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Old 03-22-2015, 04:35 PM
 
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However, the problem with this is that my maturity is still lagging to the teenage level due to my disorder and they start to think of me as the big kid in school.
I'm starting to not believe your posts. How is your maturity lagging?

Any behavior that you can identify is behavior you can modify. You have to choose to change.
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Old 03-22-2015, 05:06 PM
 
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I have trouble handling disputes between peers and can get very obsessed with revenge sometimes. I've even gotten coworkers in the past in trouble with the top of the company or fired for the purpose of revenge.
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Old 03-22-2015, 05:33 PM
 
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If you are conscious of your behavior, you can consciously elect to change it. Autism is not an excuse, particularly when you have this level of self-awareness. Your behavior is as much a choice as anyone else's.
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Old 03-22-2015, 08:15 PM
 
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Autism isn't an excuse, but the behaviors are often impulsive, which means the awareness isn't there until after the fact, and if you think just because someone with autism is aware of their behavior that their disorder is unrelated to it, then you don't know anyone with autism really well.
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Old 03-22-2015, 08:44 PM
 
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Autism isn't an excuse, but the behaviors are often impulsive, which means the awareness isn't there until after the fact, and if you think just because someone with autism is aware of their behavior that their disorder is unrelated to it, then you don't know anyone with autism really well.
False.

At any rate, if you really do feel that you are truly categorically unable to learn strategies to address your impulsivity issues, you will find that nearly all employment will become very difficult for you, not just employment working with children. But an inability to control impulsivity when working with children is going to be considered a large liability virtually everywhere you might work.
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Old 03-22-2015, 08:54 PM
 
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False.

At any rate, if you really do feel that you are truly categorically unable to learn strategies to address your impulsivity issues, you will find that nearly all employment will become very difficult for you, not just employment working with children. But an inability to control impulsivity when working with children is going to be considered a large liability virtually everywhere you might work.
The impulse control doesn't take form in violence and threats the way it did when I was a child and very young adult anymore. Now the impulse control has more become making off-handed remarks or making a sarcastic comment that offends someone. This has been what I've been working on though, and I'm working on eliminating sarcasm in a professional environment given that it has often resulted in some behavior issues because it has set a bad tone for the classroom.
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Old 03-22-2015, 10:09 PM
 
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The impulse control doesn't take form in violence and threats the way it did when I was a child and very young adult anymore. Now the impulse control has more become making off-handed remarks or making a sarcastic comment that offends someone. This has been what I've been working on though, and I'm working on eliminating sarcasm in a professional environment given that it has often resulted in some behavior issues because it has set a bad tone for the classroom.
Lack of impulse control does not have to involve violence or threats to be a huge liability in a work situation. Lack of impluse control is the problem, regardless of the form it takes. Running around impulsively hugging people, for instance, would be a problem in a work situation - especially one involving children.

You will soon no longer be the student, where great effort is made to find a way for you to be successful. Teachers are granted very few accommodations, they are supposed to be the ones providing them to their students. Contrary to public opinion, not everyone can be a teacher, and wanting to be one is not always enough, you have to be capable of doing a job that is often under heavy public scrutiny.
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Old 03-22-2015, 10:42 PM
 
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I like when the kids at summer camp come up for hugs and we are a family environment there, so nobody bats an eye, but I can see how it would be considered awkward at public school, especially since I wouldn't hug all the kids, so it would be somehow considered playing favorites too which I wouldn't do. That's not necessarily an impulse of mine though, I just didn't like being told that I shouldn't do that because I'm a man. Any policy on that should apply to everyone.
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Old 03-23-2015, 12:00 AM
 
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I like when the kids at summer camp come up for hugs and we are a family environment there, so nobody bats an eye, but I can see how it would be considered awkward at public school, especially since I wouldn't hug all the kids, so it would be somehow considered playing favorites too which I wouldn't do. That's not necessarily an impulse of mine though, I just didn't like being told that I shouldn't do that because I'm a man. Any policy on that should apply to everyone.
In my experience, women are held to the same standards.
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Old 03-23-2015, 12:43 AM
 
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Yeah, but in a prior post awhile back I mentioned about being told specifically I should never hug any kids because I'm a man, but she does it because she is a woman.
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