How to persuade your NY'er wife to move to San Francisco (to live, vacation)

[gone down south]

Originally Posted by NYC809

This is the same guy who's asking what he should wear in San Francisco? Uhm...probably not

Yeah, turns out he's not a New Yorker anyways, just a kid from Michigan who spent 4 years in Manhattan and suddenly became the expert on everything NYC.

[DMenscha]

If Mama don't wanna live in the Bay Area, ain't no convincin'.

If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

[clongirl]

Originally Posted by DMenscha

If Mama don't wanna live in the Bay Area, ain't no convincin'.

If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

Yup...especially if the wife has family and friends back east.

[NYC809]

Originally Posted by DMenscha

If Mama don't wanna live in the Bay Area, ain't no convincin'.

If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

Life is too short to stay in one place (with SF/Bay Area an exception to the rule!)

[k.west]

Your wife is probably saying the same thing (but replace SF with NYC)

There is nothing anyone here can say to convince her, so you two need to compromise which would be better than her moving here and being miserable and that affecting your marriage.

Once you're here from wherever it is you live, you'll get tired and start searching for someplace else within a few years. Bank on it! People who move around trying to find "paradise" are usually the problem, not whatever city they hailed from. If this place were so great everyone would be moving here, and people would be staying put but that's so far from reality.

[NYC809]

I've been living in Miami for 1.5 years and find it to be a very difficult place to live (for multiple reasons). My wife and I wanted the abroad experience, and well, we're getting it.

We're both from NY and personally, I'm done with it. Fantastic place to visit but not my cup of tea to reside in. I like a city that has a good balance of nature and urban life and it doesn't take you 1.5 hrs to get out of the city.

[k.west]

Originally Posted by NYC809

I've been living in Miami for 1.5 years and find it to be a very difficult place to live (for multiple reasons). My wife and I wanted the abroad experience, and well, we're getting it.

We're both from NY and personally, I'm done with it. Fantastic place to visit but not my cup of tea to reside in. I like a city that has a good balance of nature and urban life and it doesn't take you 1.5 hrs to get out of the city.

But your wife obviously thinks the same of SF. Fantastic place to visit but not her cup of tea to reside in.

Find a compromise and ask her what other cities she likes. Or just move to the edge of Manhattan near a bridge. Problem solved.

Or just get a divorce and move.

[Ghengis]

Tell her that you have accepted a job in NY and drive to SF mostly at night. She'll probably want to spend the first few weeks having you move furniture to different spots in the rooms and not go out much. By that time she'll be settled in and not want to have to pack up everything again.

[BayAreaHillbilly]

There are some things that are overtly better in NYC than SF (and vice versa).

SF is for the comfort seeker, the lover of the new, the person who faces the Pacific Rim, the epicure.

NYC is for the devotee of rigor, he or she who appreciates a well established place with deep roots, the person who is tied to Europe (and increasingly, the Caribbean, Africa or South America), the culture vulture.

Different strokes for different folks.

[NYC809]

Originally Posted by BayAreaHillbilly

There are some things that are overtly better in NYC than SF (and vice versa).

SF is for the comfort seeker, the lover of the new, the person who faces the Pacific Rim, the epicure.

NYC is for the devotee of rigor, he or she who appreciates a well established place with deep roots, the person who is tied to Europe (and increasingly, the Caribbean, Africa or South America), the culture vulture.

Different strokes for different folks.

BAH - That was a great response that holds true.