to be good exercise for you , but in college i did alot of pull-outies. lol
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Old 12-19-2012, 08:25 AM
 
Location: delaware
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i had an opportunity to observe a number of "aging in place" situations when i worked as a geriatric social worker. my conclusion is that this can work for some , not most people, and in order for it to work, the senior needs to have a dependable bottom line in place. i use the term bottom line rather than a support system because a senior needs to have someone who is willing and able to plan and execute changes if diminishment in physical and, especialy cognitive abilities are observed. this bottom line can be an adult child, a sibling, perhaps a friend, but someone who is present to the degree that changes will be noticed before a situation becomes a crisis. also this person needs to be willing and able to initiate and follow through, with whatever support is needed, to make the changes necessary.

as an example, one of my neighbors, age 64, has a mother, age 96, living alone by choice, 25 miles away. the only reason his mother can continue to maintain this lifestyle is because her son checks on her every day, cuts her lawn, shovels snow, takes responsibility for maintaining her house, and generally is "on call" all the time if his mother needs something. if she did not have her son willing to do what he does and reasonably close, she couldn't age in place.

the other aspect of staying in your own home is the reality that often as a person ages, their contacts and their world shrink; it can be a very isolating existence. in a retirement community- not a nursing home or even assisted living- there are staff - medical and otherwise -who act as bottom line and social opportunities- not all desired or participated in-but at least the chance for social contact is there.
i don't have family and do not expect to have anyone be a bottom line for me. the significant other is willing to do so, but i have seen many couples where one in the couple becomes caregiver for the other. even though the caregiver may be willing to act in this capacity, this role can be grueling and isolating as well. consequently, my plan is to go into an independent retirement community, where there are levels of care provided, before i actually need to go into such a living situation. i certainly do not think this is ideal but neither do i think sitting in my house with caregivers coming in and out is ideal either. there are some who avoid both scenarios, but most, if they live long enough, do not.
personally, i think it's important to make plans and to be in the place where you intend to age , by your mid to late seventies. perhaps this generation of elderly will be different than previous ones- they seem to think they will be- but, based on past observations, there are often significant changes that seem to occur in this decade.

catsy girl
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Old 12-19-2012, 08:30 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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Gonna just turn ta mold right hyar in place. Dat was da plan an' it's workin'.
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Old 12-19-2012, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Gonna just turn ta mold right hyar in place. Dat was da plan an' it's workin'.
O.K., but there may be a different prevailing sense of time where you now live. This can be illustrated by the hillbilly who answers the door for the census taker, who asks, "What is your birthday?" The hillbilly answers that it is February 25. "In what year?", asks the census taker.

The hill billy answers, "Why every year, you damn fool!"
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Old 12-19-2012, 09:58 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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O.K., but there may be a different prevailing sense of time where you now live. This can be illustrated by the hillbilly who answers the door for the census taker, who asks, "What is your birthday?" The hillbilly answers that it is February 25. "In what year?", asks the census taker.

The hill billy answers, "Why every year, you damn fool!"
We'uns gots nuttin but time, until it runs out!
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