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It's interesting how the people who make the biggest improvements in your life are not necessarily people who like you.
Sometimes the harshest feedback is the most valuable.
Your comment reminds me of another personal story. Many years ago I took a job as PM for a government R&D project, my customer at the time was also young & aggressive. So we engaged in many heated discussions, but though those discussions were passionate neither of us took each others criticism as personal attacks. I doubt that can happen in today's culture.
Fast forward 10 years later, there was a job opportunity at the same agency but as a Contractor. While I was in town we met for dinner and he asked if I would consider to come in as a civil servant & I said I would. Long story short I ended up being hired because this customer recommended me.
So yeah, just because we argued a lot doesn't mean we don't have a high professional opinion of each other. I'd say it's because those arguments we gained respect for each other, and eventhough it was after many years, we still have high professional respect for each other.
Your comment reminds me of another personal story. Many years ago I took a job as PM for a government R&D project, my customer at the time was also young & aggressive. So we engaged in many heated discussions, but though those discussions were passionate neither of us took each others criticism as personal attacks. I doubt that can happen in today's culture.
Fast forward 10 years later, there was a job opportunity at the same agency but as a Contractor. While I was in town we met for dinner and he asked if I would consider to come in as a civil servant & I said I would. Long story short I ended up being hired because this customer recommended me.
So yeah, just because we argued a lot doesn't mean we don't have a high professional opinion of each other. I'd say it's because those arguments we gained respect for each other, and eventhough it was after many years, we still have high professional respect for each other.
This is the way it should be - I mean if your job is so unimportant to you that if your boss asks you to do something you know is not the best way to get it done, and you just roll over and do it, you ought to get a job you care more about.
Frequently on my job I'm involved in pretty good debates, being a lab setting most of us don't get emotional, but we put our ideas out there and discuss them, because at the end of the day things need to be done right!
I grew up and went through high school as a painfully shy, awkward, unhappy human. Considered suicide several times.
At 18, I got a job in a factory and made a conscious decision to “become” outgoing, to go on dates (had never had one to this point), to actually have a life.
Went out a few times with various people, made a couple of friends. Then my future husband got a job on the same assembly line as me. We hit it off, we both “fell in love”. We were married a little over a year later. We’re still married, guess it’s working out.
But in the grand scheme of things, getting married was a rather quick decision.
And the alternative to my “putting myself out there” is something I try not to dwell on.
My life was similar except for the factory part. Shy, unhappy, didn't fit in, no dating, wanted to die, but religious upbringing kept me from suicide.
My decision was to go to secretarial school. I'd gone to a vo-tech high school to become a cosmetologist but I sucked at it, and so after high school I worked in retail and hated it. I had some school benefits from being the daughter of a disabled vet, and even though I absolutely hated school, I decided I could do a year if it meant better job opportunities. I ended up working in NYC, something I never thought I would do, and it changed my life. I still didn't have a lot of dating choices, but I had some chance to date and I ended up marrying and having a child. The marriage didn't work out, but the child is a great adult now. I also met a friend in that secretarial school with whom I am still friends 44 years later.
Yeah. I bought a Fiat. Send money. Actually, I dumped it after a couple years.
I didn't decide to be widowed at 58 but being a survivor spouse changed everything.
Moving 1000 miles was a positive change but was not unexpected. People thought it was and reacted like I was being rash.
I have a friend who goes from one whim to another. He hasn't been damaged too badly but is on his 4th marriage (and complaining). He always has to have the latest thing, for a few months, and then the next thing.
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I wish I had put my 401 $$ into a Roth 401. What a mistake.
Theres still time!
Down market is a good time to do a Roth Conversion.
If you are over age 85... doubt you will gain much in a Roth. But at least if the current market breaks out, those gains will be sheltered (at your current tax rate if you transfer today).. I've always been under 12% (until the trump tax laws). Now I'm at 12 %. It's tough to get lower. (under $78k income)
Down market is a good time to do a Roth Conversion.
If you are over age 85... doubt you will gain much in a Roth. But at least if the current market breaks out, those gains will be sheltered (at your current tax rate if you transfer today).. I've always been under 12% (until the trump tax laws). Now I'm at 12 %. It's tough to get lower. (under $78k income)
I"ll do some investigatin' on this.
I've taken one small disbursement from this account (a couple thousand dollars) and the tax I had to pay on this was shocking.
I am way younger than 85!
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