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Old 05-19-2013, 04:00 PM
Status: "Joy cometh in the morning" (set 16 days ago)
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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My mother recently passed and left behind a very large collection of jewelry. Much of this is not my taste, and my sisters and I have divided up, given away or are selling most of it.

One item which I really liked was her engagement ring. Its an antique platinum cluster ring which I remember admiring from childhood. This found its way to me, with most of the small diamonds taken out to be put in another ring, and the three largest one remaining in the center. I was going to re-set it with different stones, but I am hesitant to even spend the money on it.

My parents were both pretty awful people (there is a long thread on this) with my father indulging in criminal behavior and my mother enabling him. They had a very acrimonious divorce after which my mother took up (secretly) with a married man and tried to wrest him from his family for decades. I really have no desire to commemorate the union of both of these people.

But I really do like the ring and always have. I don't know how I feel about wearing it. I do think that jewerly, being close to the wearer, can retain or project some of that wearer's energy. At the very least, it would remind me of the wearer, but it is a ring with a long history which I am sure was owned before my parents. Maybe I am being silly. What would you do in this situation?

I'm not sure. It's tough because you love the ring, but you are not fans of your parents.

Metal does retain energy, negative and positive. Gemstones do as well. In wearing it you are commemorating the union of these two people. You will be reminded of them.

You might try to take it to a psychic that psychic that has a gift for psychometry. That is the practice of holding an object and telling you about the people who owned it before. I know you know about them, but if the psychic picks up anything disturbing - or feels that the ring has not retained energy, you might be able to make a decision.

There are also ways to clear metal and gems. You can Google this.

I am a psychic and intuitive. Here is my feeling. Jewelry is a very emotional item, often given at very happy and psychically charged times. If the item was purchased with money that was gotten by illegal or immoral means, you may be effected. I think that your mother was a very emotional woman, and also very calculating. I am not sure if she really loved anyone. She could be ruthless and frightening at times.

I also think that it will always remind you of your parents, and their acrimonious divorce. For that reason, I am not sure that you will be happy wearing this ring. If you did sell it, I would go to a high end appraiser. It's probably worth quite a bit, and I think that it might also be rather old - 1950s.

I do not think it is cursed. I do not believe that it is bad luck to try on another person's wedding ring. That's just superstition.

So why don't you do this? Wear the ring for a month and see how it makes you feel. Cleanse it spiritually, and also have it cleaned by a jeweler. At the same time have it appraised and insured. It's expensive. Perhaps more than you know. When you have all of this information and you have worn it for one month you will have a better idea if this is an item that you want to keep close - or not.

Best of luck and let me know what you have decided.

~ Sheena
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Old 05-19-2013, 05:26 PM
 
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I wear my mothers 2 1/2 carat solitaire in place of my own engagement ring, as she wished for me to do. When people fawn over it, I tell them it was my mothers and she left it to me , and tell them the story behind it. My parents divorced after 23 years and remarried 20 years later. My father asked me to help him pick out her new ring when he decided to take the chance and ask her to marry him again. The ring he bought was the one she and I always admired in the window when we went shopping and she recognized it straightaway! They had only been married two years when she died of ovarian cancer. Nobody bats an eye, but most of them do wipe an eye.
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Old 06-06-2013, 12:54 PM
 
Location: NW Penna.
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But I really do like the ring and always have. I don't know how I feel about wearing it. I do think that jewerly, being close to the wearer, can retain or project some of that wearer's energy. At the very least, it would remind me of the wearer, but it is a ring with a long history which I am sure was owned before my parents. Maybe I am being silly. What would you do in this situation?

I'd get the stones replaced and I would wear the ring, if it's a stunner. I probably would not give a complete history of it or my family. "It was willed to me" is a pretty good truthful answer for Where did you get that.

I don't believe that objects retain anything other than their actual cash value, lol. If that were true, my home would be a complete non-stop battle zone and hub of paranormal activity. But it's not. I live in a house built in the 1800s, my furniture is a mix of things inherited or purchased from deceased relatives and other antique and vintage furniture bought from used furniture stores, tag sales, thrift shops, and yard sales. Or it was left behind by previous occupants. I have jewelry that's from relatives, ebay, and pawn shops.

Stuff only has "energy" if you yourself project that onto it. And having lived in a "haunted house," even that kind of stuff calms itself back down if it gets no reaction. Keep your imagination in check, and your money in your wallet. I don't think there's a need for psychics or cleansings. If "something" bothers you, just tell it to move on and go bother someone else.

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Old 06-13-2013, 11:00 PM
 
Location: California
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I buy too much used stuff on ebay, including jewelry, to worry about such things.
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Old 06-13-2013, 11:49 PM
 
Location: earth?
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From a Feng Shui standpoint, it would be a very bad idea to wear an engagement ring of someone who had a terrible marriage, who you also had problems with. To me, it would not be worth it no matter how "pretty" the ring is.
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Old 07-03-2013, 11:25 PM
 
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I wear my mothers 2 1/2 carat solitaire in place of my own engagement ring, as she wished for me to do. When people fawn over it, I tell them it was my mothers and she left it to me , and tell them the story behind it. My parents divorced after 23 years and remarried 20 years later. My father asked me to help him pick out her new ring when he decided to take the chance and ask her to marry him again. The ring he bought was the one she and I always admired in the window when we went shopping and she recognized it straightaway! They had only been married two years when she died of ovarian cancer. Nobody bats an eye, but most of them do wipe an eye.
What a neat story.
My parents gave me my mom's engagement ring. I did wear it for a long time until I got engaged myself. I still have it to this day in a safe place.
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Old 07-18-2013, 10:54 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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From a Feng Shui standpoint, it would be a very bad idea to wear an engagement ring of someone who had a terrible marriage, who you also had problems with. To me, it would not be worth it no matter how "pretty" the ring is.
Oh boy, you just made me paranoid. Last night my fiance gave me my engagement ring. He used my grandmother's diamond & had a new ring made with the diamond. I was so happy because I loved my grandmother very much and I do miss her but...I'm just remembering she had an unhappy marriage (my grandfather was an alcoholic & died very young because of it).
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