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Old 12-04-2009, 10:45 AM
 
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I recently caught an episode online. It was really, really sad. I have seen all the episodes and just want to cry for these people. I realize they are 'actors' and 'performers' but I just feel sad for them...each one looks so wounded...

The thing is, I never knew 'sex addiction' was usually due to abuse...it's really been an eye opener.
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Old 12-04-2009, 10:55 AM
 
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I recently caught an episode online. It was really, really sad. I have seen all the episodes and just want to cry for these people. I realize they are 'actors' and 'performers' but I just feel sad for them...each one looks so wounded...

The thing is, I never knew 'sex addiction' was usually due to abuse...it's really been an eye opener.
I have this show DVRed. I'm kind of mystified by it. I missed the first two episodes, I think. Did they just go out and have sex with practically everyone? I'm not trying to be funny, just asking.

I understand where they're going with it though. Trying to find out what happened in childhood to cause them to act this way. The women are beautiful, yet the one porn actress is kind of plain.

The professional surfer always looks like he has Chapstick on his lips (maybe it's our TV, maybe it's the lighting in the show?).

How does one recover from sex addiction, when we all have sex? Or do all these folks run out and have sex with many multiple partners? I guess I missed an important episode or two explaining this. Well, I'll catch them when they repeat.

I have Dr. Pinsky's new book on loan from the library and it is interesting and frightening to read: The Mirror Effect - How Celebrity Narcissism is Seducing America.
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Old 12-04-2009, 11:04 AM
 
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Most of them were abused as very young kids, and they seemed to suffer abuse through out childhood...the women were victims of every man so it seems. The same for that English guy (he was abused by his stepfather and it was very upsetting to hear.)

You can catch the episodes you missed online. (My internet provider has them, maybe your does, too).

As far as their addiction, I think it varies. They mainly seem to keep looping sexual thoughts, feelings and acting on them. The porn stars do it for a living...they have all buried their feelings and 'do not feel anything' because they have not dealt with the trauma they had (abuse).

Yes, they have sex with many people. They are not able to have fulfilling personal relationships due to their addiction.

It's also interesting to note a lot of them had drug and alcohol addictions as well..masking their pain.
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Old 12-04-2009, 11:09 AM
 
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Most of them were abused as very young kids, and they seemed to suffer abuse through out childhood...the women were victims of every man so it seems. The same for that English guy (he was abused by his stepfather and it was very upsetting to hear.)

You can catch the episodes you missed online. (My internet provider has them, maybe your does, too).

As far as their addiction, I think it varies. They mainly seem to keep looping sexual thoughts, feelings and acting on them. The porn stars do it for a living...they have all buried their feelings and 'do not feel anything' because they have not dealt with the trauma they had (abuse).

Yes, they have sex with many people. They are not able to have fulfilling personal relationships due to their addiction.

It's also interesting to note a lot of them had drug and alcohol addictions as well..masking their pain.
Yes, that's true - I was surprised to see Amber Smith there from Celebrity Rehab.

Thanks for the online show advice - I think I'm going to go there now and look! Thanks!
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Old 12-04-2009, 12:25 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Yes, that's true - I was surprised to see Amber Smith there from Celebrity Rehab.

Thanks for the online show advice - I think I'm going to go there now and look! Thanks!
yea. Amber went for Celebrity Rehab on to Sober House and now the sex addiction. She is one screwed up chick. OR likes the attention the show continues offering her.
I didn't "get" how sec could be considered an addiction either; like with the David Duchovny scandal. Hence my reason for watching this show. Hoped to learn something I knew nothing of. Plus--I love Dr. Drew!!!!!!!!!!
So I am learning some things.....
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Old 12-04-2009, 06:17 PM
 
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I have this show DVRed. I'm kind of mystified by it. I missed the first two episodes, I think. Did they just go out and have sex with practically everyone? I'm not trying to be funny, just asking.

I understand where they're going with it though. Trying to find out what happened in childhood to cause them to act this way. The women are beautiful, yet the one porn actress is kind of plain.

The professional surfer always looks like he has Chapstick on his lips (maybe it's our TV, maybe it's the lighting in the show?).

How does one recover from sex addiction, when we all have sex? Or do all these folks run out and have sex with many multiple partners? I guess I missed an important episode or two explaining this. Well, I'll catch them when they repeat.

I have Dr. Pinsky's new book on loan from the library and it is interesting and frightening to read: The Mirror Effect - How Celebrity Narcissism is Seducing America.
Thanks for the tip on the book. I'm going to check it out this weekend.
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Old 12-04-2009, 06:25 PM
 
Location: Inman Park (Atlanta, GA)
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As a former social worker, I applaud the courageous beings for showing the side of sex addiction. Dr. Drew's show is powerful to shed light on this addiction. I never had experience with clients/patients with sexual addiction so this is all new territory for me too.

I have personally loved watching the breakthroughs that they are having. There is nothing more rewarding for a mental health worker than to see someone work through their issues. It's all about being conscious and taking back control of your life from addictions or any other issues or barriers.

It should also be a reminder of how truly #$@@$* some people are and we should be thankful that we don't have such addictions/issues.
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Old 12-04-2009, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Florida
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As a former social worker, I applaud the courageous beings for showing the side of sex addiction. Dr. Drew's show is powerful to shed light on this addiction. I never had experience with clients/patients with sexual addiction so this is all new territory for me too.

I have personally loved watching the breakthroughs that they are having. There is nothing more rewarding for a mental health worker than to see someone work through their issues. It's all about being conscious and taking back control of your life from addictions or any other issues or barriers.

It should also be a reminder of how truly #$@@$* some people are and we should be thankful that we don't have such addictions/issues.
speak for yourself George





just kidding!!!
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Old 12-04-2009, 06:47 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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I was surprised the show wasn't sensationalized. I expected it to be a typical reality show. I'm enjoying watching it and find it interesting. A few of the patients were on Oprah ..Amber, the rock drummer, and the porn star girl. The rock drummer is apparently reconciled with his wife, the porn star girl is doing well, Amber is still working on her issues, and I don't know about the other "f***ed up" people.
It seems to me, after watching the first few episodes that, like anything else in life, the smart people are succeeding, and the dumb people are working on sabotaging themselves from the very beginning.
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Old 12-04-2009, 09:44 PM
 
Location: Orlando, Florida
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I'm not sure it takes a sexually abused background for someone to get in into their minds that the ONLY thing they have to bring into a relationship is sexual attributes. I think this can happen to many young people who are attractive growing up. If all your self worth becomes wrapped up into your sexuality....it is easy to become addicted to the attention you get from that.

I'm older now.... so I can truly say that at a younger age I really thought I was hot enough that I didn't have to offer anything other than sexuality to make someone else notice me. Then that turned into I didn't even HAVE anything AT ALL but sexuality to make someone else notice me. And the sexy part of me became nothing but an act...or a show. I flirted to make myself feel special...not because I thought the other person was special.

So, I avoid these shows only because I think many of these people have the same problem. It isn't that they want/need sex......it is because they really think the only worth they have is their sexuality. And that is a lie.
They want love, but don't think they are worthy of that love and admiration unless they put out sexually in some stellar way.
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