Too old to be hired. Too young to retire. What do you in your 50s? (state, relatives)
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What "elderly woman" are you speaking of? The 56 year old? LOL. 56 is not old. Not by a longshot.
I changed jobs at 58. When that didn't work out, I did contract work for a year and a half...and I got a couple of job offers from that (but I didn't want a permanent job...I was moving).
She's going to spend her life taking care of others....and then what? The boy will grow up and forget her name. I can't count the times I've seen that happen. And she won't believe it, if you tell her. Nonetheless, it will likely happen. She may be in a nursing home one day, and that boy will never even go to see her.
Grandma will be deceased. So your aunt will be left alone, having sacrificed for others, with no one to help HER, if she needs it. I've seen this before.
If I were grandma, I'd try to figure out what I want for the rest of my life, and decide what to do accordingly. If she doesn't want to leave, she'll never be happy leaving. In that case, I'd get a job locally. Whatever I could get, for as much $$ as possible.
Does she get health ins. from her company? That's the biggest problem. Health ins. on the individual market is VERY expensive.
But if it were me...I would move. But I'm the sort who CAN move on my own somewhere. She is not, apparently.
The reality is, if a person needs a good paying job and job opportunities, then a person has to move to where the jobs are, if the local economy isn't good enough.
A word of warning to you. Don't take on someone else's problems. Life will throw you enough curves of your own to handle. You don't have the power to make decisions for your aunt, anyway. Only SHE can decide her way forward. Only SHE knows what will make her happy. You trying to manage her, or anyone else's, life may lead to hard feelings between you, as she fails to take your advice or do what you think is the logical thing.
So...I would move. (but that's me)
If I couldn't handle moving, I would get a job locally. Some $ is better than no money.
When you're older, you CAN get a new job if you have a good work history, some good skills or vocation, and you LOOK and ARE healthy. And if you've kept up with technology.
The older people who can't get jobs seem to me to look to be in bad health (obese, pale, walk slowly) and/or don't have a good work history and/or don't have definite skills or a definite vocation. If they're competing with the general public for a min. wage job that anyone could do, an older person will have trouble getting the job. Or if the job involves physicality, an older person is at a disadvantage (standing all day, moving boxes in inventory, etc.).
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Too old to be hired. Too young to retire. What do you in your 50s?
You get creative and 're-invent' yourself. Millions do it (very successfully).
OP's relative has many options. I cannot believe how fixated OP is on the 'downside' of Kingsport, TN and Tri-Cities. It is not hard to find thousands of very well off, intelligent, engaged, successful professions, self employed, and retirees in that region. I have more than 10 scientists / engineers in my email address book well employed and loving Kingsport and raising their families there INTENTIONALLY! One of my previous interns took a job last yr in Kingsport and loves the area and people. It will remain on my radar as an option for a retirement destination.
YMMV (apparently) but this may also lead to the perceived 'disaster' region () which having been there 2 - 3x / yr for past 15 yrs has not become apparent to me. I spend a lot of time with locals (rural dwellers) so still engaged / exposed to the 'hill folks'. I don't find it significantly different than most semi rural places in USA. Some good, some bad... Plenty of opportunities if you DIG for them.
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Aunt should continue working until she is laid off and receives her severance. Then she should get another job ($10 hour or whatever is available). Full time is best but pt if that’s all that’s available. Makes NO SENSE to leave her job now and loose her severance, for a $10/hr job.
The odds are that Grandma should not return home after the knee replacement. If she is unable to live independently now without help from family members, the help required will only increase after the knee replacement. Aunt should NOT push to have grandma return home after the knee replacement to be cared for by her (but I suspect this is what aunt will do, although it is not in aunt or grandma’s best interest).
I know that this happens but... waddaya think... just what percent of the population do you imagine is completely retired ~55y.o.? Ballpark.
Just about anyone, if they start planning in their 20s, should be able to retire in their 50s. It takes discipline not to overspend, which most people don't have. Most people are stupid with their money.
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Just about anyone, if they start planning in their 20s, should be able to retire in their 50s. It takes discipline not to overspend, which most people don't have. Most people are stupid with their money.
I know the how of it. What I am asking you is how many you think actually do it? But... I think I have my answer. However, there is this: when >85% of the test takers fail an exam, the good professor(s) either revise the exam or else grades the class on a curve. They do not publish an op ed denigrating the intelligence of college students in general.
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I know the how of it. What I am asking you is how many you think actually do it? ...l.
Many do it, especially military, and GOV
I for one... (took my retirement pre age 50) (Retirement = not needing to ever go back to employment...)
Too old to be hired. Too young to retire. What do you in your 50s?
I went back to college, cuz I had missed a large part of that being a caregiver for the previous 32 yrs...
Then... I found LOTS to do, Volunteering in non-profit businesses and for Economic Development of disadvantaged rural communities! (good idea for your Aunt, or 'whoever')
She does know that they will take about 40% of that right off the top for taxes, right? So she won't get near close to a year.
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) which having been there 2 - 3x / yr for past 15 yrs has not become apparent to me. I spend a lot of time with locals (rural dwellers) so still engaged / exposed to the 'hill folks'. I don't find it significantly different than most semi rural places in USA. Some good, some bad... Plenty of opportunities if you DIG for them.
