Dating and friendships in San Francisco.. (San Diego: fit in, transplants, for sale)

[EllenOlenska]

Originally Posted by gizmo980

There are lots of couples groups, but I don't know any names off the top of my head... Junior League is only for women, which is kind of the point. It's not "segregation," but rather a chance for women to bond through community service - since most of them are married w/ kids, and could use an occasional night out with the girls. Don't you get enough time with your man at home?

I don't have a man, hence the looking for coed clubs

[gizmo980]

Originally Posted by EllenOlenska

I don't have a man, hence the looking for coed clubs

Ah-ha... Sorry, I got confused since we switched gears halfway through. In that case, you should join a singles club! I'll let you know if I think of any good ones, since the only ones I've attended are for Jewish singles - which I assume (correct me if I'm wrong) you aren't. Not that we'd turn you away, but most of the guys are specifically seeking Jewish gals & vice versa.

[NorthernCalifornia]

You don't need to ask the guys out directly but letting them see that you're interested is a good idea. male/female friendships are common so it's not assumed that there's a romantic interest when dealing with the opposite sex. This can be very frustrating for people not from the west coast but it's normal if you're from this part of the country.

As for meeting people you can do it everywhere. When new in town take every decent opportunity to get out of the house with different types of people and you'll quickly figure out how many social worlds exist here and how much most of them overlap. The cliquish hipster types tend to cluster together and avoiding them entirely is advisable as they're mostly not worth the effort anyhow...

[EllenOlenska]

I love being involved in the community. But once I graduate my my Master's program, I'll be working long hours, so I can't join something that requires too much of a time commitment. However, that is my preferred way of meeting friends and love interests.

Keep me posted if you find any civic oriented groups that are co-ed !

[EllenOlenska]

I just ordered a book on Amazon called Connecting in San Francisco. Seemed interesting. I'll update when I get it.

[rexthedestroyer]

If you are a woman who is having a hard time meeting men (in any city), then you might not be the most attractive person. Work on your looks and your dating life will improve exponentially.

To the fellas, I have found that Michaels is a great place to meet women. I had to go there often last feburary (work project), and every tme I went there I saw some very pretty women.

[EllenOlenska]

Originally Posted by rexthedestroyer

If you are a woman who is having a hard time meeting men (in any city), then you might not be the most attractive person. Work on your looks and your dating life will improve exponentially.

To the fellas, I have found that Michaels is a great place to meet women. I had to go there often last feburary (work project), and every tme I went there I saw some very pretty women.

My looks are fine, thanks. But being pretty isn't the only thing women need to find and sustain a relationship.

[tkindred]

Originally Posted by rexthedestroyer

If you are a woman who is having a hard time meeting men (in any city), then you might not be the most attractive person. Work on your looks and your dating life will improve exponentially.

To the fellas, I have found that Michaels is a great place to meet women. I had to go there often last feburary (work project), and every tme I went there I saw some very pretty women.

Your post made me laugh. Thanks.

[NorthernCalifornia]

seriously, the best way to meet men in sf is to RELAX. there's nothing less attractive than a woman who is shopping for a man, a relationship, a marriage, a family and a life when all the guy is looking for is some decent conversation and a chance to get to know someone before thinking at all about these things.

this kind of stuff is where you begin to discover the "cultural differences" of the different parts of the USA. people not from the west coast often have absolutely no idea how to deal with people who are from here because their approach to gender relationships, in particular, can be very different than what you're used to.

in my experience most people have a harder time opening their mind than they'd like to believe and few ever admit that part of their problem meeting people in SF is they're uptight and this isn't such an uptight place.

believe me, as someone who is from the wets coast, we can spot the difference immediately.

[norcalmom101]

Originally Posted by moxiezbug

What is the situation like in San Jose?

I've heard it referred to as "man-jose" because of the scarcity of eligible women compared to the number of eligible men.