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Old 06-10-2021, 09:58 PM
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Sometimes I enjoy going to places or events by myself, but I am self-conscious about it (especially if I am, say , eating alone at a restaurant). I see other people with their friends and feel like I should be hanging out with someone rather than going to so many places alone. I would like to do some traveling but I am kinda afraid to go to a different city alone. What if I get lost or have trouble making it back to my hotel? Also it is expensive to travel alone but anyway that's not the point of this post. I want to learn to rely on me and only me for a good time
I’ve been led to believe that people who eat alone tip better. So wait staff love us.

Trying to cook for one, trying to do it in the midst of grief, it’s just awful. I started eating out usually lunch a few times a week. For dinner I’d open up a salad box toss it in a bowl, add some cheese, some tomatoes, a few other things and I was done.
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Old 06-15-2021, 06:28 PM
 
Location: Upland, CA
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I've done solo trips several times since my divorce because it was either that or stay home doing nothing. Results were mixed. Best experience I had was a singles cruise. I also went to Argentina alone to meet a woman. We had no chemistry, but a good time as friends and she showed me around. The worst was going to Europe alone. I didn't do nearly as much as I would have with someone because I felt self conscious and a bit sad. Another bad trip was going to Mexico alone and ending up in a couples resort. Should have done Club Med instead. Lesson learned there. SO a bit of a mixed experience for me and I generally don't enjoy traveling alone because I prefer shared experiences and also am a bit self conscious I guess.
My first solo trip ever was a cruise, that was great, actually. Very easy to meet people, they sat me with about 5 other solo males so I ended up having people to hang with that week, which was nice.

Since, I've been on several solo trips and have had a great time on all.
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Old 06-17-2021, 11:27 AM
 
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The problem I have when I eat alone is that I eat too quickly. Even if I consciously try to slow down to savor the food, without conversation to slow the mouthfuls, dinner can go by rather fast.

To force a slowdown, I bring a book. I have to put my fork down to turn the pages. Automatic pacing.
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Old 06-18-2021, 08:16 AM
 
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About feeling self-conscious, a very good friend once gave me this seemingly brutal, but actually very freeing piece of advice (when I was obsessing over something similar): “No one cares about you. No one thinks about you. Everyone has their own problems. That is what they are thinking about.”
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Old 06-19-2021, 12:13 AM
 
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The only one who can teach you that is yourself. And you learn it by doing.


Rudyard Kipling wrote in a poem called The Winners:



"He travels the fastest who travels alone."


Think about it.
I had my own bathroom growing up.

When I was pretty little, my mother put a framed copy of Kipling's poem 'If' up on the wall.

It stayed there throughout my childhood.
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My first solo trip ever was a cruise, that was great, actually. Very easy to meet people, they sat me with about 5 other solo males so I ended up having people to hang with that week, which was nice.

Since, I've been on several solo trips and have had a great time on all.
A cruise or going to visit friends in another state are the only solo trips I would ever do again. I now have someone to travel with if it works out.
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