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We just had a police officer retire who worked 37 years with the force. His ex gets half of his pension. He has remarried.
He had to work that long just to give himself an income that is barely minimum.
That's just sad.
Yes it's sad! A divorce can be a retirement killer depending on how long the marriage lasted, because in a divorce settlement it depends on the number of years of the marriage and or if there was a prenuptial agreement!
I worked with a nurse, she was 78 when she left work. She ONLY left because she tripped and did damage to her hip and lower back. But unless the manager of the unit didn't drive it home with HR that she was not fit for duty, on an inpatient psych unit, she intended to come back and continue working. Personally, I am glad she is gone, she was an incredibly miserable woman. And this woman had plenty of money she didn't need to work.
I think she would not have retired unless something physical happened to her. Some people don't retire until something happens and they just have to face it. Or they die before.
Nurses generally don't retire until they're carted off. I've seen a fair share of it--gives them a sense of purpose, but there is a point that it's time to go. 78 is beyond time to go!
Rhetorical question: Does anyone honestly think his last thought was "I'm glad I stayed working and put in more time at the office?"
When you consider that workaholics and alcoholics wear the same uniforms, with similar pleasures, I'll betcha tons of peso's there's any number of workaholics, close to death, wished God would grant them at least one more day, week or month of working!:hamd
And the wife of a workaholic would probably say it as well: He's now bedridden, and he's going to drive me to work or drink if he doesn't get back to work soon!
Interesting. There is nothing like the bitterness of a woman with a grievance, whether perceived or real. It's amazing how some manage to hold on to the resentment for years and years, indeed for a lifetime. It's best never to criticize a woman, has been my experience in 70 years of living.
I worked with a man who refused to retire because his ex would get half his pension. He worked until he dropped dead of a heart attack at the age of 70.
I'm a few weeks from 71 and own my own business; I have no plans to stop working.
My eldest aunt worked until she was eighty-six. When she was eighty-four her employer of over fifty years went out of business. She found another job with a private investigator who was in his seventies. Sadly, when he died two years later no one would hire her. She could have worked as a valued employee until her death at 97 if she could have found another position.
She loved dressing well for her work and enjoyed playing gin rummy on the train. She died sitting in a restaurant where she had lunch several times each week. She was having a Scotch and water and smoking a cigarette. When the waitress brought her club sandwich my aunt was dead. She was my favorite aunt.
I can't imagine working forever.....I'd retire tomorrow if I could.
At 54, I've had some live changing events happen to people close to me.
An aunt who helped raise me died several years ago. And my 88 year-old mom has dementia.
Guess what folks?....my priorities have changed -- and work isn't one of them AT ALL.
I just don't want to work anymore. I'm DONE! I'm burned out. I could do m job blindfolded. It's not a challenge.
AND I DONT" WANT A CHALLENGE. What I WANT is at least six months off!. I plan to coast and do as little at work as I can.
I also have at least two coworkers still working to pay because of either and EX-wife or a sick wife. One is 70 years old, and working 60-plus hour work weeks. REALLY?
I can't imagine that people can't think of ANYTHING thing else they'd rather do than work. But you know what. I think the issue is that people DON"T THINK about it. Because when they do ...they usually CAN think of something they'd rather do the work 8 hours a day....."I slow them down and ask them..."You mean to tell me there's NOTHING, nothing you'd rather do...you don't have ANYthing you could be doing, other than being here 8 hours a day?" Then they THINK, and say, "Well I could....X,Y orZ." And I say then why don't you? You want to work until you die?"
Then they say well, "the job is easy. My boss doesn't really bother me. So why not? I could leave, and probably will if I stop feeling like dealing with it every day."
I'm about ready to give up on them. If people just go through life, not thinking of anything but work. That's on them. If they think that's more important than family time. (or time for just THEM). That's on them.
I am just blessed to know people who have PLENTY of things they could do other than work. They retired EARLY or as soon as they hit full retirement age. I don't know anyone yet who retired and just sat around or ever looked back....they're as busy as when they were working. One person is very involved in church and choral groups...and BUSIER than when she worked. Another friend retired in March, and her social calendar is full, and she has a dad who needs coddling. Another volunteers. Another takes so many senior centers classes and trips just hearing her schedule wears me out.
So if other people want to work until they drop....that's on them. I'm retiring as soon as I can...and dreaming of it everyday.
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