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I don't think anybody goes through a dramatic personality shift when they retire. I know lots of employed people who ***** & complain about everything. Because they're kind of busy working, they don't have as much time to do it. When they retire, it becomes their full time task.
I went on a cruise once and there were three older ladies from Texas. They complained endlessly about everything. And when they were not complaining about the cruise they went on and on about their medical problems. After being stuck on a boat with these three for a week I learned an important lesson. I resolved not to be a whiny complaining old bag. I have no choice about being an old bag. I do have a choice about being whiny and no fun to be around.
Let me be the first to applaud your commitment to be content. but always reserve the right to go crazy on someone.
I don't think getting older makes us grouchier. I think that, since we are less concerned about job security and social acceptance, it frees people to say what they really think.
Not to *iss off a segment of our aged "compatriots" but.... I have noticed that those who did not participate in the child rearing experience seem a bit more snippy to me.
Not to *iss off a segment of our aged "compatriots" but.... I have noticed that those who did not participate in the child rearing experience seem a bit more snippy to me.
No judgement, just an observation.
The disclaimer won't work; they will be *ed. But parenting does expose you to indifference to things you are stressing as important and sometimes makes you realize maybe they are not...
Not to *iss off a segment of our aged "compatriots" but.... I have noticed that those who did not participate in the child rearing experience seem a bit more snippy to me.
No judgement, just an observation.
I didn't and I am far from snippy! LOL. My mom had 11 kids and at 91, she is a ray of sunshine. Its in the genes!!!!
Ignorance is bliss. When you are younger and don't know much about the "world" it's easier to be happy.When you have grown older and gone through more experiences and have acquired more knowledge about the world, you can see how much more complicated the world is and how completely screwed up it can be in many ways and how cruel and unjust it can be.
Well, I don't know if I've gotten grumpier, but I am definitely more open about expressing my feelings and opinions. One of my daughters said it started when I hit my 50th birthday, and labeled it "Unfiltered At Fifty"!
Speaking slowly
Speaking loudly
Using a sing-song voice
Inflecting statements to sound like a question
Using the pronouns “we,” “us,” and “our” in place of “you.”: “How are we doing today?”
Using pet names such as “sweetheart,” “dearie,” or “honey”
Shortening sentences
Simplifying syntax (sentence structure)
Simplifying vocabulary
Repeating statements or questions
Answering questions for the older adult: “You would like your lunch now, wouldn’t you?”
In other ways talking for the older adult: “You are having a good time on the patio today, I see. And you have your pink sweater on, which you love. Right?”
Asking people questions that assume role loss, idleness and powerlessness such as “Who did you used to be?” “What did you used to do?”
And my particular pet horrors: Referring to old people as "young man" and "young lady." I didn't even like that when I WAS young!
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but always reserve the right to go crazy on someone.
