Child sex abuse (attorney, middle school, professionals)

[Karenvquiroga]

Hello everyone I’m a new member here! I’m looking for advice on what to do. My 10 year old son was molesting his 5 year old sister. Child protective services are involved now. They said he has to be separated from her. He is staying at my mothers house. CPS says they both have to go to therapy. I was wondering has anyone gone through this before? The therapist has to release him before he can come back to my home. Does anyone know how long therapy will be?

[bufflove]

Originally Posted by Karenvquiroga

Hello everyone I’m a new member here! I’m looking for advice on what to do. My 10 year old son was molesting his 5 year old sister. Child protective services are involved now. They said he has to be separated from her. He is staying at my mothers house. CPS says they both have to go to therapy. I was wondering has anyone gone through this before? The therapist has to release him before he can come back to my home. Does anyone know how long therapy will be?

I sincerely hope this is just trolling, but you're in the wrong forum. And speak with a family law attorney instead of random people on the internet.

[Jalux]

bufflove, show some empathy for others that may not be as equipped as you are in certain subject matters. Also, I think talking to the therapist about how long therapy will be makes more sense than any in response to the question "Does anyone know how long therapy will be?" I suspect, however, that the therapist will give a noncommital answer that will be along the lines of "It depends on the progress made with your son."

[lookingbutnotlost]

Originally Posted by Karenvquiroga

Hello everyone I’m a new member here! I’m looking for advice on what to do. My 10 year old son was molesting his 5 year old sister. Child protective services are involved now. They said he has to be separated from her. He is staying at my mothers house. CPS says they both have to go to therapy. I was wondering has anyone gone through this before? The therapist has to release him before he can come back to my home. Does anyone know how long therapy will be?

At 10 years old have you considered that your son himself may have been abused?

[lvmensch]

Originally Posted by lookingbutnotlost

At 10 years old have you considered that your son himself may have been abused?

You get into the classical case of playing doctor. We did in the 10,11,12 year old age group. Do not remember anyone using a younger kid but it could certainly happen. Everyone was very curious about how the other gender was put together.

We all outgrew it in time with no great damage. Many remained friends through high school where all that got much more interesting.

I would think OP should simply cooperate with the therapist and try to help any way possible. Our thing never got past a couple of parents talking and putting the fear into young minds. CPS adds another dimension.

[lookingbutnotlost]

Originally Posted by lvmensch

You get into the classical case of playing doctor. We did in the 10,11,12 year old age group. Do not remember anyone using a younger kid but it could certainly happen. Everyone was very curious about how the other gender was put together.

We all outgrew it in time with no great damage. Many remained friends through high school where all that got much more interesting.

I would think OP should simply cooperate with the therapist and try to help any way possible. Our thing never got past a couple of parents talking and putting the fear into young minds. CPS adds another dimension.

What are you talking about? Professionals know the difference between playing games and abuse. Stop trying to dismiss a real issue with your folksy stories about your youth.

[lvmensch]

Originally Posted by lookingbutnotlost

What are you talking about? Professionals know the difference between playing games and abuse. Stop trying to dismiss a real issue with your folksy stories about your youth.

Playing doctor easily crossed over into sexual abuse. No intercourse but about everything else. The outcome however was contained within the families involved.

[westsideboy]

Originally Posted by lvmensch

You get into the classical case of playing doctor. We did in the 10,11,12 year old age group. Do not remember anyone using a younger kid but it could certainly happen. Everyone was very curious about how the other gender was put together.

We all outgrew it in time with no great damage. Many remained friends through high school where all that got much more interesting.

I would think OP should simply cooperate with the therapist and try to help any way possible. Our thing never got past a couple of parents talking and putting the fear into young minds. CPS adds another dimension.

There in is probably your problem. Exploration among same age kids may or may not be abuse. The difference between a 10 year old and a 5 year old is significant not just in years, but experience, ability to separate fantasy and reality, knowledge of human reproductive biology, emotional maturity, etc.

Or to put it another way, a 10 year old is pretty close to finding their first "boyfriend/girlfriend" if they haven't already, and are on the way to Middle School. A 5 year old has been out of diapers for 2 years, and may not even be in Kindergarten yet depending on what month they were born.