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Old 01-05-2011, 02:15 PM
 
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Merovee, I know what you mean.
But again, I'm thinking of my 3 children who are 7 and under. I don't want them to grow up feeling like they don't have a sense of belonging or community. They just go to school and come home with no outside friends. Obviously, this concerns me greatly, especially since I've seen the complete opposite in our lives. My son has even said he wants to move back to where we used to live, because he misses his old friends. We used to go over to many of his friends houses and hang out and have dinner, etc.
Just to be sure do reach out to the parents of the children your own get along with and offer to invite them over for play dates. Also if you go into it believing others are pretentious it will set up the situation in that way so the mental script is enacted out and you will walk away reinforcing your preconceived belief.

To be fair most in Alamo Heights are not big on drinking, at least not in the way most others in San Antonio drink to party, they don't idolize the Spurs in conversation even if they go to a few games, and are not usually spending all their time partying at Fiesta when it is the season but some do have their own Fiesta events.

I define all the usual interests of the ordinary citizens of greater San Antonio as far too simple-minded.

There is also the fact that many have become disconnected from their network of family which in the past, believe it or not, provided for the bulk of friends, one family was friends with another for example. Moving to another area is a surefire way to solidify this disconnection.

Now most people select friends from those they work with so if one sees their coworkers as not quite interesting then they will feel left out as others go along happily making friends with each other. Of course the other route is being friends with the parents of your children's friends though this is more typical of Alamo Heights and other areas than it is of San Antonio in general since many parents are quite uninvolved in both their own children or much less anything to do with the school their children attend.
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Old 01-05-2011, 02:16 PM
 
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I am very involved. I volunteer at my son's school one day a week. Even with having 2 other younger children. Yes, I have tried to organize a picnic at the school playground and 2 families out of 20 showed up. As I said earlier, I have reached out. When I was at my son's class party, there were other moms talking to each other about getting together ouside of school right in front of me. They never offered for me to join them.
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Rarichie, I would suggest becoming very active in school activities. Volunteer at the school if you can, join the PTA and attend the meetings. If a field trip needs a chaperone offer to be one. That way you will be able to talk to other parents and make them feel more at ease with you. You say that your son is getting any invitations to birthday parties and such, but have you extended any invitations to your son's class?
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Old 01-05-2011, 02:21 PM
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Alamo Heights has a great Little League program and their registration starts Jan 8th. I think over 1,000 kids play softball/baseball there. Check their website for further info.

AHLL Alamo Heights Little League in San Antonio, Texas

I can assure you that a lot of parents are involved in this league and it's a very nice park.

P.S. Like all Little Leagues, they are 100% volunteers.

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Old 01-05-2011, 02:24 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX, USA
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Yes, I have tried to organize a picnic at the school playground and 2 families out of 20 showed up.
I'm having a hard time coordinate some events as well.
People say they have a hard time meeting others who have the same interests so we started a group and have many members but are having a hard time getting folks to show up even though we did a poll and asked what the best times are to meet.
The best thing to do is if you want 20 to show up, you'll need to invite 50. At least that's my reasoning for the moment.
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Old 01-05-2011, 02:36 PM
 
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Yes, we are so connected via facebook, internet chat rooms, etc. But, when it comes to being out in public somewhere, oh no, we don't have time for that. Seems we are actually more disconnected than ever.
I've tried to schedule play dates with many of my son's "friends" parents and it's "Let me check my calendar...Oh, I only have one day with 30 minutes open where we don't have an extracurricular activity scheduled." Parents are over scheduling their children's lives, they don't have time to play at the park anymore. It's this sport and that sport, music, tutoring, spanish, etc., etc.

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Old 01-05-2011, 03:52 PM
 
Location: San Antonio. Tx 78209
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I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time. Are you at Cambridge or Woodridge? I would think that cambridge might be a little harder to fit into as it's a bit older money, on the other hand Woodridge should be a bit easier, I know that the Halloween carnival was a big deal there for years and it's important to participate in it.

If you are thinking of moving, I would look a little to the east to Northwood in NEISD it's as good as AHISD schools and the neighborhood is a little more diverse income wise and more relaxed.
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Old 01-05-2011, 04:57 PM
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I'm not sure that you would get the same education at MacArthur versus Alamo Hts.
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Old 01-05-2011, 05:37 PM
 
Location: San Antonio. Tx 78209
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And why would you think that rgj? The test scores are the same intact the schools in the MacArthur cluster rank at or above the Alamo heights schools.
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Old 01-05-2011, 05:47 PM
 
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rarichie it sounds like you are doing everything you can then. Sorry for your experience and hopefully it turns for the better somehow. The last thing you can do is attempt to mirror the lifestyle of other parents and hopefully a new crop will be more welcoming next year. If you dress the same chances are you will be viewed the same. If not there are other parts of the city.

Alamo Heights though has much better test scores than MacArthur. Also test scores are just a baseline which do not consider how many AP classes are available, graduation rates, how many go on to attend college, or the social climate which plays a great part in everything I just listed. In either case, no smuboy, MacArthur does not outrank Alamo Heights on test scores alone. It is doubtful it is going to excel at any other category that counts either.
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Old 01-05-2011, 05:58 PM
 
Location: San Antonio. Tx 78209
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Again I can't see where according to the TEA that Ah is superior to the MacArthur cluster. Both HS were recognized, the middle schools that feed in to the schools were rated the same except for garner which won a national blue ribbon award. The only difference was in the elementary school levels where Cambridge was rated just academically acceptable where most of the elementary schools were rated exemplary in the Mac cluster.
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