Being single in San Antonio

[Chaka]

Originally Posted by Atlguy39

Sounds like you're an extrovert and your friend is an introvert. I'm an introvert, so I have a hard time talking to random strangers.

Yes, the opportunity has to be better than what I have, but I also have to have an idea of whether I'l like the city better than where I am and have more dating opportunities. Jury is out on that. Personal life for me now is just as important as professional life and at my age its hard to start a over again and make new friends.

I'm not an extrovert but I am comfortable in social situations when I need to be. My husband is very introverted and managed to meet me ;-).

I moved to SA for a specific job, and knew it might be a challenge. So I made meeting people a priority. No, it wasn't easy. And yes, it's very hard to start over again. I'd hesitate to move just to have more social opportunities (unless you're moving from a very small town to a big city). If you're happy with your career and life outside of the dating scene, maybe re-evaluate how you approach it.

And with that, I will end my Chaka Dating Advice Column.

[Atlguy39]

Originally Posted by Chaka

I'm not an extrovert but I am comfortable in social situations when I need to be. My husband is very introverted and managed to meet me ;-).

I moved to SA for a specific job, and knew it might be a challenge. So I made meeting people a priority. No, it wasn't easy. And yes, it's very hard to start over again. I'd hesitate to move just to have more social opportunities (unless you're moving from a very small town to a big city). If you're happy with your career and life outside of the dating scene, maybe re-evaluate how you approach it.

And with that, I will end my Chaka Dating Advice Column.

Very difficult decision for me. Moving from a city with approx 1.3 million people to one with 2 million people. What percentage of those are single? Sounds like marrying young is the thing there, just like in Oklahoma, so thats no good for me. Also, people there also live in a bubble, evidently, same as here. My point is, how much of an upgrade would it be? The weather would be better, in the winter anyway. But aside from that, what would I gain? I'm too old to waste time and I want to be married. If I don't think the odds of meeting someone in my new city are good, forget it. I'm better off staying where I am because at least I've developed a social circle, small as it is.

[Azure110]

Originally Posted by Atlguy39

Chuckle if you want, but i'm talking 10-15 year age difference vs. 20. I think its totally realistic if you stay in shape. I'm 48. I should have been more specific. I mean 35-40 would be ideal.

Sorry. It wasn't a dig at you personally. If you find yourself only attracted to younger women 10+ years younger...then that is your deal.

[Atlguy39]

Originally Posted by Azure110

Sorry. It wasn't a dig at you personally. If you find yourself only attracted to younger women 10+ years younger...then that is your deal.

Not exclusively attracted to younger, but I do want kids, so its complicated.

[Pancho-Villa]

Originally Posted by Atlguy39

Very difficult decision for me. Moving from a city with approx 1.3 million people to one with 2 million people. What percentage of those are single? Sounds like marrying young is the thing there, just like in Oklahoma, so thats no good for me. Also, people there also live in a bubble, evidently, same as here. My point is, how much of an upgrade would it be? The weather would be better, in the winter anyway. But aside from that, what would I gain? I'm too old to waste time and I want to be married. If I don't think the odds of meeting someone in my new city are good, forget it. I'm better off staying where I am because at least I've developed a social circle, small as it is.

If I were you, given the circumstances, I'd stay where you are.

[Chaka]

Originally Posted by Atlguy39

Very difficult decision for me. Moving from a city with approx 1.3 million people to one with 2 million people. What percentage of those are single? Sounds like marrying young is the thing there, just like in Oklahoma, so thats no good for me. Also, people there also live in a bubble, evidently, same as here. My point is, how much of an upgrade would it be? The weather would be better, in the winter anyway. But aside from that, what would I gain? I'm too old to waste time and I want to be married. If I don't think the odds of meeting someone in my new city are good, forget it. I'm better off staying where I am because at least I've developed a social circle, small as it is.

2 million may sound like a lot, but it's spread over an enormous area. It's 465 sq miles. Sounds like the key is to expand your current social circle.