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Originally Posted by goingstrong
I've moved through life in a series of phases - the carefree single phase, the young couple with kids in tow phase, the stressed out teen parenting phase, the empty nester phase, and the grandparenting phase. I happily ended each phase without a backward glance until I arrived at this new one. Due to a job change that allows for her mother to pick her up after school, I am free from after school childcare for youngest granddaughter. I have long looked forward to having more free time but now that it’s here, I realize that the end of this phase puts me one step closer to the phase I do not want to enter. The one that I dread. The one that I’m going through with my mother. The phase where you are no longer responsible for other family members, but instead are someone that other family members need to be responsible for. I don’t think my mother realized when she shifted into this phase of her life - she only needed a little help around the house, the vacuum cleaner was suddenly much heavier and she couldn’t see well enough to notice the dust and dirt collecting, and all of a sudden bill collectors were calling even though she was sure she sent them a payment but she couldn’t quite figure out her checkbook. I don’t want to go there - I’m not ready for that phase. Will I know it when it happens - will I care? As I look forward to more freedom and travel this knowing of what is finished and what is yet to come hangs over me like a black cloud. I’m sure I will work through it, but I think for me this will be the most difficult phase of my life yet. What phase of life are you in and what has been the most difficult for you?
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My parents entered a continuing care community on their own about 3 yrs ago - fortunately they could afford it as it's expensive. This process is helpful in that it'll help the transition to the last phase. They have someone cooking, cleaning, checking on them - and if/when the time comes, they have more dependent care available (up through nursing home).
In my opinion, it's important to simplify your life as you get into your 70s.....get rid of excess belongings, streamline your finances/assets, streamline your payment of bills, minimize your bills and purchases to the greatest extend possible, purchase appliance and other warranties that allow you to make a single call and you have something fixed, live in a community where stuff happens around you and you don't have a worry (ie landscaping, maintenance, etc).
I find myself thinking I better make the most of each day and sometimes get antsy thinking I better get a move on and experience travel and other things that I've wanted to do before the ability to do so runs out.