[Social] - meeting women in Seattle

[Ruth4Truth]

OP, yours is a question more appropriate for the Relationships forum. How do you normally meet women? Seattle is no different.

One of the popular things in town is the main hiking club, the Mountaineers. They have singles hikes and singles activities in town in the winter. Same with the REI store, the recreational equipment store. They have travel seminars, rockclimbing workshops, etc. There are a couple of bookstores in town that are popular and have a regular schedule of guest speakers/author booksignings. One has a small cafeteria in the basement, and is a popular hangout with some people. It all depends on what your interests are. There's a lake north of the university with a walking/running/skating/bike path all the way around, where people go after work and on weekends, and for swimming in spring/summer. It's a great place to meet women. The public market downtown is a good place to strike up conversation with someone. There's a monthly art walk night, for socializing at the art galleries. Lots of possibilities, OP.

[RotseCherut]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

OP, yours is a question more appropriate for the Relationships forum. How do you normally meet women? Seattle is no different.

There's a lake north of the university with a walking/running/skating/bike path all the way around, where people go after work and on weekends, and for swimming in spring/summer. It's a great place to meet women.

That lake north of the university is a much better place to get pepper sprayed by a woman than to find a woman for a date. Considering all the kidnappings/stalkings reported by the news and paranoia I feel from people around Green Lake, I have found it to be anything but an inviting place to go chat up with strangers. There are some good reasons, as there are not only a lot of potential criminals lurking, but also conmen. I ended up hanging out with some guy I met at the pull up bar area on the South Side of the lake and thought I found myself a friend and a workout partner. Turns out, the guy was actually trying to meet people to con them out of money and he wanted to meet with me and some strange people he said needed to talk to me about potential business deal, etc. When were you at Green Lake last? I find the atmosphere, anything but friendly or social and find most women seem very intimidated. Most people seem to be wearing their ear buds and jogging or riding bikes.

I found the atmosphere around Alki Beach a bit more relaxed and seemed to be somewhat of a social atmosphere there in comparison to Green Lake.

To be honest, meeting strangers, whether it be men or women in any public area, like a park, lake or even just walking around the street in Seattle is really not a great idea. People are pretty mistrusting to overly friendly strangers and you will probably find you will intimidate more people than make friends or pick up a date.

The other ideas like hiking groups and such are more feasible. Despite Seattle having a low crime rate, I find people pretty mistrusting and paranoid about strangers. You have to enter into people's comfort zones.

[lookintomove15]

Originally Posted by lostsoul2015

Hey all.
I have visited Seattle on and off for a while and in the process of moving here. I love the people (or at least I did...) in terms of how nice and kind they are.
One thing I have noticed is that, it seems difficult to meet women? OK, so I am not "drop dead hot". I have a lot more to offer than the appearance. I've tried the usual websites like match but seems that in general, there aren't many women who are willing to follow up or interact.

I know it must be me but it is a big decision for me to make whether to move here or not. My business is essentially "virtual", so I can be anywhere I want to be but I would love to be in Seattle due to the tech jobs and the climate is similar to where I am from originally.

Maybe I am nervous too but I know that I feel, at the moment, just an invisible object. I don't mean that I expect women to just drop dead in front of me or anything of the sort but still, it would be good to know where and how or what the protocol is to meet women?

welcome any pointers!

Get a Seattle hooker!

[homesinseattle]

I've said it before, I'll say it again. Get out in nature, in the mountains, on trails. Healthy, happy, good-natured people are out there.

[treuphax]

Originally Posted by lostsoul2015

thanks! I think the problem here is that I do not currently live in Seattle and know very little about places. I keep hearing that usually women ask men out or women do put in effort. I am from Europe so things are different over there.

I've just returned to the US after living over a decade in Europe. I don't know if it's a new world, a new era or I'm just getting to a stage of life it's hard to meet and make deep connections to new friends. Maybe it's culture shock too.... I never lived before in Seattle nor have I ever lived in the US as a 30+ man. I don't necessarily put too much stock in the idea of "the Seattle Freeze." There are too many confounding factors. Nevertheless I would like to see a "scientific" investigation of the matter with good hard data and comparisons to other metropoles, regions and cultures.

I'll private message you Mr. lostsoul. I'm not sure I can be much help, but perhaps it's a nut that can be cracked with some inspiration and company? Maybe it would just be two sad blind guys trying to find the way... Most of the people I know are already in relationships or completely age inappropriate... too old or too young ... or have given up and aren't willing to try.

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

OP, yours is a question more appropriate for the Relationships forum. How do you normally meet women? Seattle is no different.

One of the popular things in town is the main hiking club, the Mountaineers. They have singles hikes and singles activities in town in the winter. Same with the REI store, the recreational equipment store. They have travel seminars, rockclimbing workshops, etc. There are a couple of bookstores in town that are popular and have a regular schedule of guest speakers/author booksignings. One has a small cafeteria in the basement, and is a popular hangout with some people. It all depends on what your interests are. There's a lake north of the university with a walking/running/skating/bike path all the way around, where people go after work and on weekends, and for swimming in spring/summer. It's a great place to meet women. The public market downtown is a good place to strike up conversation with someone. There's a monthly art walk night, for socializing at the art galleries. Lots of possibilities, OP.

Sounds promising... but my experience hasn't been very fruitful... not to say that it shouldn't be tried. Have already done about six or seven REI excursions - mountain biking, kayaking twice, paddleboarding, snowshoeing, but the participants' ages tended to be quite high >50 and almost all were already there in the company of their sweeties. Fun was had nonetheless even if it wasn't fertile hunting grounds. Try it yourself.

Originally Posted by homesinseattle

I've said it before, I'll say it again. Get out in nature, in the mountains, on trails. Healthy, happy, good-natured people are out there.

I really like this idea, but I haven't been able to figure out how to make this work in practice. These are things I actually like doing, and I wouldn't have to fake interest in things like art galleries, ballroom dancing, church, etc just to meet women under false pretenses. Furthermore, the healthy and wholesome ladies I see in that context are just my cup of tea. I do already go cycling or hiking alone, but being out in nature one doesn't necessarily have a chance to convert a brief encounter with a lady as one speeds along a path in opposite direction with her ears plugged with her personal playlist. If anybody can give some practical tips (perhaps based on personal successful experience...) on how this could actually work, eg how to get her to stop and open such a conversation, I'd be very interested and grateful for your sharing. Ladies, surely you've been on the receiving end of some charming and effective come-ons. Rather than just suggesting it's easy, do share! Perhaps for us dense foreigners, consider including some nice diagrams with figures and arrows like in a football playbook. Mr. LostSoul, I and however many other gentle lurkers kindly thank you!

[GatsbyGatz]

Downtown Bellevue surprisingly has tons of woo girls in cocktail dresses if that's your sort of thing. They mostly hang out around Lucky Strike.