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Old 01-06-2016, 08:28 AM
 
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There is nothing to do here and people do not like "outsiders". The way of life in the south is totally different from up north.
What an absolutely absurd thing to say. You moved from a cosmopolitan city of 2.7 million to a farming town of 5,000. What did you expect?

As far as "people do not like outsiders," what another absurd thing to say. I don't live very far from you and am an "outsider." I have had zero problems making friends. And among my friends there are of course lots of locals but also people from California, Arizona, Oregon, Washington, Utah, Wyoming, Idaho, Texas, Kansas, Ohio, Michigan, Illinois, Indiana, Pennsylvania, New Jersey, Maine, Canada, Tonga, Honduras, Mexico, Brazil, and others. Every one of them is happy as a lark in rural Tennessee.
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Old 01-06-2016, 08:55 AM
 
Location: Sparta, TN
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What an absolutely absurd thing to say. You moved from a cosmopolitan city of 2.7 million to a farming town of 5,000. What did you expect?

As far as "people do not like outsiders," what another absurd thing to say. I don't live very far from you and am an "outsider." I have had zero problems making friends. And among my friends there are of course lots of locals but also people from California, Arizona, Oregon, Washington, Utah, Wyoming, Idaho, Texas, Kansas, Ohio, Michigan, Illinois, Indiana, Pennsylvania, New Jersey, Maine, Canada, Tonga, Honduras, Mexico, Brazil, and others. Every one of them is happy as a lark in rural Tennessee.
It was not my choice to move here, but my husband. I did not live in Chicago but the in the suburbs. I am constantly referred to as a "Yankee" and find that it is very click-ish here and am not alone in my thinking. There is no such thing as "southern hospitality" here either. I miss the north
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Old 01-07-2016, 08:11 AM
 
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JMT, I am really surprised by your remark. You live in a college town and I will presume your multinational friends live in nearby rural areas and come to that town to socialize.

Sparta has an attractive little downtown but what does it have to attract outsiders? There may be things dogluver could do to increase social skills but to compare it to a college town seems ridiculous.

You know one of my pet peeves here is people painting states and regions with a broad brush. It works both ways. That's the beauty of city-data, you can ask what cities/towns are more friendly to outsiders. I get your point that the individual attitude matters but some towns will be more welcoming than others. Even when they are close geographically.
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Old 01-07-2016, 08:25 AM
 
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JMT, I am really surprised by your remark. You live in a college town and I will presume your multinational friends live in nearby rural areas and come to that town to socialize.

Sparta has an attractive little downtown but what does it have to attract outsiders? There may be things dogluver could do to increase social skills but to compare it to a college town seems ridiculous.

You know one of my pet peeves here is people painting states and regions with a broad brush. It works both ways. That's the beauty of city-data, you can ask what cities/towns are more friendly to outsiders. I get your point that the individual attitude matters but some towns will be more welcoming than others. Even when they are close geographically.
Nope. I live in the middle of nowhere, 8 miles from the nearest gas station. My entire ZIP code has only about 600 people. Sparta is a big city compared to where I live, and Sparta is a heck of a lot closer to a university than I am. I have neighbors who just moved down the holler from England and other neighbors from the Midwest (Ohio and Indiana). They love it here. For that matter, I have friends in rural White County (Sparta) from Illinois who've been in White County for over 20 years and have no plans to ever leave. And none of them has anything to do with any university around here.
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Old 01-07-2016, 08:44 AM
 
Location: WI & TN
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We bought a tract of land last April in Sale Creek. What my wife and I found surprisingly pleasant was how friendly everyone in the area is.
We went back to the property in November to walk the boundaries and meet up with a forum member from here. We ended up touring the county side for a couple of hours with him. I also noticed that our new neighbors would wave as they drove by, that rarely happens up north.
Both my wife and I can't wait until we can move there.
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Old 01-07-2016, 09:51 AM
 
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That is very interesting, JMT.

Unless you are near Waverly, you can color me surprised. I thought you lived further north. What do you think brings the international contingent to your zip code?

Waverly is an interesting case. I drove through last summer on the scenic route from Franklin to Fall Creek Falls - and must admit it pinged my gentrification radar even just driving by on the highway. The funny thing is I had no idea the town even existed. Then I read the NYT article a few weeks later and it proves that all small rural Tennessee towns are not alike.

How does transplant like Dogluver go about making friends in a small rural community?
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Old 01-07-2016, 12:50 PM
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Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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How does transplant like Dogluver go about making friends in a small rural community?
Not JMT but butting in anyway (is anyone surprised, lol?) but my first suggestion for her would be to quit taking offense at being called a yankee. She is a yankee, so am I, so are lots of other people in TN. It's just a simple statement of fact and everyone who uses that word is not out to hurt or offend or make people feel like an outsider.

Secondly, maybe a realization that cliques are everywhere, small towns to large cities. Unless you move to a neighborhood or community that has a heavy transplant population I think that is something most people have to deal with when they move. If dogluver moved to an area where she doesn't have much in common with the locals (big city surburbanite to small farm town?) that makes things even tougher, but it would be up to her to put herself out there and be proactive in trying to find that common ground if it exists.
Checking with the local library to see if they host groups or clubs or have some kind of community bulletin board for such things might be an idea, also she may need to be open to the idea of trying new things. Maybe singing karaoke at the local VFW could turn into her favorite new pastime.
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Old 01-07-2016, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Soddy Daisy, TN
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We bought a tract of land last April in Sale Creek. What my wife and I found surprisingly pleasant was how friendly everyone in the area is.
We went back to the property in November to walk the boundaries and meet up with a forum member from here. We ended up touring the county side for a couple of hours with him. I also noticed that our new neighbors would wave as they drove by, that rarely happens up north.
Both my wife and I can't wait until we can move there.
Howdy neighbor. I'm currently building in the south end of sale creek.
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Old 01-07-2016, 03:05 PM
 
Location: Dothan AL
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If I could take the cold, Chattanooga would be more my taste. It has a charm about it and has great countryside. I do not care for nightlife, so, my opinion is vacant on that aspect.
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Old 01-07-2016, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Dothan AL
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Not JMT but butting in anyway (is anyone surprised, lol?) but my first suggestion for her would be to quit taking offense at being called a yankee. She is a yankee, so am I, so are lots of other people in TN. It's just a simple statement of fact and everyone who uses that word is not out to hurt or offend or make people feel like an outsider.
I wish most people would share this attitude, as it only means you are not from the South, there are some differences, yet one is not better than the other.
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