Did u know u can feel whatever u want?

[charlygal]

How is this an "unexplained mystery" or "paranormal?"

What you're talking about it true, but is not that new or amazing. It's basic psychology.

We change our minds, we change the way we experience the world.

Unfortunately, for most people, they choose to look outside of themselves and find conflict instead of looking within.

[Mightyqueen801]

Originally Posted by Tallysmom

I read another board where people talk about family and emotions. A lot of the time, people are seeking magic words to make the other person treat them properly. There are no magic words. Sounds like you learned that early, Owl.

I have learned from there how to see a person who is manipulative, and how to treat them so they don't get into your head. I got one now where I work, and I practice in my head what to do and what to say. It's working (although I do feel like this means she's in my head) and I feel as though I'm in more control and she's losing hers.

And some of us learned that via therapy after many years of walking into the wall. I wasted so much time trying to figuring out the "right" thing to say to my now-ex-husband or how to say it the "right" way so that I could get through to him and make him change his ways. It was grandiosity to think that I had some sort of special ability--if I could just figure it out--to make a person be different from what he is.

We are long divorced, but we have a relationship because we are parents to an adult daughter. We get along pretty well, partly because now I don't expect him to be anything other than what he is.

[OwlKaMyst]

We get along pretty well, partly because now I don't expect him to be anything other than what he is.

I think that this is where many people run into trouble, especially women.
Nothing anyone does will change another person. The extent of our 'ability' is to only convey our thoughts, perspective and feelings about something. We can also express what we would like to happen, what we wish we could experience. However, when hopes and wishes become expectations in the hands of another person, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment.
We can say the 'right thing the right way' until we turn blue- it won't do anything to change someone who is not willing to change.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by charlygal

How is this an "unexplained mystery" or "paranormal?"

What you're talking about it true, but is not that new or amazing. It's basic psychology.

We change our minds, we change the way we experience the world.

Unfortunately, for most people, they choose to look outside of themselves and find conflict instead of looking within.

Yes, this shoulda/coulda been in psychology.

[OwlKaMyst]

Coulda- but for many the concept of being the master of ones emotions and thoughts is an 'unexplained mystery'.
Or even how to accomplsh it is a mystery for many.