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You fail to understand how sex and relationships work in America then. If you are a low status male then the vast majority of attractive women in America are not interested in you. I have an athletic build, a great personality, and I am not attracted to overweight women...yet because I have no power or status and I'm not rich only overweight women are interested in me. Men need sex with women they are physically attracted to. If you want to change all of this...change how women view men in our country. Otherwise...if I can or have to pay to have sex with a woman that I think is hot, I will do it.
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You're definitely a more cynical person than I am.
However, I do generally agree with the notion that who one is able to date and form a relationship with generally depends on status. I've been married for 26 years and one thing I'm grateful for is not having to be part of the whole "dating scene". I didn't care for it when I was in high school/college and I suspect I'd care for it even less now. People are often unkind and even cruel at times. I know my wife didn't care for dating any more than I did.
I haven't seen statistics on the percentage of men vs. the percentage of women who favor legalizing prostitution. I suspect that a higher percentage of women oppose legalization than men do. I think for many women it just hits too close to home. We all see some marriages and some relationships out there that in some ways resemble prostitution. I think of the wealthy old millionaire who marries a woman 30 years younger than himself. We have phrases in our society like "gold digger" or "fortune hunter" to describe these kinds of people. (How many people out there are really sorry that Anna Nicole Smith is dead?)
Society over the years developed complicated rules for courtship and marriage (particularly among the higher socio-economic groups). I'm thinking of expensive church weddings, long engagements prior to marriage, and in the olden days, chaperoned dating. I suspect the real reason most of these rituals exist was to put some distance between the institution of marriage and sex which is simply paid for.
Until I had a daughter, I don't think prostitution bothered me. I think much of my opposition to prostitution is no greater than "I wouldn't want my daughter to do that". Of course, if that's the case isn't it hypocritical to think its ok if other men's daughters do that?
I admit that I have very ambivalent feelings about legalizing prostitution. One part of me says that if adults want to do it, than let them. Another part of me tells me that it will lead to more exploitation and more degradation of vulnerable people who are unable to protect themselves. Heaven knows, we certainly allow a lot of exploitation of vulnerable people in this country.
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