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The main reason for this thread is because I see so many instances where women are wanting to pick their own rings. I understand the thought process. We want to love the ring we will be wearing daily...but shouldn't it be the man's vision of what that ring should be?
Plus, it takes away the romance and the surprise of the proposal if she knows it's coming.
Thoughts?
The main reason for this thread is because I see so many instances where women are wanting to pick their own rings. I understand the thought process. We want to love the ring we will be wearing daily...but shouldn't it be the man's vision of what that ring should be?
Plus, it takes away the romance and the surprise of the proposal if she knows it's coming. Thoughts?
Yes the ring should be the man's vision....chosen from several options I pre-picked.
So how did that work out? Did he propose sans ring and then you went shopping together?
I had to answer your question hypothetically . Anyways, I am way too anal retentive w/ that type of stuff to just let him free-for-all with a ring I'd have to wear for the next several decades. No way.
Some women can be quite picky when it comes to their man spending more than 3 months of his salary for her ring, yet, those same women are not willing to spend a dime on their man if ever.
I think it depends on the couple. I know that all the guys that I was serious with wanted to know my taste in rings so that I would be happy with the ring that I was supposed to wear for the rest of my life! My husband got my input but I didn't pick my ring out. I know women that picked their rings out and I know women that were surprised. One of my friends picked her ring out with her fiancee and they got matching rings at the same time. Some men want to surprise their girlfriends and some men aren't as confident in knowing their girlfriends' taste in jewelry.
What I want to know is why anyone would be dumb enough to spend 3 months' salary on a wedding ring. Is he only bringing home 1500 a month or something?
You borrow a ring from the jeweler. A little smaller than you are willing to spend and propose with that ring. Then the two of you go to the jeweler and get a better ring. And, after she picks out the shape and the setting, the size and clarity should be good enough for her sisters to lose their lunch over it. That's the test. And if she doesn't have any sisters, its about her girlfriends. Its not about you or your salary. The three months salary thing is just to get you over the sticker shock so you are thinking $10,000 or $20,000 not $750. Trust me on this.
What I want to know is why anyone would be dumb enough to spend 3 months' salary on a wedding ring. Is he only bringing home 1500 a month or something?
Well - originally it was 2 months - not 3 months - and this started in the 1940's or so. You could also buy a house for 20K back then. Nowadays, I don't think it really matters. I think people just do what they are comfortable with. But sometimes, when someone is really in love with someone - they don't mind spending a bit of money on something that the other person is supposed to wear for the rest of their life. My husband didn't spend 2 months salary on me - I wouldn't have wanted him to. I would have been terrified of wearing that much money on my hand. But what he spent - he spent gladly because he loves me.
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Yes the ring should be the man's vision....chosen from several options I pre-picked.
. Anyways, I am way too anal retentive w/ that type of stuff to just let him free-for-all with a ring I'd have to wear for the next several decades. No way.
