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We are good, can do, quiet middle aged neighbors but other than being asked for things or services we have zero interaction here.
Any clue folks?
I feel your pain. I don't live too far from you, so I know exactly what you're going through. You reach out, help people, try to be part of the community and people are so stuck in their little bubbles. It's like anyone they haven't know their entire lives is from another planet. I've been here over ten years and have had to introduce myself..... to the same people over and over again. "Who are you?" "What's your name again?" "Oh, you're that guy that bought the old Baker place." Yeah, I bought it 15 years ago and they still act like I bought it yesterday.
I have a rule. I'll make an attempt to reach out. If people reciprocate in the effort, great and I'm glad I have a good neighbor. If they don't... screw 'em and suspend the effort. It isn't worth it.
I will probably use the phrase, "We have plans for that." Short, sweet and unarguable.
My neighbors are all in the white, working or middle class, ages 45-70 demographic with one exception. The area was once a huge 1800's era homestead farm that was broken up into 4-15 acre parcels in the 1960s. We are on the original homesite.
I have met a number of great people in a large metro area roughly an hour away where I have a space in an antique/arts district warehouse where we have a once a month sales weekend event. I have found a lot of kindred spirits there and have made friends that unfortunately live 60 some miles or more away....
Thanks again all. It helps somewhat to know that we're not alone in this.
I can empathize. When we first moved to this rural area, many of the surrounding neighbors (all older than us & retired) were really friendly & inviting....but within a couple of months it was obvious that we were being assessed for what they could get, especially when they learned that my husband is very mechanically inclined. They either wanted something fixed for free, wanted $$$ (buy their old junk, $$ for "weed control", etc.), or wanted something of ours...otherwise, they don't speak to us. Today, a neighbor asked my husband if he could have a pile of dirt!
Seems like there is at least one in every neighborhood, no matter where you live, but whole neighborhoods?
I totally agree. If it were just the neighbor to the east I'd write her off as the area pill but while nice when we have had our brief interactions, unless they want or need something, (or are looking for a missing pet) we don't have contact with any of our other neighbors either. They have all been in place for years so maybe it takes a long time to break through to the inner circle.
We get wind of social interactions between the neighbors (even the pill) but we are not part of it. Seems the same might be true of the neighbor across the way with the snow plow too. I never hear him mentioned by the neighbors either though he's been here quite a while. Whatever it is it's odd. Nothing like our experience in AK where even in the transitional neighborhood next to a crappy apartment building, the neighbors were outgoing and friendly.
Seems like there is at least one in every neighborhood, no matter where you live, but whole neighborhoods?
For me, this is my first time in a rural neighborhood, so I didn't know what to expect. I was hoping that people would be somewhat friendly, not just users. One of my neighbors told me it wasn't a "coffee klatch" neighborhood...I don't even know what that means. Been 5 years now. It's Washington state & a lot of the neighbors are transplants, if any of that means anything.
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