Dating in Abilene (living in, pool, areas)

[C24L]

Originally Posted by supfromthesite

Big city is still your best bet though. Northwest San Antonio, North Dallas, Fort Worth
I get the feeling the only pretty girls in Midland are already married

why do you think the big cities are my best bet because its seems like there would be too much competition for girls there?Ya pretty much the only pretty girls here are either in a relationship married or are engaged.

[supfromthesite]

Just the numbers. There are more people in a large city. I don't know what small city has a lot of single girls. Towns have almost none

[C24L]

Originally Posted by supfromthesite

Just the numbers. There are more people in a large city. I don't know what small city has a lot of single girls. Towns have almost none

okay i read recently in an article that its really hard to find someone in a big city.I guess maybe some reasons is theres so many different options and the competition is fierce and intense.

[RJ312]

Originally Posted by C24L

why do you think the big cities are my best bet because its seems like there would be too much competition for girls there?Ya pretty much the only pretty girls here are either in a relationship married or are engaged.

Originally Posted by C24L

okay i read recently in an article that its really hard to find someone in a big city.I guess maybe some reasons is theres so many different options and the competition is fierce and intense.

There is a ton of competition in the big cities. Dallas is a ferocious dating environment. Due to the oversupply of men in Dallas, and most U.S. big cities, women have their pick of the litter and can drive a pretty hard bargain. With women in Dallas, there is immense choice and women are loathe to settle on anything here because they really do not have to do so. Sometimes they drive too hard of a bargain and end up alone.



The most successful people that I've known with dating and relationships grew up in a midsized city and remained in that midsized city in their adult lives, fostering social connections. The combination of a strong social circle and limited but not too small of choices was the perfect storm of conditions to make sustainable results achievable.

[StealthRabbit]

'Quality' can be very good in small towns, but... you may find that small town gal in a college / bigger town

I would head to Moorhead, MN! and take a lot of co-ed 'adult ed' / community classes! (swimming / tennis, / Basketball, photography / cooking...)

Farm / Ranch stock is usually tall, lean, and capable. And will stick with you forever. (and it will be pleasant!)

(Fortunately neither I, my spouse, or our kids ever had to DATE... ) Dating is a very poor strategy for finding a 'keeper'. There are a lot more FUN and genuine ways to meet and grow a 'forever' bond together.

[RJ312]

Originally Posted by StealthRabbit

'Quality' can be very good in small towns, but... you may find that small town gal in a college / bigger town

I would head to Moorhead, MN! and take a lot of co-ed 'adult ed' / community classes! (swimming / tennis, / Basketball, photography / cooking...)

Farm / Ranch stock is usually tall, lean, and capable. And will stick with you forever. (and it will be pleasant!)

(Fortunately neither I, my spouse, or our kids ever had to DATE... ) Dating is a very poor strategy for finding a 'keeper'. There are a lot more FUN and genuine ways to meet and grow a 'forever' bond together.

I would call of all of this accurate. What's the definition of small town?

In my experience, I would call any area with a population of less than 100,000 small. Dating in metro areas with less than 100,000 leads to problems in available partners in the dating pool. In an area with a population of less than 100,000, the most successful people in relationships met their long term romantic partner either in high school or at a local college in that area. If one happens to be living in an area of less than 100,000 and do not have a student and/or college affiliation, putting together extended relationships becomes quite challenging. These are the types of people who end up moving to big cities like Dallas, Houston, San Antonio, and Austin. They needed a larger pool of prospects. Then they are often start to deal with ferocious dating environments like Dallas that offer the paradox of too much choice.

Agree on finding females with a farming/ranching/rural background. These are better prospects than women who grew up in suburban cul-de-sacs (a lot of Millennial white women fit this description) or dense urban areas.

Western style dating has done a rather poor job in producing high quality sustainable relationships.

[Diws]

Abilene has the ACU students so you want Church of Christ that would be a good place to start. But from a cursory examination of some of your postings your criteria, exacerbated by the religious stuff, seems incredibly narrow to the point of being self defeating. Might be best off going for n evangelical convert from Africa, Asia etc since your requirements are so specific. I had a kind of similar situation when I was younger in that I was looking for a moral, Catholic or Orthodox girl, and experienced the rather plastic Dallas dating scene firsthand.

[supfromthesite]

You can find fine girls without having to look in another continent you just have to be patient.

[C24L]

Originally Posted by Diws

Abilene has the ACU students so you want Church of Christ that would be a good place to start. But from a cursory examination of some of your postings your criteria, exacerbated by the religious stuff, seems incredibly narrow to the point of being self defeating. Might be best off going for n evangelical convert from Africa, Asia etc since your requirements are so specific. I had a kind of similar situation when I was younger in that I was looking for a moral, Catholic or Orthodox girl, and experienced the rather plastic Dallas dating scene firsthand.

Well I think il pass on going to Africa or Asia but thats just me.thanks for the suggestion though.

[Diws]

Originally Posted by C24L

Well I think il pass on going to Africa or Asia but thats just me.thanks for the suggestion though.

I said, "from Asia or Africa", not necessarily, "currently living in Asia or Africa" (I do know some evangelical Christians who have met their spouses overseas, too). My point is that you should consider expanding your pool of marriageable women, or else look in those areas and demographics where a woman meeting your criteria could be more likely found. In my cursory reading of your posts, my impression is that you are pretty hidebound, and are your own worst enemy where this is concerned. I hope that you take this in the constructive manner in which it is intended; as I mentioned I am not without sympathy here.