Do Seattle's women hate black men in general or something?

[Molli]

I treat men as though they are an individual and try to get to know them that way. I appreciate when men do the same way. No matter the color of your skin, I wouldn't be interested due to your general attitudes about women in general.

[MassNative2891]

I thought Seattle people were just un-friendly in general? Isn't that what the whole "Seattle Freeze" is about?

[mateo45]

Wow, hot topic! So obviously there's a surprising amount of "interest", regardless whatever the supposed level of "diversity" in Seattle!

BTW, in a local culture that's famous for its emotional 'reticence', "pseudo-politeness", and "passive aggression", how would one even know whether they're dealing with discrimination or not?

[revelated]

Women are friendly out here. Doesn't matter the race.
Women don't want to date men with darker skin, out here.

Reality of the area.

[satchseven]

is this a joke i am a 55 yr old black man and meet all kinds of women here .now every white woman is not feling bros, big deal a ton of them in seattle do,but there are a lots of other women of color here to date also

[salmon5046]

You shouldn't give up on finding a loving women .i know for sure that, their are plenty of women out there that will see you as good trusting man.keep calm and don't give up hope, and please know that love has no color. It shouldn't matter whether women are white or black, it's about who they truly are ,not about how dark or light they are.As a black girl, i just wanted to give advice to brother.

[JenToland88]

Originally Posted by blueshogun96

NOTE: If you are one of those overly sensitive people who tend to take things personally and easily get their feelings hurt over someone's opinions or negative experiences posted on an insignificant internet forum, then I suggest you not read this post and maybe grow up a little before reading it. You've been warned.

This is something I've been pondering for quite a while now as I see more and more women who are more or less blatant when they say they don't like black men. Why is this? I'm an ambitious and well educated single black man who is a game programmer forming his own Ltd. and strives to be a better person everyday. While I don't consider myself "actively looking" mainly because I don't have time for anymore of that dating nonsense and the games that women tend to play, I do periodically browse dating ads and what not to see what's available. I've been to many places (coast to coast), and I've never in my life seen a city with so many women that say that they want nothing to do with a black man in particular!

Quite frankly, I've been to Tennessee (a state that's rumored to be racist) and the women there were nicer to me than anywhere I've ever been, ever. Here, the most common excuse I see is "I don't date black men" both online and in person. This is coming from both black and white women. Why is this? What makes us so undesirable? I don't have the nasty ghetto attitude, smoke weed or do drugs, wear baggy and sagging clothes, or listen to that stupid booty gorilla noise known as rap either, so what's the problem? I understand that people have preferences and it's okay to be honest about them; even I have my own. But I never say "I don't date black women" because "OMG u is sooooo racist!!!!"

Don't get me wrong, I could honestly care less who likes me and who doesn't, especially women because I've had to deal with their biased criticism so long (mainly because I couldn't finish my degree and because my income level is less) it doesn't even effect me (and no, I'm not sexist, anymore). Also, if you plan to respond with "Not all women are like that" and other similar statements, please do me a favour and just save it! I never said the word "all", you did. I did say "in general", meaning that for many it's generally true. I'm not the only one who notices this either.

I love this city, just not it's women, that's for sure. This is a city I can only recommend to black men who have a good head on their shoulders and want to pursue a great IT career, not a place to do that and find a good wife that doesn't love you for your money/status. I don't recommend searching the haystack for a needle either. There are exceptions to every rule, even a broken clock is right twice a day.

Thoughts?

Shogun.

First off, I am so very sorry that you have encountered so many rude women. I am surprised, given that there are so many mixed race couples around here. Speaking only for myself, when I have rejected a man's advances, race was never the deciding factor (character and compatibility are, at least for me, what I look for). I hope you don't let this get you down. There are good women out there. Unfortunately, it is the rude, nasty ones that make it hard for the rest of us.
Wishing you well.

[UrbanAdventurer]

It's okay even us handsome cracka a*s crackas get shot down by the ladies. They a fickle bunch lol