Spouse retirement impact

[Mikala43]

I've been retired for 2 years and DH just retired. TOTALLY messing up my day.

Naw, it's not bad, and while I do not get my full introvert fix, I'll live. We've been having a really good time.

[mschrief]

To the person who sent me a message in a Rep - please DM if you want to chat.

[exit82]

Originally Posted by North Beach Person

Because she cooks stuff no one else eats (well she's always done that). She also rearranges the kitchen. Which would be fine if she was the one who does the vast majority of cooking, which she never has.

I've learned over the course of nearly 40 years to make myself scarce if any variation of "You know, I've been thinking......." is uttered. That's the signal she's considering having me do something that's utterly useless and incredibly complicated and time consuming.

lol- My husband has the same reaction when I say " I have an idea!"

[luzianne]

Originally Posted by North Beach Person

I am dreading the day Mrs. NBP retires. She's off in the summer now and totally disrupts my routine then, as she's now doing on weekends and school breaks. Wanting to cook and such.

Originally Posted by North Beach Person

Because she cooks stuff no one else eats (well she's always done that). She also rearranges the kitchen. Which would be fine if she was the one who does the vast majority of cooking, which she never has.

I feel the same way! I work from home and when my husband takes time off it completely disrupts my routine. And he also rearranges the kitchen even though he never cooks, just like your wife!

The other day I cooked something in the cast iron skillet, then washed it, dried it and seasoned it. I went in the kitchen a couple of hours later and he had about a cup of oil in the skillet, on the burner with the burner on. I think he thought he was seasoning it the "right" way.

He also goes in the kitchen and throws away any utensils or dishes he doesn't think we need (although he doesn't cook), decides my spice rack shouldn't be on the counter and puts it UNDER the counter, rearranges things and puts all the things I never use on top of all the stuff I always use. And anything decorative I have on the counters he puts in the cabinets below the counter.

Most men couldn't care less about the kitchen and how things are arranged, especially when they never cook. I wish he didn't. It's beyond me why he chooses the kitchen of all places. If he really wanted to rearrange, he could declutter the garage and shed that he has full of miscellaneous junk.


Sometimes he finishes work early and gets home early afternoon. I usually try to plan to start work early so I have a couple of hours to myself after work. When he gets home early, I don't have that time to myself.


I'm five years older and I really would like to retire five years before he does. I'm looking forward to having five years of being home by myself all day with no work (as in employment) to do. Seems to me like it would make life less complicated with one person home taking care of all the household chores and the one who is still working just has to work.

[Sunaimer]

My husband retired at 54 last year and has taken over the cooking, cleaning, everything, except for bill paying. I can retire now, but am waiting until 59-1/2. Since he retired, I cannot find anything in my cupboards or my pantry anymore! I had a very organized system.....I never thought I would say this, but I cannot wait until I take over the cooking and reorganizing my cupboards and pantry! Perhaps that’s part of the reason we eat out more. I don’t like his cooking/experimenting! If I can keep him to my Honey-Do List and on task, I will be a happy working wife for the next 4 years.