My Dad with dementia just passed. Mental state in the afterlife?

[GGG2020]

Originally Posted by elliedeee

death isn't final and you will see him again when the time is right

That's what I came here to say. I'm not going to share my experience because I truly don't know if I'm imagining it, but I have a very strong suspicion that sometimes people meet again, even after death separates them.

[atinp]

I am very saddend to read this.... Your dad is now free of all pain and sorrow......

I am so sorry for your loss

[Bette]

Originally Posted by witsendman

Thank you for the replies.

Due to his dementia, he probably thinks we deserted him since he was unaware of virus restrictions that prevent visitations.

I hope he understands now since the guilt is heavy.

Had I known he was this close to death, I would not have cancelled hospice just 10 hours before his passing. With a hospice order I could have visited him.

I did not want him to suffocate at home if a hospice nurse was not there at the moment since he needed periodic suction of fluid.

It's been a strange few months and even healthier patients put in hospitals and could not see their familites were most likely confused.

It sounds like you showed your dad you loved him during your lifetime.

There is a Grief and Mourning Section here on C-D. They are kind and wonderful people that respond.

[Tylerrose]

I have visited with deceased loved ones in extremely vivid, realistic dreams.

Around 2003-4, I lived in the basement of a home where I helped the husband
of a woman suffering dementia. I had lived there and helped her for well over
a year, but she never really understood why I was there and who I was. She
was frequently extremely upset with me, yet I still remained very respectful
of her and understood why she didn't like having me around all the time.

She clung to life for a week at home before she finally passed. The night
before her morning funeral service at the church, I dreamed I walked into a large
gathering of people in a church hall. I look across the room, and lock eyes
with her. I'm just shocked, so I rapidly walk toward her while saying, "Hi
Susan, what are you doing here you are supposed to be......" Before I can
say "Dead", Sue turns opaque and then vanishes. I wake up with a bolt.

Susan's pupils locked with mine, just as any two people who are alive do.
Susan was all dressed up in the dream, her hair was coiffed, her nails were
painted and the oddest thing was her eyeglasses. I took off and placed her
eyeglasses on her every morning and evening. These eyeglasses she
wore in the dream were different. They were fancy, to match her outfit.

I could easily tell in my dream that Susan no longer had dementia. She
appeared to be level headed and competent. Her husband told me she
loved to dress up and have her hair and nails done styled to the nines
before she was diagnosed with dementia, when I told him and her family
about the dream.

[rstevens62]

I cannot imagine how frightening it must be for the person suffering with dementia!


Just imagine if you woke up one day and didnt recognize anyone or anything, had no idea where you were at, who you were, etc?!!

[SkyLark2019]

Originally Posted by Tylerrose

I have visited with deceased loved ones in extremely vivid, realistic dreams.

Around 2003-4, I lived in the basement of a home where I helped the husband
of a woman suffering dementia. I had lived there and helped her for well over
a year, but she never really understood why I was there and who I was. She
was frequently extremely upset with me, yet I still remained very respectful
of her and understood why she didn't like having me around all the time.

She clung to life for a week at home before she finally passed. The night
before her morning funeral service at the church, I dreamed I walked into a large
gathering of people in a church hall. I look across the room, and lock eyes
with her. I'm just shocked, so I rapidly walk toward her while saying, "Hi
Susan, what are you doing here you are supposed to be......" Before I can
say "Dead", Sue turns opaque and then vanishes. I wake up with a bolt.

Susan's pupils locked with mine, just as any two people who are alive do.
Susan was all dressed up in the dream, her hair was coiffed, her nails were
painted and the oddest thing was her eyeglasses. I took off and placed her
eyeglasses on her every morning and evening. These eyeglasses she
wore in the dream were different. They were fancy, to match her outfit.

I could easily tell in my dream that Susan no longer had dementia. She
appeared to be level headed and competent. Her husband told me she
loved to dress up and have her hair and nails done styled to the nines
before she was diagnosed with dementia, when I told him and her family
about the dream.

This reminded me, I had a similar dream about a woman with cancer that I cared for in the mid-2000s. When I knew her she was not lucid due to the cancer spreading and her medications.

She was very direct in the dream. It was interesting and I have never forgotten it.

[Spottednikes]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad, but his soul does go on, retains the memories and attachments from here, and is restored to health.
Get the books from George Anderson "We Do Not Die", "We Are Not Forgotten", and "Lessons from the light".
He also has a facebook page and does live chat session once a month answering questions.
He's the worlds most tested medium.
I did a phone session with him last year, and he was amazing. Told me things that he couldnt have known unless he was communicating with deceased relatives and friends.