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Old 01-02-2012, 06:34 PM
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I've never had long-term interactions with those of special-needs, especially adults with disabiliites.

After becoming interested in working with those with special needs, I applied for positions to work in a group home. When I thought about working in a group home, I assumed I'd be working with those who could walk by themselves, and do many of the tasks others would be able to do, just with more assistance, encouragement and supervision.

I was placed in a home where all but one are incapable of walking. They need their diapers changed, they need to be carried and put on the toliet, shower, or bed to be changed. There is one with a feeding tube who needs to be fed throughout the day.

I am in great stress due to the fact that I do not have a medical background, I am barely in my 20's and have never seen really any grown naked person before in person besides immediate family members (breast) and my friend several years ago.

I'm a virgin, have only seen my friend's penis when we were making out and this all happened during my teens. Without any warning, the first day of training I was exposed to a penis of a grown man's and I had no idea what to do or how to feel. Not only that, but the next day of training I was exposed to more genitals (all male). Of course, I am expected to wipe them and change their diapers and maneauver their gentials around to be better fitted for their diapers but... It's just a bit too much for me. Although, maybe I am being dramatic.

All of the women taking care of these specific people have had medical experience before, all of them have children, obviously have had sex and have seen the male organ plenty of times.

I have not gone through any of these experiences.

I feel lost and alone because I want to help my "clients" but this is SO overwhelming to me.

I spoke with the manager and she became somewhat defensive when I told her my discomfort.

Am I prude? Am I being overly dramatic? Will I get used to this? Will this affect my future sex life?

I never knew how emotional this would be. It's like entering a different world when you enter a group home, especially when the disabilities are moderate to severe...

Last edited by Beilua Rose; 01-02-2012 at 06:46 PM..
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Old 01-02-2012, 08:23 PM
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You are probably not a prude. You were not trained properly prior to starting this job. Not all group homes are like this. In many group homes, the adults or teens are capable of self-care to an extent. I do think you should probably work in a different job rather than this one. You are young and if this is uncomfortable, there is no reason not to look for a job where the clients are less severe.
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Old 01-03-2012, 04:24 AM
Location: Rogers, Arkansas
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It sounds like you didn't fully research the job you got into. I admire you for wanting to work with special needs clients, but there will be issues; even in places where clients tend to be more able there may be accidents, or clients who don't understand personal boundaries due to their disabilities. If you feel uncomfortable, then do not stay in the job; look for a job in a home with women only maybe, or go back to college and obtain a medical degree if that is what interests you.

I don't see how it would affect your future sex life; you are not doing anything sexual with these clients.
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