Is the dating scene really that difficult for guys in Seattle? (salary, live)

[Ro2113]

Originally Posted by BadgerFilms

One thing this thread and many others have shone on is; women need to avoid men who use words like "alpha-beta/male/female" like the plague. Those guys are classic Dennis Reynolds types. Avoid at all costs!

Don't forget using "Chad" as a catch all description for men who do well dating women instead of a guy's name.

Seriously dudes that use these terms are outing themselves as lame as f.

[thatguy950]

Originally Posted by Ro2113

Don't forget using "Chad" as a catch all description for men who do well dating women instead of a guy's name.

Seriously dudes that use these terms are outing themselves as lame as f.

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[AleeGee]

Why does the 23-33 set stress over dating so much? It's very simple: you move to Seattle for a job, and you either will or won't find someone. If you don't, you leave Seattle and find another job in a more suitable dating arena for yourself. You could always send away for a mail order bride. You'd never be alone again because her whole family will eventually follow her here.

[usamathman]

Originally Posted by AleeGee

Why does the 23-33 set stress over dating so much? It's very simple: you move to Seattle for a job, and you either will or won't find someone. If you don't, you leave Seattle and find another job in a more suitable dating arena for yourself. You could always send away for a mail order bride. You'd never be alone again because her whole family will eventually follow her here.

Porn will only get one so far. Men like companionship. They want to be around women. Have sex. You know things that men should like. Nothing wrong with wanting to have these things.

There are better places that can offer men both good work opportunities and suitable dating options. Seattle in my opinion isn't at the top of that list.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by usamathman

Porn will only get one so far. Men like companionship. They want to be around women. Have sex. You know things that men should like. Nothing wrong with wanting to have these things.
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I would say it's a little more complicated than that. Why is it, when Seattle men are in social situations around women, they ignore the women? Even if the women make an effort to start conversations with them? If they want companionship, why don't they at least chat with the women at the singles mixer event, when they have the chance? I think Seattle men are, in fact, looking for a roomful of models, or babes, not a roomful of real, everyday, basic women.

[usamathman]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

I would say it's a little more complicated than that. Why is it, when Seattle men are in social situations around women, they ignore the women? Even if the women make an effort to start conversations with them? If they want companionship, why don't they at least chat with the women at the singles mixer event, when they have the chance? I think Seattle men are, in fact, looking for a roomful of models, or babes, not a roomful of real, everyday, basic women.

Tech guys are not necessarily know to be the most outgoing and charismatic people. Many are shy and reserved.

Add to this the fact that people here INCLUDING women rarely make eye contact and you've got a pretty tough situation for guys.

The majority of men are going to be looking for some type of sign or signal that you are approachable. A smile, glance or move to closer proximity usually provides the green light they need. From what I've heard and experienced with the ladies here, it doesn't happen as often as in other cities.

Seems like a perfect storm when you have passive males mixed with women who have no idea or desire to initiate interest in a man.

I'm a pretty outgoing guy and I've noticed the disconnect with both men and women. Ive had women go out of their way to make eye contact and smile, while I've had other women look at me like I was a ghost when I said hello.

Rejection doesn't bother me, but for most of the guys here in Seattle it can be a real problem.

I talk to women at work everyday that complain about the men here either being super weird or not being as outgoing as they would like. But they never complain about the lack of options.

On the other spectrum, men here complain that the women seem aloof, flakey and uninterested.

Sounds like a real problem on BOTH ends to me.

I'm sure this isn't the case for everybody. Takes a "real hunter" of a man to make it work here. I don't think it's worth it.

[CoastieTX]

My line of work is mostly made up of young, college-educated, well-paid young men. They’re in shape and what you would call “alpha” males. They’re from all over, they’re not awkward, and they have success with women. The consensus among them is that the Vancouver, BC metro area offers a better dating scene than Seattle metro. They’re finding their wives and girlfriends by going north, not south.

I could sit here and analyze why this is, but I’ll just repeat what they say about it: “People in Seattle are weird.”

[elkotronics]

“People in Seattle are weird.”

Interesting thing ta say about the people from my home town.

[Arushan]

Some years back - at a nerd-ish convention in Seattle my male friend decided that he wanted to pursue a lady he met there at a previous year. He was a very positive plus bold guy and knew to go for what he wanted - not creepy in the least. This lady actually ended up calling the cops on him for "harassing" her. He ended up with a warning, but he was devastated. This is only one anecdote, but from my + multiple friends' experiences and observations, while certain things can be common and accepted in other parts of the country - you might likely have a poor reception in Seattle. You absolutely have to be subtle! Sure, the men in Seattle tend to be reserved, but the women are even more so. I'm sure a part of it is the long-term effects of being accosted by drunk panhandlers and other types all the time - It can bring out certain defensive behaviors over enough time, I'm sure.

[87112]

Yes, this area is VERY formal. I have worked in an office enviroment where young ladies in the same dept will not talk to same age- same race group for years out of fear of being hit on.

You have to read between the lines whether you have permission to make a sentence or two in the pursuing mode.

If you're not in the top 10 percent that is attractive to the 90 percent its can be a real challenge.