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When I retired (the first time anyway) it gave me time to sit with zero distraction. I was very disturbed at some of the things I was able to put together from looking back at events of my life.
Relationships, jobs, tragic events, direction I was heading, etc. It was like staring at a gruesome car wreck.
When you don't have to maintain the charades and routines that the rat race demands, reality can be pretty shocking. I had to go back to working part-time just to have something to numb me back to being functional.
I shudder at the thought of ever having nothing to keep my time structured and mind moving.
I retired April 2016 so, about 9 months ago. My wife also retired at the same time and we moved from Wisconsin to Florida. This was planned.
After I retired, I called 5-6 people I worked with and even e-mailed them. After about 2-3 month of me doing the calling and e-mailing, I stopped and have only heard from one person. These were people I worked with daily for almost 20 years! It bothered me at first but I realized that these people were part of my past life and I had started a new chapter called RETIREMENT.
We love our new home in our new community. We have made many new friends who were in a similar situation, having moved from somewhere else to enjoy their retirement years. We made it through our first summer in Florida and are now enjoying winter temps of 70 degrees during the day. We are as busy as we choose to be with many clubs and activities in our community. Life is good.
We do have daughters and grandchildren and while we do miss them, we FaceTime them 2-3 times a week and they have both been down to visit us since we are 45 minutes from Disney parks.
One final thing - our expenses have decreased from our working years! You don't need a million bucks to retire.
Dennis 11003 This is a nice post! So you didn't snow bird just moved right to Florida! I really want to relocate to Florida but I hear so many good things then bad things - bugs, humidity, condos way expensive... This gives me hope anyway.
I have been retired only slightly over 1 month. I am loving it, so far. I changed gears mentally as I drove away from work the last day. I told myself that I was headed for real life now. I only occasionally think about work, that is a surprise.
I am not moving, all of my family is here. I am home.
I hear from some work friends, and we have a lunch meeting planned. I am not sure how long that will continue. I will take it as it comes.
Like most things in life, we plan, but reality looks completely different. That's not necessarily a bad thing.
I retired April 2016 so, about 9 months ago. My wife also retired at the same time and we moved from Wisconsin to Florida. This was planned.
After I retired, I called 5-6 people I worked with and even e-mailed them. After about 2-3 month of me doing the calling and e-mailing, I stopped and have only heard from one person. These were people I worked with daily for almost 20 years! It bothered me at first but I realized that these people were part of my past life and I had started a new chapter called RETIREMENT.
We love our new home in our new community. We have made many new friends who were in a similar situation, having moved from somewhere else to enjoy their retirement years. We made it through our first summer in Florida and are now enjoying winter temps of 70 degrees during the day. We are as busy as we choose to be with many clubs and activities in our community. Life is good.
We do have daughters and grandchildren and while we do miss them, we FaceTime them 2-3 times a week and they have both been down to visit us since we are 45 minutes from Disney parks.
One final thing - our expenses have decreased from our working years! You don't need a million bucks to retire.
if you want to keep in touch with people you worked with, try social media.
I still keep in touch with people I worked with back in the late 80s. We met again on facebook.
I retired when I was 49 yrs old from the U.S. government, military and civil service and relocated, retired overseas in the Philippines permanently.
19 yrs later at age 68, I'm still enjoying my retirement lifestyle, with my wife of course. It's just the two us in our own home (mortgage free). Life is good.
Clemencia53, isn't not liking retirement almost the same as not liking life? I mean retirement is living life. And one's life can be full or empty or somewhere in-between, and pretty enjoyable or lesser so. Or do you not see it that way?
To me saying one does not like retirement is saying one does not particularly like life. One's inner life can be rich with ideas and interesting thoughts as supplied by interests, as well as one's activities being rich or feeling somewhat empty, frustrating, bored, unchallenging.
Clemencia53, isn't not liking retirement almost the same as not liking life? I mean retirement is living life. And one's life can be full or empty or somewhere in-between, and pretty enjoyable or lesser so. Or do you not see it that way?
To me saying one does not like retirement is saying one does not particularly like life. One's inner life can be rich with ideas and interesting thoughts as supplied by interests, as well as one's activities being rich or feeling somewhat empty, frustrating, bored, unchallenging.
No, you are thinking way too deep.
The lady was bothering me. I'm not a morning talker. We were on a short group outing and this person would not be quiet. It was also my second try at giving up coffee. And she was hard of hearing. I had to keep repeating my answers to questions I didn't want to answer.
It was 10 minutes of hating retirement.
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